My husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years. It is a second marriage for both of us. I have 3 daughters from my previous marriage; my husband has no children of his own. We always planned to have children together, but the year after we were married I went through menopause way too early - age 43. It has been difficult for me to even talk about this until now. I go back and forth with the idea of adopting for lots of reasons. I really wanted more children - I have wanted it for a long time, but since menopause took that away I wonder if it is the right thing. I wonder if I will have the energy I need. I wonder if our finances will be ok. I am enjoying a little freedom since my other children are older now, so I wonder if I should just accept that child bearing if over and move on with life. When ever I think about abandoning the idea of adopting, I feel a terrible loss, though. I was not ready to be finished having children. I'm not sure what my feelings are. This is a very confusing time.