Babies on the Brain

New here! Anyone else experienced this...

Hi!  My husband and I have been together for five years, married for two in June.  We are both still young (he is 25 and I am 23), but we have decided we are ready to start trying to expand our family of two in June or July.  Despite our young age we are very financially stable and emotionally we know we are ready to support a child (and excited to!). 

But despite the fact that we are ready and have been discussing this for quite some time... I still feel nervous.  Can anyone else relate?  

Re: New here! Anyone else experienced this...

  • paigeedpaigeed member
    edited March 2015
    I can relate completely! DH and I have been together 6 years, married for 2 in June. I am 24, almost 25 DH is 26, almost 27.

    We just bought a house in November and have no debt except the house and one pickup. He owns his own business and I am a school teacher. We are thinking about starting TTC in the next 2-3 months.

    Even though we are ready, it is scary! I think if you aren't nervous, you aren't thinking it through completely. It's a huge decision and completely normal to be nervous about this monumental decision!
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  • I think it is completely normal to feel nervous.  Having a baby, especially the first time, can have a wide range of emotions.  I'm sure you've heard few friends or family members say that no one is ever truly "ready" to have a baby.  While it sounds cliche, I found it to be true, having my first in 2012.  The best thing to do is embrace the emotions and have constant discussions about your feelings with your husband and any other close friend or family member you plan on sharing this with, if you choose to do so.

    Good luck!  And don't fret! 

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  • H is 26 and I am 23. We will be TTC in May.

    His biggest fear right now is how to divide his time between work, coaching, his marriage, and a baby. My biggest fear is a change in our finances. H and I are financially prepared but the majority of our income we use for extra saving will go towards a baby instead. We have budgeted and prepared for it but I still worry.

    I believe it would be odd for us not to have at least one major concern. Having a baby changes everything. H and I are scared but we are also excited and deep down believe that we are ready. Good luck!
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  • Thanks so much for the support!  I am thankful that someone can relate.
  • I can totally relate. DH and I are both 27 and will begin TTC in June. By then, we will have been married two years and in the home we purchased for one. I'm terrified about finances. We both have student loans and the mortgage to the house. We love comfortably and never worry about how to pay the bills, but I'm very worried on how a baby will hit our finances, let alone our adult time. At the end of the day, though, I know we'll be ready for it and the timing will be right regardless.
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  • I'm right there with you! I'm not sure many things could change your entire life as much as having a baby. It's exciting but terrifying at the same time. 
    As far as the finances, most of my friends said that the cost is somewhat absorbed because of the activities you forgo after you have a child (less going out to dinner, movies, concerts, etc.). I think it's also good to remember that babies don't NEED tons of stuff, and much of those toys/gadgets, etc. are optional.

    It's a good thing pregnancy takes 9 months--hopefully enough time for us all to adjust to the idea :)
  • Ditto!!! I had my preconception appointment today and I started crying at the thought of carrying a little human.  Once my midwife hugged me and made me laugh I felt so much better.  She also assured me it wouldn't be the first time I cried in front of her. :) Good luck to you!! 


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  • 4N6s4N6s member
    I think being nervous is a natural feeling at any age :)
    Good luck!
  • I am 28 and my husband is 32 (we've been married for 3 years and together for 5 years) and I STILL am nervous as heck to have children!  I suffer from chronic anxiety anyways, but the thought of having children/being pregnant makes me TERRIFIED!  Totally normal and I can totally relate.  I wish you the best of luck!  :)
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  • There is never a perfect time and you will ALWAYS be anxious about the huge life change and the responsibility. I always tell myself that MANY people have done it with much less than we have. Focus on all the wonderful things you and your spouse have to offer your future family. =-)

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  • I agree it can be nerve racking. I am 25, turning 26 in May and my husband is 26, turning 27 in November. We got married in Oct 2014, so not long ago but we keep talking about expanding our family. I go see my doctor next month for a my yearly checkup anyways and then I'm going to talk to her about getting off the pill so I can get my body ready for TTT, hopefully sometime this summer. The only thing especially my husband worries about is finances, we have a cushion but we do have a mortgage and we have a puppy. I think we will be okay, also once I get pregnant we still have 9 months to get some extra money too. My husband talks about it a lot too expanding our family which is nice to hear that he is on board because he always said he wanted to wait but I wanted to be a "younger" mom especially if I am blessed with more than one child I wanted to be on the younger side. We are excited too to start trying soon and I think there is no right time to do anything really, if a baby is what you want then I say go for it. If you get nervous or have so many emotions, your husband is there to help and be your best friend. You two can go through this together, ups and downs are part of life. You can always make money, can't always have a child :) That's how I'm thinking right now, others do it without a ton of money and money is not everything, babies need your love and care more than anything.
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  • I feel the same way, we'll be married for 3 years in June and have been together since high school, I'm nervous about actually being pregnant( I freak out about everything) but we've talked about it at length and know we're ready!  Good Luck!
  • Hi, 
    I can totally relate! This is a great way to sort of introduce myself since I am new here. I just turned 23 yesterday and my DH is 26. We have been married for over a year and a half and in July we are both graduating with our bachelors degrees! Finally!lol. Anyways, we decided that we wanted to wait to TTC until I was done with school and he got a job so we could save up money before he started grad school. I am so excited for when it happens but I am also kind of nervous since I have never gone through it before. My mom said she had terrible morning sickness with me and I was her first. I do awfully when I feel nauseated all day haha. I also tend to way over think all the different options for labor and delivery and have friends and family that suggest how I should do it. It can be overwhelming but at least we have time since we haven't had a BFP yet. Good luck to you guys!
  • I am crazy nervous!  I am 28 and husband will be 29 next week.  We have been talking about having kids for a while...And we would like it to happen by the time we are both 30.  But, I am terrified.  I am terrified of change. I am terrified of being a bad mom.  I am terrified of the baby getting in the way of what I consider to be "our perfect relationship".  What if it ruins everything?  What's going to happen to my body!! AHHHH! So many things..So you are definitely not alone!
  • I can relate! My husband and I were planning on TTC last Fall, and it was a spur of the moment decision. We had been talking about it for a long time and wanted to wait till we were both 30 (we turned 29 last year) but after talking about it we decided to get started a year earlier. We weren't waiting for anything, 30 was just the magic number we originally chose.
    Anyway, I got a job offer that I accepted, so we postponed TTC back to our original timeline. I didn't want to be pregnant with a new job. But I was actually relieved to push it off one more year, because after the initial "OMG we're doing this!! Eeeee" wore off, the realization if "OMG.....we are really doing this" set in, and I began to freak out. I was laying in bed one night and thought "where will I put a high chair in my kitchen?" I couldn't imagine having a high chair or other baby things....but I am counting down the days until August when we will start TTC. I am so excited and think about babies constantly. Now I can't wait to put a high chair in my kitchen! Haha! But I do still feel a little nervous, because it is a big change! I think it is totally normal to feel nervous or scared or have doubts, but I think that just means you already care so much for your future child. You'll be a great parent! :)
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