Anyone else waiting to miscarry...or not?

bean2813

I'm a new member to the bump and this is my second pregnancy. Unfortunately my first one ended in a miscarriage. It's the second time around and it looks like everything is about to repeat itself. I went it for my U/S at 7 weeks and they couldn't see much and I was told that I will likely miscarry and to come back next week. Well, I came back a week later, the second U/S showed some change but again not what they expect to see, everything looks more like 4 or 5 weeks but my hormone levels seem to correspond with that. However, based on when my test was positive I should be further along. I was told to come it again next week so I'm anxiously awaiting my next appointment. Doctor and u/s tech strongly believe its not a normal pregnancy and I'll miscarry yet I'm still told to take my prenatals. This uncertainty is killing me, I dont know what will happen and in situations like this does it ever turn out ok? Is there even a really a chance that I will go into this appointment and all of a sudden there is a heartbeat? And if there's not but again there's some growth what does that mean? This is all really frustrating and depressing. My family is encouraging me to be optimistic while my husband is basically already prepared for the worst. In his mind the pregnancy is lost and I'm somewhere in the middle between hope and defeat.

lilp2015

Sorry your going through this. I'm also waiting for a miscarriage to start. I found out 2 weeks ago baby only measured 7 weeks with out a heartbeat and I should of been 9 weeks. They took blood a couple times and my hcg did drop but nothing else so far. Do you still have pregnancy symptoms? Mine are still pretty strong. Which makes this even harder for me. I go back to the dr. Wednesday I'm nervous/anxious to find out what will happen.

bean2813

Yeah I have pregnancy symptoms too and it doesn't make it any easier. I go back Thursday. Wish you luck. 

emililyha

I'm currently waiting out a miscarriage myself. Was supposed to be 10 weeks but only measured 6-7. Unfortunately for me it was the blood tests that showed that my little one wasn't growing and my Hcg was dropping. That being said... I feel you have to keep positive as long as there is positive to be seen. That's how we saw it all. It didn't turn out the way I wanted, but my doctor told me about another patient that went through my similar situation with better results and who just ended up measuring behind what they originally thought. She is mostly through a healthy pregnancy now. Anything is possible.

I'm thinking of you and hoping for the best. Try to find peace and calm while you wait- and soak up all the love and positive energy of your support system of family and friends.

4N6s

I'm not in your position right now, but I'm hoping the best for you.

lilp2015

I believe mine just started tonight

bean2813

My last ultrasound showed no growth and so the doctor ruled it as a miscarriage. I still haven't started bleeding though. Keep waiting on something to happen but I still feel the same.

bunnywahl

I am so sorry you're going through this. I am too. Am supposed to be about 10 weeks and had two ultrasounds that measured about 7 weeks. I've started spotting. It was red now it's brown, I'm not sure what that means. I have the pills to take this weekend if nothing happens before then. I'm not sure what to expect. The waiting is killing me.

Wishing you all the best.

