If one more person tells me to exercise!

16&mama

Am I the only one, im sick and tired of this! Everyone is happy going out doing things and I feel like I'm dying... I've had every pregnancy symptom so far and it's horrible. People keep telling me to go out and get some exercise and every time I hear someone mention exercise I want to flip... On top of having a crooked spine and all my ribs are misplaced I deal with a baby who won't stop kicking. I'm lucky if I can make it up the stairs alive...

keifekm

I'm sorry you feel miserable. I think most of us don't feel 100% at this point. All I know is that there are so many women who would do anything to be pregnant right now. As a person who tried for 2 years and then had to turn to IVF to have this baby I feel blessed to be here. Just something to think about...

bramage

"dealing with a baby that won't stop kicking"
I don't even know how to react to this statement. Op where exactly are you going with this? If your baby wasn't kicking it would probably be a sign of loss... You get that right?
I need to just stop right here.

ajedwards83

i completely understand!! and its not fair of others to make you feel guilty by the way that you arent grateful to be expecting. i work with someone who is having a very very hard time trying to have a baby, but that doesnt mean yoy arent allowed to express your frustrations, being pregnant is very uncomfortable sometimes if i do too much at home i limp and cant walk and have a hard time getting out of bed or up the stairs so i cant imagine trying to work out!! I am very happy and know im lucky to be expecting but sometimes theres a lot of movement in there and its hard to get comfortable!! People need to be more understand and not so judgemental. Everyone has a different experience!!!

be888

ajedwards83 said:

i completely understand!! and its not fair of others to make you feel guilty by the way that you arent grateful to be expecting. i work with someone who is having a very very hard time trying to have a baby, but that doesnt mean yoy arent allowed to express your frustrations, being pregnant is very uncomfortable sometimes if i do too much at home i limp and cant walk and have a hard time getting out of bed or up the stairs so i cant imagine trying to work out!! I am very happy and know im lucky to be expecting but sometimes theres a lot of movement in there and its hard to get comfortable!! People need to be more understand and not so judgemental. Everyone has a different experience!!!

People can respond the way they want. She sounds ungrateful and whiny.

mrsalvidrez

As pp's have expressed, I don't think you are making your point well here. Yes, pregnancy can be uncomfortable, but you aren't the only one to experience these symptoms, that's for sure. As for LO kicking, I give thanks every day for how active he is because the one day that I couldn't feel him kick I ended up in tears worrying if he was ok. I get it, you're tired and worn out, and you're allowed to be, but I don't think complaining about it like this is doing anything for you.

adrianasfs

Being pregnant with what sounds like scoliosis.... everyone here is dealing with that? I'm pregnant on top of having other medical conditions that weren't as bad the first time around and I can tell you this pregnancy is a different kind of hell. So instead of saying she sounds "whiney" out marking her as ungrateful... how about reserve your judgement. Unless you've walked in her shoes, really you couldn't know what it feels like for her. All because she didn't "make her point well" or to your liking... get over yourself. Lol
@16&mama‌ as far as I'm concerned, living in a 2 story house, making it up the stairs and just getting out of bed all count as exercise when you're dealing with chronic illnesses while pregnant.

maplebar

I hear exercise can help with anger issues.

adrianasfs

Wow. That's a lot of rage for a strangers post about exercise... people like that scare me. What happens when their kids won't stop crying, will they lash out? Lol.... leave judgement at the door. You've not walked in her shoes, none of us experience things in the exact same way. Yes kicks are reassuring but for some, they feel like nails, nails that are on fire digging into our abdomen over and over. It's an assurance of life that causes more than discomfort but actual pain over and over... you may not understand that, which is fine, but don't judge it.

mnharkcom

Go exercise!

somewheresublime86

I hate to say it, but the exercise would probably a) help with all of your pesky symptoms and b) help lull baby to sleep so that you got a short break from all the kicking. It's excellent advice.

No one is suggesting you train for a marathon - a short walk each day makes a big difference.

lovingmommylife

I have scoliosis. This is my second baby and yes my symptoms have been worst this go around. This baby loves to kick my ribs here lately.. it's not the best feeling but I wouldn't change it for nothing! I love him being so active I would probably panic if he wasnt... As far as exercise goes.. believe it or not I feel alot better after a walk.

clover28

16&mama said:

Am I the only one..............and all my ribs are misplaced I deal with a baby who won't stop kicking. I'm lucky if I can make it up the stairs alive...

Sorry you misplaced all your ribs. Hope you find them soon.

mnharkcom

clover28 said:

16&mama said:

Am I the only one..............and all my ribs are misplaced I deal with a baby who won't stop kicking. I'm lucky if I can make it up the stairs alive...

Sorry you misplaced all your ribs. Hope you find them soon.

