Mixed children.

Knottie85240357

ckoenig87 said:

I wanted to vent on this too! Our baby is going to be half Caucasian and half Korean (DH). I've gotten the following comments... in this order..."aw your babies are going to look so cute I love half oriental kids!" 'Are you going to give them a Chinese sounding name or a normal name?" WHAT the WHAT!? They are Korean not Chinese ...not every Asian person is Chinese....and you are using the word normal to describe a 'white' name!? Stupid ppl?!!

Haha, I love this. My baby is half Caucasian half Korean also. We've just picked names we both like... people are ignorant.

bashfulbird

2ndtimemomy said:

When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European, or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind

TeamIrvin2012

I'm Puerto Rican and the Hubby is White... We just chose a name that we both really liked... Don't worry about what anyone else thinks of the name... I did try to make sure it was a name that he wouldn't get teased because of in school...

bpwife&mama

2ndtimemomy said:

When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European, or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind

This is not only hard to wrap my head around, but insane. I can't even begin to understand your rationality behind this. Having a name that people believe is strictly used in a nationality is different from belonging or believing. There is no shame or violence attached for being proud of who you are. Your thinking behind this is actually frightening.

BeautifulBedlam

As already stated, please never again use the terms mulatto or high - yellow: as a mixed individual myself, both are extremely offensive and derogatory.

CaliforniaDream87

2ndtimemomy said:

When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European, or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind

@2ndtimemomy this is the most outlandish garbage I have ever heard. So because one called themselves Christian they are considered violent? What?

There is way too much crazy in this thread.

2ndtimemomy

Sorry if upset / confused other people.
This was quote by the author
Jiddu krishanamaurti (Author of Freedom) .
Its all about remembering that we are human first not mix, black or white.
Sorry again for the confusion.


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mommaKCS

BeautifulBedlam said:

As already stated, please never again use the terms mulatto or high - yellow: as a mixed individual myself, both are extremely offensive and derogatory.

Can we please also address the term "passing"? I have heard ignorance before with mulatto and high yellow... But to consider someone passing is extremely offensive and disturbing.

koyangi87

ckoenig87 said:

I wanted to vent on this too! Our baby is going to be half Caucasian and half Korean (DH). I've gotten the following comments... in this order..."aw your babies are going to look so cute I love half oriental kids!" 'Are you going to give them a Chinese sounding name or a normal name?" WHAT the WHAT!? They are Korean not Chinese ...not every Asian person is Chinese....and you are using the word normal to describe a 'white' name!? Stupid ppl?!!

I'm Korean and have gotten asked what kind of Chinese I am my whole life. I have an American name, and people assume I have an Asian one too. I do, but it's not the name I use or my legal name, just a nickname. DH is white. People have asked us too if we're giving them a "normal" name. Smh. Oriental... We're not rugs, people.

aeondrift

My daughter and the one on the way are both half Chinese, half white. I asked my husband's mom to help with a Chinese name for my daughter so that she would have it to help her learn about her Chinese heritage. Her English name is her legal name. I don't consider her "mulatto" (do people seriously still use that term??), she is just a person with rich heritage.

As far as language goes, yes, please, let your kids learn as many languages as possible! It can only help them in the future. It opens so many doors!

lvrunningirlie

Ok so as a mixed person, back when there weren't so many of us... please PLEASE don't refer to us or your child as mulatto. Just don't. We're mixed, biracial, multiracial, half this/half that... but not mulatto. Also pick a name that you like. My biggest concern is you are already worried about your child in some way being too white or too black... i'm not even sure what that means unless you are relying 100% on base stereotypes. For the sake of your child please eliminate those terms from your vocabulary. Insinuating that certain actions or names are too one way or the other send the message that they themselves can be too white or black. This is an issue alot of mixed kids already have to deal with ourside the home, don't bring it inside the home. My parents raised to me to be myself, regardless of race. The blending of cultures was a benefit because I had a broader view of different cultures, use the positive aspects and don't focus on the potential stereotype issues. 

Ok... that's all. 