fishngrl84

I just went through this process myself.  This was my first pregnancy.  When we went for the ultrasound that should have shown us at 81/2 weeks, the gestational sac was completely empty.  I knew as soon as the picture came onto the screen that something wasn't right because I had been looking at all the ultrasound pics I could find curious what I was going to see.  That was on a Thursday and my doctor had me get bloodwork the next day and following Monday and then another ultrasound the next Wednesday, almost a week later.  The Wednesday ultrasound showed again a completely empty sac, the tech even did the doppler to check for blood flow and there was nothing.  I just started to cry and it was all I could do to get out of that office.  Luckily I was able to spend that whole day with my husband and that made the healing process begin.  The next day I followed up with my doctor who then told me he was about 99% sure it was a blighted ovum because my levels from the bloodwork had begun to drop also.  He had me come back in a few days later for an ultrasound on the following Monday because he wanted to be 102% sure.  That Sunday I started lightly bleeding and in a way it made me feel better, I knew my body knew what it was supposed to do and had begun to heal itself.  I talked to the doctor about waiting to naturally miscarry instead of a D&C, he said that was of course possible but didn't recommend it but could try it if I wanted to.  I ended up keeping my scheduled D&C for that Wednesday( yesterday) and I am thankful I did.  I found it more stressful on me to be waiting around for the miscarriage to start.  I thought I had dealt with the loss but Wednesday morning when my husband and I walked into that hospital I lost it.  I think it was the combination of seeing all the "mother and child" areas and the reality that THIS was the day it would actually "end"  Even though I knew there was no baby growing, I guess a little part of my subconscious still held hope and being there for that appointment made that part realize it was truly over.  My experience that day was actually nourishing.  Of course most the staff I dealt with were women so as soon as they saw why I was there, they were all extra caring.  I confessed to my nurses that I was nervous because in my 30 years I have never had any type of procedure, never any anesthesia, hell I had never had an IV for anything.  Everyone was amazing.  To be honest, when I was wheeled into the OR I was kind of excited to see the inside of an OR and look at all the equipment, well... I made it from my bed to the table and that's all I remember.  Next thing I know I was being woken back up.  My nurses were amazing every step of the way.  When back in recovery and my husband back by my side I felt a weight lift off my shoulders that I can't even describe.  The best part is he had my favorite food in his hand because he knew how hungry I was, sushi!  hahaha That scared the nurses of course so they made sure I held down crackers and ginger ale first.... I bet that was the first time they had sushi in the recovery room. My nurse then brought me tomato soup and even toasted some texas toast and melted cheese on it, and brought my husband the same!  Turns out my recovery nurse went though the exact same situation, she gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek as I was getting in the truck and told me not to get discouraged.  Looking back I am grateful that I had the D & C instead of waiting for the miscarriage.  I know everything is taken care of and I am beginning the healing process.  I am focusing on the positives coming up in my life, like next month I get to go to Disney with my little sister for her sweet 16 and ride all the roller coasters with her  and I am looking forward to trying again in a few months.  Well, I hope my tale of my situation helps ease any of you going through the same thing.  It really does get better like everyone says.  I wish all of you the best and hope to see you on here in a few months in the "month clubs" with me!  

jess2381

Second pregnancy, first one ended in miscarriage. Just got home from yoga to find blood all over underwear. Zero cramping. So stressed until tomorrow morning when OB office opens at 8:30am. Last time found out around 8w, this time at 6w2d.

ThePecks

Just found out the other day, should've been 10 weeks, but u/s showed 8 wks and no heartbeat. Now I'm just waiting for it to actually happen. Had no signs of a miscarriage, and it was my first OB appt. Everything else looks normal. First pregnancy, so even more sad and frustrating. I'm scared to do a D&C, so I've opted to wait. Sounds like it could be a long time... (4-6 weeks seems to be pretty normal for many ladies). If it comes to it, and I can't stand waiting any longer,  I might go the chemical route since it's still early. 

I hate the is/was dichotomy of this am/not pregnant anymore. My body says I am, but my mind knows I'm not. 

Manda6453

I completely understand your frustration. The waiting is unbearable.Obviously there are miracles and everything could turn out just right, but I went through 3 weeks of bleeding with 3 ER visits and several ob appointments showing our baby growing right on track and with a strong heartbeat. Everyone assured me the baby and I were perfectly healthy which just made everything so confusing.

Wednesday I started having bad cramps that turned into what felt like contractions, coming every 2 1/2 minutes. That was the last ER trip where I was again told baby was good and that my contractions were likely the uterus growing since week 14 starts to really change things. It didn't sound right but the PA insisted so I was sent home.

That night I felt a pop and it was over. I just wish I had been prompted more that a miscarriage was likely. I know they can't know for sure but just feel like everyone was so quick to give me false hope which just made the whole process so much more painful (emotionally).