Oh my gosh I seriously laughed so freaking hard I can't stop! @clover28‌

mrsalvidrez

@adrianasfs‌ oh sorry, I should've mentioned that I've had severe double curve scoliosis my whole life. I did get the corrective surgery about 3 yrs ago, but it's still not fully corrected. Also, because of the surgery there is a good chance I won't be able to get an epidural like I planned on. Also, it's made it so I've had some pretty severe back pain during this pregnancy that can't be treated because chiropractors and massage therapists can't work on me like they did pre-surgery, but what do I know right?

heatherfrye986

Props to carrying a child under such conditions. I'm miserable and perfectly healthy, not to mention I thought this app was so that we could all bitch and share our thoughts/fellings/etc without people passing judgement. If I had a broken leg and was complaining about pain would others response be I should be grateful that I can still walk bc there are people that a paralyzed or thankful for the broken leg I have because some individuals have no legs. I mean wtf .

frownyface

heatherfrye986 said:

Props to carrying a child under such conditions. I'm miserable and perfectly healthy, not to mention I thought this app was so that we could all bitch and share our thoughts/fellings/etc without people passing judgement. If I had a broken leg and was complaining about pain would others response be I should be grateful that I can still walk bc there are people that a paralyzed or thankful for the broken leg I have because some individuals have no legs. I mean wtf .

frownyface

Nope. Nothing about bitching. And nothing about lack of judgement.

juliaandpatrick

Everyone has their issues. I'm pretty sure all of this started because OP said "I deal with a baby..." She should have thought about how growing a life would affect her health issues prior to having sex.
And as others have mentioned exercise is good for most health problems. Talk your doctor to see what would work best for you.

keifekm

One more thing for those talking about people being judgey on here... There are several mothers on here that are on bed rest (and have been for weeks) and others that have had premature babies recently. While we may feel like we are suffering day to day our doctors still feel that we are well enough to carry on outside of the hospital. Be thankful and respectful of those that are in these situations and are worrying about delivering healthy babies. How would you feel if you were driving to the NICU every day to see your preemie baby and then saw people constantly complaining about carrying to term?

There is another thread on this same page where people are sharing their struggles and "bitching" as you put it so delicately. Isn't one enough? IMO we don't need a new one every day.

frownyface

keifekm said:

One more thing for those talking about people being judgey on here... There are several mothers on here that are on bed rest (and have been for weeks) and others that have had premature babies recently. While we may feel like we are suffering day to day our doctors still feel that we are well enough to carry on outside of the hospital. Be thankful and respectful of those that are in these situations and are worrying about delivering healthy babies. How would you feel if you were driving to the NICU every day to see your preemie baby and then saw people constantly complaining about carrying to term?

There is another thread on this same page where people are sharing their struggles and "bitching" as you put it so delicately. Isn't one enough? IMO we don't need a new one every day.

On top of people asking us to "let them die." Completely hyper dramatic and disrespectful.

Anicole14

Sigh. Yes, you're absolutely the only person who has back pain and a baby kicking during pregnancy. I have a pars defect in my lower spine, and I walk around all day everyday literally feeling like my spine is going to collapse. Yep, all my friends are happy going out and doing things also while I stay home, but guess what? I don't even care, because after the baby is born i'm still not going to be going out with them. And really, people are probably trying to be helpful when they tell you to exercise. Did you really think you would go through pregnancy pain free with a spine issue?

adrianasfs

So everyone is saying to take into consideration the feelings of the bedrest mom's and the mom's of the preemies but there is nothing but impatience and rage to the way she worded her post. Seems fair. No wonder this board is SO awesome.

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liztxchild

You'd be surprised to know that a little exercise actually makes you feel more energized. On the days that I feel like doing nothing at all, I go for a 30 minute walk and all of a sudden, burst of energy. It may be more short lived these days since fatigue is extremely common in these last stages but it really seems to help. Not saying you will respond to exercise in the same way but just give it a try, won't hurt. In fact, might help ease labor and boosts your mood.

darcyalene

I also have scoliosis, and a broken vertebrae, and a broken rib from coughing so bad with the flu a couple of months ago, and puked my brains out for the first 6 months, and every other pregnancy symptom imaginable; but there isn't one day that I'm not grateful through all of the pain and discomfort that I'm carrying this beautiful gift.  And there is never a day that I'm not grateful to feel her kicks and punches and rolls. Of course it's uncomfortable, but it's part of being pregnant. We're all made aware of the possibility of these side effects from the very beginning.  Just remember, there is ALWAYS someone who has it worse than you, so be grateful for what you have and suck it up honey!

musicmamma2015

I get what you are saying though. It gets really annoying to have people try and tell you how to be healthy, some who don't even know you. I have a doctor and a chriopractor and several pregnancy forums, along with a cousin who is an obgyn so I really feel like I have my bases covered. Half the time the suggestions people give don't even make sense! I know my body pretty well and many days I feel accomplished to have made it up and down the stairs a few times or to have walked at the grocery store before my son karate chops me from the inside. I love feeling his kicks! I love being pregnant! I waited a long time for this (35 yo). I do not love all the extra "advice" I do not ask for from people not even remotely qualified to give it!

KatyInNH

adrianasfs said:

No wonder this board is SO awesome.

 
Woah woah woah, I don't think anyone here is claiming this board is in any way awesome. In fact, it is far from it at this point.

boet0055

But seriously, actually try to get some movement in. I've found that it does actually help with a lot of symptoms. It doesn't need to be intense, getting in the water would actually be the best! It takes a lot of pressure off many pain points. Do some yoga, stretch and practice the relaxing meditative breathing you'll be using during labor. If anything it will be good for all that anger you seem to have built up.

70point3

So........ Bad timing to mention te 10k I plan to walk next weekend?

OP, you've had *every* preg symptom? Bummer. The inflamed gall bladder (which has to be controlled with food, and I live in Asia. Hello seemingly overly picky Ang mo!) and swollen wrist seem to be my biggest complaints.

But then I remember I'm growing a person... when doctors said I wouldn't be able to... and get over it.

New advice - Try to find the optimistic parts of what *is* delightful/happy about your situation. We're all miserable in some way.