A shared babyshower

Melindafuller34 · March 2015

So my friend ask if she could have her friend & myself a baby shower. **Together** I only meet her friend one time at her party and she seemed pretty nice. My SO is weirded out by the fact two women having a shower together he says he never heard of that & it would look strange especially if I don't know the other pregnant women that well. What do yall think should I tell my friend don't worry about the shower or should I just go with it?? And besides no one else offered to throw me a shower so I don't know if I was gonna have a shower or not. O and another thing me and her friend are due on the same day. that is why she offered to do this.

laurendutch · March 2015

I would decline because it might put your guests in an awkward position...will they have to bring gifts for the two of you?

KaLikeAWind · March 2015

Ooh that's tough. Cause am I picking up the implication that you will probably not get a shower unless it's this shared shower? As in, do it this way or don't get one at all? If that's the case then I would also consider if the guests were all mutual friends of you and this other person. If the guests are all pals of yours and you'll have a good time hanging out with them regardless, it may not be too bad. But if half of the guests don't know you I would find that very awkward.

Mommaswizz · March 2015

Eh i would definitely not want a shared shower with a borderline stranger. Do you and the other woman share the same group of friends? If you don't run in similar circles, I would politely decline. It's a thoughtful gesture but it sounds like it might turn out very awkwardly.

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ElRuby · March 2015

mommaswizz said:
Eh i would definitely not want a shared shower with a borderline stranger. Do you and the other woman share the same group of friends? If you don't run in similar circles, I would politely decline. It's a thoughtful gesture but it sounds like it might turn out very awkwardly.

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I agree that it is important to know if you share friends. If not, it would be awkward for you and inconvenient for guests to figure out if they should buy presents for both.

MamaBish · March 2015

I would not want that. Being that you barely know this other girl and the fact that it puts your guests in an odd situation, I would politely decline. As a guest, I would be confused. I wouldn't know if I am supposed to bring gifts for both of you even if I didn't know the other girl, but I would feel obligated to bring for both anyway.

Melindafuller34 · March 2015

Thanks for the advice everyone!! I'm trying to think of a nice way to tell her I don't want the shower without hurting her feelings. And also this thread posted twice for some reason I think my phone is trippin. I'm trying to figure out how to delete the other thread. Thanks again everyone

mccall35 · March 2015

Like PP have said, I would politely decline. My eldest sister wanted to throw a joint babyshower for me and my younger sister with our firsts (we were only due a few days apart). However, even though she is my sister, we realized quickly that there would be a number of people that one of us didn't know well (it wasn't going to be just a "family" shower). So we decided against it. I think it would be awkward for everyone even if you knew the other person well.

rrcameron21 · March 2015

I went to a shared baby shower once and I only knew one of the girls. It was honestly really uncomfortable. If you two have the same group of friends I think it would be okay though. Just don't play that game where you have to guess how big around the bump is! We played that and the girls were very different sizes and it was awkward.