Partner worry

emililyha

I had a D&C yesterday which provided me with a lot of closure and calm. I am ready to move forward and continue making my life memorable and wonderful and am ready to try again as soon as it is healthy, however, I'm really worried about my hubs.

I know he he had to be really strong for me these last few weeks since we found out about the mc, and now that I'm ok, I'm worried that he's not. I feel so lucky that I have my family, this message board, and a strong community I can talk to about being in this position but I feel like he doesn't have that same support or comfort in talking about it.

Any advice or experience in just being present for your partner and helping them feel that it is going to be ok? We've talked and I have told him a bunch that we are going to feel differently sometimes and that's fine, but we need to communicate that to each other. Anything else I could be saying or doing to help him through this?

4N6s

My husband dealt with it completely different than I did. I cried everyday for weeks and was a wreck. My husband will bring it up every now and then and make comments that I had no idea he even though. I don't know if that makes sense... But, just be there for him and listen to what he has to say. Empathy is a great quality to have.

yl1m32015

My DH was my rock through my miscarriage. He was so strong and took care of me. But he grieved differently. He wanted to move on and I wanted to stand still and feel it. I think he thought we'd just just pregnant again right away and move on, but now that it's been several months, I can see him breaking now and then. Just keep open communication, be as affectionate as you can snd take time for each other.