Good luck to you but hopefully take comfort in the fact that if you do experience a loss, that you'll have closure and the waiting will be over. Not that I would ever wish that on anyone, but personally I was relieved to finally have my answer. (((HUGS)))

ladymoon78

fishngrl84 said:

I just went through this process myself.  This was my first pregnancy.  When we went for the ultrasound that should have shown us at 81/2 weeks, the gestational sac was completely empty.  I knew as soon as the picture came onto the screen that something wasn't right because I had been looking at all the ultrasound pics I could find curious what I was going to see.  That was on a Thursday and my doctor had me get bloodwork the next day and following Monday and then another ultrasound the next Wednesday, almost a week later.  The Wednesday ultrasound showed again a completely empty sac, the tech even did the doppler to check for blood flow and there was nothing.  I just started to cry and it was all I could do to get out of that office.  Luckily I was able to spend that whole day with my husband and that made the healing process begin.  The next day I followed up with my doctor who then told me he was about 99% sure it was a blighted ovum because my levels from the bloodwork had begun to drop also.  He had me come back in a few days later for an ultrasound on the following Monday because he wanted to be 102% sure.  That Sunday I started lightly bleeding and in a way it made me feel better, I knew my body knew what it was supposed to do and had begun to heal itself.  I talked to the doctor about waiting to naturally miscarry instead of a D&C, he said that was of course possible but didn't recommend it but could try it if I wanted to.  I ended up keeping my scheduled D&C for that Wednesday( yesterday) and I am thankful I did.  I found it more stressful on me to be waiting around for the miscarriage to start.  I thought I had dealt with the loss but Wednesday morning when my husband and I walked into that hospital I lost it.  I think it was the combination of seeing all the "mother and child" areas and the reality that THIS was the day it would actually "end"  Even though I knew there was no baby growing, I guess a little part of my subconscious still held hope and being there for that appointment made that part realize it was truly over.  My experience that day was actually nourishing.  Of course most the staff I dealt with were women so as soon as they saw why I was there, they were all extra caring.  I confessed to my nurses that I was nervous because in my 30 years I have never had any type of procedure, never any anesthesia, hell I had never had an IV for anything.  Everyone was amazing.  To be honest, when I was wheeled into the OR I was kind of excited to see the inside of an OR and look at all the equipment, well... I made it from my bed to the table and that's all I remember.  Next thing I know I was being woken back up.  My nurses were amazing every step of the way.  When back in recovery and my husband back by my side I felt a weight lift off my shoulders that I can't even describe.  The best part is he had my favorite food in his hand because he knew how hungry I was, sushi!  hahaha That scared the nurses of course so they made sure I held down crackers and ginger ale first.... I bet that was the first time they had sushi in the recovery room. My nurse then brought me tomato soup and even toasted some texas toast and melted cheese on it, and brought my husband the same!  Turns out my recovery nurse went though the exact same situation, she gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek as I was getting in the truck and told me not to get discouraged.  Looking back I am grateful that I had the D & C instead of waiting for the miscarriage.  I know everything is taken care of and I am beginning the healing process.  I am focusing on the positives coming up in my life, like next month I get to go to Disney with my little sister for her sweet 16 and ride all the roller coasters with her  and I am looking forward to trying again in a few months.  Well, I hope my tale of my situation helps ease any of you going through the same thing.  It really does get better like everyone says.  I wish all of you the best and hope to see you on here in a few months in the "month clubs" with me!  

Thank you for sharif your story. Not sure if you will see this reply since your post is from a few months back but I just confirmed i have a blighted ovum and wasn't even sure where to post about it and found this thread by using the search button. I wasn't sure if I wanted to wait it out. At first I did because I wanted to be sure and my RE has made sure more than 100%. Then I thought maybe I just wanted the meds but thinking that the D & C may ease me better...knowing it's all out and l can move on. Thanks again.

themattawedding

I'm waiting too. I have a blighted ovum, so measuring only 6w2d I should be able to pass it and start my period. I hope it happens naturally, and soon. The waiting game is hard. This was my first pregnancy, emotionally it's been unbearable.

But we are all here for eachother!

peevpee

themattawedding said:

I'm waiting too. I have a blighted ovum, so measuring only 6w2d I should be able to pass it and start my period. I hope it happens naturally, and soon. The waiting game is hard. This was my first pregnancy, emotionally it's been unbearable.

