21, Pregnant, & Single :(

quonn58

This is my first child and I'm only 6 weeks along. My child's father and I aren't together anymore due to cheating and I doubt if we'll ever work it out. I have a supportive family but I'm still terrified. I've always wanted that dream of having a family and now I have to face the reality that, that ship has sailed. I'm thinking of starting college classes again to get my degree in Early Childhood Education but that will cause me to have to quit my full-time job. Any advice? I'm open to any suggestions ladies. It will be greatly appreciated!

20thirteen

Well... I mean, your dream of having a family... technically, that's what you're getting, just a different kind of family.  There are tons of families out there that have one parent.  Think of it like that.

Have you thought of doing college while working?  Like take night classes?  That would work best, especially since you're going to need to start saving.  Whatever number you have in your mind of how much a baby costs, times that number by 3.  Babies are way more expensive than a lot of people are prepared for.  I would do the continuing education thing, but I'd also try to keep myself employed.

arhfirst92

You can definitely still have the family you wanted one day, but with the right guy, who will love you and your child so much.
Just keep focusing on your goals for school to make sure you can provide the best life for your baby! And honestly once you have the baby, you'll love him/her so much and a guy won't even matter to you. At least not for a long time. There is nothing wrong with wanting a father figure for your child. But until that is happening, the best you can do is work towards your goals and just love love love that baby!
You'll be a wonderful mom. And best of luck in school!

ashleyl1990

I'm in the same position single in pregnant I'm not working but a fulltime student and is due in a few weeks most colleges offer night classes get ur employer to work with u it's possible and I'm also major in early childhood education n I finish with my associates in December and I also have a 5 year old

MommyandBryce

I am 26 years old, 37 weeks pregnant, and am not with the father of my baby. I work full-time and am a full time graduate student. There are so many women who get pregnant by someone who is not ready for a baby OR to be in a relationship. There are plenty of other ways to get support from friends and family. I would rather not be in a relationship than be in one that is not a good model for my son. I want him to be around healthy relationships and to learn how to appropriately treat women.

kiam032

There is always a way to reach your goal. I have a BA but I'm wanting to go back to school to change my career. My goal is night classes/online. I will have to go to school full time in hopes of any kind of aid. I believe in you!! You can do anything if you push hard. You'll be tired but the end result pays off.

Soon as I give birth and off of (non paid) maternity leave, I am going back to school. goodluck. Let me know how it goes. I'll keep you updated as well.

lubaTO

I think everyone has said it - you will have a family and one day hopefully find a man who is truly a good partner. I am also single and 19 weeks along and I let myself think "the ship has sailed" but we have to remind ourselves that it isn't true. You can be a great single parents and it's OK! 

Keep your focus on your goals and your baby. Take is one day at a time. You are so young with so much ahead of you. You can achieve anything you wanted and will have a little side-kick by your side to help you and inspire you

I know it's hard to be single right now but sooo many marriages fall apart - it isn't uncommon anymore. it's a part of life.... We just have to be strong and not let the stigma get to us!

Hugs!