Relationship Issues

lizzylou39

So my DH decided to paint our babies nursery...awesome! We picked the color together and talked about his plan of attack. I get home from work and he is beaming with pride to show me the progress. Suffice it to say it wasn't what I had in mind. Purple paint was all over the white ceiling, white moldings, and carpet. I told him I thought he should stop painting and we should hire someone to do it. He got very upset and I know his feelings were hurt. I know he wanted to do this for the baby but its obvious that he has no experience painting and is making a big mess on carpet we were not planning on replacing. Any thoughts ladies? His heart is in the right place but he is not a good handy man.

katyertl

Lol I would just maybe lend a helping a hand and do it together or just let him finish. Get some white paint and cover up anything he got purple on. As for the carpet maybe Pinterest has some ways to get it out or just put the furniture over it. He wants to feel like a good dad and husband so I'd just let him to be honest. He was beaming with pride and so happy and now he probably feels like crap to say the least.

karaelaine1991

I agree.. It sounds like he was really proud and maybe your reaction was a little stronger than you meant it to be. He's created a little more work than you'd anticipated, but it should be a relatively easy fix, especially the ceiling and moldings. Definitely encourage him to put newspaper down on the carpet in the future, haha.

CateOfChicago

Why don't you handle the tape and tarping for him. Painting is surprisingly hard. DH and I painted our first condo and did a horrible job. We have hired every time since.

momtobeobrien

I talked to my doctor and got paint I knew I could paint with. I let my DH prime and paint the ceiling white, but anything that involves details and patience he always gets a little butt hurt when hes really excited about something and I could care less or I get mad....their hearts are always in the right place. He will get over it just give him more direction and lay down tarps over the carpet

HoosOnFirst

I'm in the opposite boat- my husband is so meticulous he's still painting because he wanted to redo the ceiling and now replace the baseboards. I'm like, the baby won't care about baseboards. I convinced him not to replace the baseboards, just paint them. So now he's out buying glossy white paint because the matte white paint we already have "doesn't go". This is when I realize that I'm going to be the lazy parent, between the two of us!

mathistm

Thoughts-do it yourself next time. Google how to get paint out of carpet, it is usually not difficult. Also if this is your "relationship issue" then consider yourself lucky.

KaLikeAWind

I totally get your 'awww, he painted!' and 'grrr, he made a huge mess!'. You guys should be able to have the paint come out of the carpet, and suggest that the remainder of the painting be done as a together project, so you can make sure protective gear is in place and have fun splattering each other with paint once said protective gear IS in place. Hopefully could lead to some romantic paint removal techniques to repair the rift :-*

CurlyMom78

We replaced the baseboards...

lizzylou39

I would gladly have done it myself but my doctor advised that I shouldn't be breathing the fumes. Its below zero outside where we live so ventilation is nearly impossible. Thanks for your response

lizzylou39

And some men, DH included, insist on doing things themselves. Despite my best efforts to buy tape and drop cloths for the floors he just decided not to use them because he didnt feel like it LOL. Oh well, time to find new carpet. The paint didn't come out as we'd hoped.