But we are all here for eachother!

mine is measuring 7w2d but should be 10w today. I am also waiting and it's so hard. Want to miscarry naturally to avoid potential scars after d&c. i feel like I am going insane... hopping that I will wake up soon and it was just a long horrible dream.

jacobsone2

I find out next Friday if I have a bo. If I do I cannot wait to miscarry naturally. Emotionally I cannot handle it. I did the cytotec with my first bo and I think I will do it again. Don't wanna risk d&c.

BabyStewartsMommy

Fishngrl84, I'm going in for my D&C today, and I can only hope I am blessed with health care providers as wonderful yours were. I am dreading this because it will really be the end of a pregnancy that brought so much joy initially, but I am also relieved that this will be over and I can begin the healing process. I had a D&C once before when they had to remove some cervical cancer, so I am not scared about the procedure. I am just scared of the empty feeling that I know will be left behind.

misslissa32

Had my d&c today. Was the right choice for me as I wanted to start healing quickly. I had a mmc and so far have had zero pain including procedure. Wish you all the best

BabyStewartsMommy

The D&C was the right choice for me as well. Everything went well, and my healthcare team was amazing. No pain for me since I've been home, and I feel some emotional healing as well. Prayers for you.

Elzeranne

Hi everyone, I also feel everyones pain,i found out i was pregnant last may and was so excited because this is my first baby, my first check was just a confirmation if i really am pregnant and it measured like 6 wks then the obgyn told me to be back after 2 weeks to see for the heartbeat then after 2 weeks my baby measured just 4 wks and 4 days i got confused so i went for a second opinin from another ob gyn, the ob gyn told me that he cant see if there is an embryo so he scheduled me for another check up, then the bad news came he said maybe the baby didnt develop but im still under observation until monday, but after my check up i have light bleeding without pain or cramps

ecarlson87

I'm currently awaiting my 3rd miscarriage. I should be 5 weeks but I know it's happening again. I haven't even been in to my OB yet but this time is just like the last two. Pink spotting turning darker. No cramping yet but I know in my heart it's coming. The waiting is unbearable. I don't think I can stand going through this again.

Tinkerbell801

This is my fourth pregnancy my first( had morning sickness) resulted in a beautiful girl 5.5yrs now Our second was a surprise and ended as a missed miscarriage no symptoms so was constantly on edge spotted tiny bit of pink i was ine week short of 12 wk scan and telling everyone so booked scan was 11 wks but found out stopped growing at sack stage 6wk. My third was a planned pregnancy and was in a heap with morning sickness again another beautiful girl she's now 15mth. Then we got a surprise after the shock grew excitement but lack of symptoms had me concerned I had sense of smell hightened and pee'd more but that was It. Spotted almost two weeks ago went to a&e and epau seen baby with strong heartbeat was completely shocked and overwhelmed. Was to go back yesterday just to get cleared but before I went up I started to bleed ( pink when wiping) scan showed weak heartbeat so 50 / 50 how it will go I know myself it's mc the bleeding is red now so I'm waiting on this tiny person to pass away it's heartbreaking but I'm so unbelievabley lucky to have my girls.. and focusing on them. ... thinking of you all at this time. ....

MayBeSomeDay16

@mrsdoyle2006 I'm so sorry for your losses. ((HUGS))

Tinkerbell801

Thanks maybesomeday16. Went to my own doctor yesterday she scanned me and was able to say heartbeat had stopped and baby/ sac had moved down so should naturally miscarry within anything from hour to few days type thing but if not then my next appt with epau is Monday so at that point I can look at medication / surgery options.... how is everyone else doing ...

ginnaturtle

I am also waiting. Execpt i feel even more confused. I'm 9 weeks along but the baby only appears to be 2 weeks along and I began to bleed badly two days ago and heavy cramping. While it has stopped, the doctors said the u-s has an irregular shape and that I'm most likely going to lose them..