My husband is one of those guys that can be super critical, and really just want things done quickly and 'easily' in his mind. For example, we have a now almost 2.5 year old who had many issues in the beginning until about a few months ago. He had reflux, milk intolerance, was sick constantly, etc. thus causing NO sleep, eating issues, etc. After 2 sets of ear tubes and finally and adenoid removal things have improved a little and he 'mostly' sleeps through the night as of 3 months ago! yay! we still have our struggles but things have improved tremendously. All of this though has cause a lot of turmoil with my husband and I... he only wanted to listen to his mother's constant 'opinions' about how I am spoiling our child, he needs to cry it out, etc. instead of listening to me or the doctors. Things got pretty bad for a while but then improved. We are now pregnant again and due in August but the old behaviors are coming back and I need help on how to communicate better with him or if any of your spouses/partners are the same? He is now harping on the fact that our son still has a paci and blankie he sleeps with... in my opinion so what? It doesn't hurt him, he has great speech, and hell it helps him sleep! He is not going to have it when he goes to college. Long story short, I got super mad last night because his mother had called and said she wanted pictures of our son without his 'dumb' paci when she comes out to visit and my husband threw in the fact that he doesn't think our son should have it anymore, etc. then that turned into me also finding out he bragged to his mom about how he was up with our son the other night and got him back to bed (mind you this is only the less than 5th time in our son's whole life he has gotten up to help me. Otherwise he just critiques from the sidelines without helping). Sorry I am just super frustrated, hormonal today, and truly thought we were on a turn from the times we had with our first son. Ps isn't his mother a gem? I could share more but that's the short version of how she is all of the time.