JellicalParker

I only use the words my husband proudly uses to describe himself. I'm sorry that any of you might be offended by those terms, however, those words are still used today. People commonly ask me what my husband is, and some people call him those things. I find if he is not offended nor should I be. We live in a world where our mixed, which I hate that term, babies will be called these things and will be asked WHAT they are by complete strangers. I didn't know my husband's heritage until he told me, I just wasn't so "curious" but I know that my child will be asked to explain it's existence all the time. My husband is to this day, and you know what he tells people... When and where he was born if his parents hadn't been in the military he would have been aborted because his life was illegal. You don't have to like the reality of what "biracial", which by the way wouldn't begin to cover my child's heritage, children go through... Trust me I don't, but until everyone changes their perspective they will have to live with many different and often hurtful experiences.

lvrunningirlie

JellicalParker said:

I only use the words my husband proudly uses to describe himself. I'm sorry that any of you might be offended by those terms, however, those words are still used today. People commonly ask me what my husband is, and some people call him those things. I find if he is not offended nor should I be. We live in a world where our mixed, which I hate that term, babies will be called these things and will be asked WHAT they are by complete strangers. I didn't know my husband's heritage until he told me, I just wasn't so "curious" but I know that my child will be asked to explain it's existence all the time. My husband is to this day, and you know what he tells people... When and where he was born if his parents hadn't been in the military he would have been aborted because his life was illegal. You don't have to like the reality of what "biracial", which by the way wouldn't begin to cover my child's heritage, children go through... Trust me I don't, but until everyone changes their perspective they will have to live with many different and often hurtful experiences.

Ok so... can we just agree that just because your husband might be ok with being called a controversial term doesn't mean everyone is ok with it and will be ok with it? I have never been called mulatto and would be highly offended to be called it. I have always been asked "what" I am, so yes.... if you are more readily identifiable and multiracial you'll have to deal with that question. I am blonde haired, green eyed, tan color, with black texture hair so I dealt with that question alot (really, for as long as I can remember). But I've just learned to accept it and most people ask out of curiosity. And yes there is some racial tendencies that will are still present, but let's not assume all mutliracial children will have hurtful experiences. My "Reality" has actually been quite nice, thank you

princesslockness

JellicalParker said:

I only use the words my husband proudly uses to describe himself. I'm sorry that any of you might be offended by those terms, however, those words are still used today. People commonly ask me what my husband is, and some people call him those things. I find if he is not offended nor should I be. We live in a world where our mixed, which I hate that term, babies will be called these things and will be asked WHAT they are by complete strangers. I didn't know my husband's heritage until he told me, I just wasn't so "curious" but I know that my child will be asked to explain it's existence all the time. My husband is to this day, and you know what he tells people... When and where he was born if his parents hadn't been in the military he would have been aborted because his life was illegal. You don't have to like the reality of what "biracial", which by the way wouldn't begin to cover my child's heritage, children go through... Trust me I don't, but until everyone changes their perspective they will have to live with many different and often hurtful experiences.

Say that is comparable to anyone calling someone a Cracker or Nigger. Just because some are proud to be called that, DOES NOT, repeat DOES NOT make those terms acceptable.

bashfulbird

It seems to me there is a difference in words that are just old and therefore when they are used, some people might rush to judgement and consider this person ignorant. I think that we need to consider the "power" that we give certain words to cloud our own judgement. I certainly wont be using any of these words that have been mentioned, because this post has brought to light somethings I was ignorant of, does the fact that I was ignorant of them make me and an ignoramus? Certainly not. Sometimes we get distracted by words and cant see the forest for the trees, we miss the message. In the case of OP I believe @lvrunningirlie answer hits the nail right on the head. Don't think of your children as too anything, Don't put your baby in corner!
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ShondaJo

Wow people are really hung up on terms here. Words only have the power we give them. And raising your child to see that only empowers them.
As far as the name goes just find something you like. I'm a white girl named RhaShonda and my husband is a black man named Anthony (everyone loves the irony). Doesn't matter what your name is because once you pick it they will make it their own. Good luck to you and your beautiful baby.

ashbash1012

So since I'm black my name shouldn't be Ashley? Is that where this is going? Lol....I try not to be derogatory on any post, but this just blows me. I gave my daughter a name that I thought fit her, and my new baby will be the same. It doesn't matter what the color, race ,nationality....Give YOUR child a name you're comfortable with as a couple.

ashbash1012

Btw....tf is a "white" name?