D&C Frustrated and Scared

cchenal07

I had my 2nd ultrasound yesterday and found out my baby stopped developing soon after my 1st at 6 weeks. It was heartbreaking. We have a healthy 5 yr old and wanted a sibling for him badly. I just feel hurt and confused and my husband has no clue how to help. My D&C is scheduled for Monday but I started spotting and cramping today and I am scared to miscarry at home. I have no clue what to expect. I wanted to work tomorrow to keep my mind off things but now I don't know if I could handle it starting there. I feel like I failed and never want to feel this way again.

Toughchick823

Sorry for your loss. I am at the tail end of my bleeding. I have done it at home. I did go to the emergency room when it all first started because I was cramping so bad. They sent me home with some pain meds to help. The cramps did get pretty bad. The bleeding too but more when I actually went to the bathroom. My fiancé was amazing. Just rubbed my back or stroked my head. I cried a ton between the pain and just being upset. From my experience it wasn't that horrifying. Still never wanna do it again but who would. Hope this helps. Hang in there.

4N6s

I'm so sorry for your life. It sucks and it's not fair.
You can do it. Stay strong.

cchenal07

Thank you ladies. I am pretty sure I miscarried naturally. Last night I had severe cramps and passed a lot of clots. Its been like a heavy uncomfortable period since. They took blood yesterday and will tomorrow. I am hoping this means no D&c Monday. I pray this means my body is preparing for a healthy pregnancy next try. Our parents didn't know we were trying. We wonder if we should tell them what happened?