Twins - I Need Help!

lisalynnmama

Does anyone else out there SAH with their twins and feel like they are drowning on a daily basis? My girls are 5 months old now and I was hoping it would get slightly easier as they got away from the newborn stage. One of my girls has reflux and one of my girls is a terrible teether and I find myself just barely making it through the day with my sanity. Having a 3.5 year old is just another piece of the stress puzzle. -sigh-

Not looking for advice - just commiseration. Tell me I am not the only one!

MrsCaseyK

My kids are 20 months and I feel like the last two or three months I've been able to get my head on straight. We dealt with a lot though. Moving into a house we'd been building for three years just two weeks before they were born, recovering from 15 weeks of strict bedrest (I was exhausted to simply walk around), lead poisoning, food allergies, attachment parenting, and more. You can do it! Yes I've been there and soon it will be a long gone memory you wish you could bring back.

WillyBean

You're not, definitely not. We are about a month ahead of you and I feel like it's starting to get easier in some ways, but more difficult in others. We don't have an older child though, so you're a superhero in my book.

MrsP419

I understand!  I have a 5 year old, a 3 year old, and my twins are 9 months.  I also stay at home, and it has been a long winter of being stuck in the house due to sickness or snow.  I think every stage is different, not necessarily easier or harder.  I will say that I think it got more fun around 5 months due to personalities coming out and my girls starting to interact more with each other :-).  And 3 year olds are no joke!  There were days when mine was harder than my other three combined.

hayleydeee

You're not the only one! My kids are older now, but their age differences are the same as yours. I can't tell you exactly when everything started to get better (because that time is still such a blur), but I can say that life did improve! I do remember that things changed slowly, it wasn't overnight. Gradually I discovered that I was able to get through the day, and get the necessities done. Then a little while after that I noticed that I was able to get everything done and even add in something extra, like a trip to the park. That's the stage I'm still in now.

It's still hard of course, but it's a different kind of tough, and I am better at adapting now. You'll get there!

Ylvelill

No idea how you super moms do it. My twins keep me so busy and they are all I got. Hang in there, we are at 9 months and for me at least it has gotten easier over the last 2 months as they started to crawl and talk to each other.

clnelson8

I completely understand. My twins are now 18mo and I feel that they started to become a bit easier to handle around the 6 month mark. They became more interested in each other and started to drag themselves around, I found as they gained independence I was less bagged. I found no difficulty letting them become independent because it freed me up to do other things. I'm not gonna say it becomes easier cause in my mind it doesn't. I just have to say the challenges are different.

spoonleg

Mine are 3 months and it's so hard. All 3 of us cry a lot. You're not alone!

BabyKsMommy

My twins are 6 months old and I also have a 3.5 yr old. I have found to keep my sanity I need to leave the house. It can be as simple as a trip to the park or target, just something.

My 3.5yr old was sick this week and I was going crazy being in the house all day. It's really hard and draining.

I also go to the gym daily and drop my kids off at the daycare. It's so nice to get a break and work on myself plus I get out of the house. Some days it's a struggle to get there but it's so worth it. I hope you find something that helps you keep sane.

lisalynnmama

Thanks everyone! It is nice to know I am not alone. My girls are six months old today and I feel like I am finally getting a grasp on my days. It is nice to have this little community to lean on.

diz1313

I have 20week twins and a 4 year old. I often feel like I am totally failing at being a decent mom. I feel there isn't enough of me to go around. The babies just want to be held and loved. The four year old wants to play. There is also the laundry, dishes, cooking, and cleaning that somehow needs to happen in there too. I get so overwhelmed that I don't want to do any of it and I just do nothing and then EVERYONE is miserable. But then, sometimes everything goes awesomely and things are wonderful.
I do often wish I could be one of those lucky people who could afford a helper or something.... More so I wish I could get my footing and figure out how this dance is supposed to go.