Hi! My husband and I have been together for five years, married for two in June. We are both still young (he is 25 and I am 23), but we have decided we are ready to start trying to expand our family of two in June or July. Despite our young age we are very financially stable and emotionally we know we are ready to support a child (and excited to!).
But despite the fact that we are ready and have been discussing this for quite some time... I still feel nervous. Can anyone else relate?
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We just bought a house in November and have no debt except the house and one pickup. He owns his own business and I am a school teacher. We are thinking about starting TTC in the next 2-3 months.
Even though we are ready, it is scary! I think if you aren't nervous, you aren't thinking it through completely. It's a huge decision and completely normal to be nervous about this monumental decision!
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I think it is completely normal to feel nervous. Having a baby, especially the first time, can have a wide range of emotions. I'm sure you've heard few friends or family members say that no one is ever truly "ready" to have a baby. While it sounds cliche, I found it to be true, having my first in 2012. The best thing to do is embrace the emotions and have constant discussions about your feelings with your husband and any other close friend or family member you plan on sharing this with, if you choose to do so.
Good luck! And don't fret!
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His biggest fear right now is how to divide his time between work, coaching, his marriage, and a baby. My biggest fear is a change in our finances. H and I are financially prepared but the majority of our income we use for extra saving will go towards a baby instead. We have budgeted and prepared for it but I still worry.
I believe it would be odd for us not to have at least one major concern. Having a baby changes everything. H and I are scared but we are also excited and deep down believe that we are ready. Good luck!
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Good luck!
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Anyway, I got a job offer that I accepted, so we postponed TTC back to our original timeline. I didn't want to be pregnant with a new job. But I was actually relieved to push it off one more year, because after the initial "OMG we're doing this!! Eeeee" wore off, the realization if "OMG.....we are really doing this" set in, and I began to freak out. I was laying in bed one night and thought "where will I put a high chair in my kitchen?" I couldn't imagine having a high chair or other baby things....but now.....now I am counting down the days until August when we will start TTC. I am so excited and think about babies constantly. Now I can't wait to put a high chair in my kitchen! Haha! But I do still feel a little nervous, because it is a big change! I think it is totally normal to feel nervous or scared or have doubts, but I think that just means you already care so much for your future child. You'll be a great parent!