2 sets of godparents or just 1????

desiwhoaa

Does anyone know if you can only have 1 set of godparents or are you able to have 2? We really want 2 sets just because we can't choose between the couples without feeling wrong for the other one? I know it's a touchy question and Google isn't really of much help on this one.

erinnlou

I guess my question would be when having 2 sets of godparents, who would take the children in case something happened to you and your hubby? Ultimately, I would think you'd have to choose only one couple.

mrspark812

I am not going to lie I thought your post said GRANDparents. I was about to be like ummmmm everyone has two sets of grandparents! Opps....lol

As for GOD parents, I really think it is completely up to you. The religious point of a God parent is to support you as the parents as you raise your child according to God's plan and in His way. So the more people to support and guide your child isn't a bad thing. 

I mean Prince George has like 10! My DD only has a God Father b/c he and his wife got a divorce so she was obviously out and we didn't really have anyone else we wanted. So its just the one for us. 

briealee

I am one of two godmothers to my godson. It is not about who takes care of them if something happens to you (that should be in your will), it is about helping the parents guide the child through the shared beliefs in God.

cls2015

Exactly what briealee said.  Godparents are there to guide your child spiritually and oversee the spiritual well being of your child. Officially there are only two godparents.  But, some dioceses do allow you to have Christian witnesses as well as godparents.  

The British royals are different because they are members of the Church of England.  In the Church of England, it is actually common to have two godparents of the same sex as the baby, and one of the opposite sex. This is because the same sex godparents are seen to have such a vital role in the spiritual upbringing of the child.  The royals just take it a lot further.

Mamamads

briealee said:

I am one of two godmothers to my godson. It is not about who takes care of them if something happens to you (that should be in your will), it is about helping the parents guide the child through the shared beliefs in God.

Yep this. Who would take care of your children if you were to die etc is something you need to put in a will and is a completely separate thing. As far as God parents (who are spiritual advisors for your child) I am not sure how many you can have. Perhaps contact the church you are considering baptisting at.

erinnlou

The name Godparents makes a lot more sense to me now lol
Sorry for the misinformation.

ChristyM87

briealee said:

I am one of two godmothers to my godson. It is not about who takes care of them if something happens to you (that should be in your will), it is about helping the parents guide the child through the shared beliefs in God.

Depends. Some people in this thread seem to have a non religious reason for godparents. I have heard both reasons

I am not using godparents but we have discussed who could take care of our child if something happened to both of us

Echo1334

Me and my partner don't share the religious view on godparents at least not Christian wise. However we do still see godparents as an important thing for our child to have. I chose one of my friends as the Godmother whose fiancé will be a secondary godmother and my partner chose one of his male friends to be godfather. We decided right when we decided who would be godparents that the godmothers would gain custody if something were to happen to us. They have also fit right in with what I was looking for in a godmother, someone who supports both myself and my child, someone who loves us openly and wants to see the best for us, someone who will care for our child as we do and in the future someone who our child can go to if they ever face an issue they don't want to talk to us about. In my opinion it doesn't matter on gender or number but rather those that you are close to and who meet what you want for a godparent. My siblings were raised in a Christian church and when they were dedicated it was seen that they had a whole church full of godparents.

mrspark812

You most certainly can have your God parents be the legal guardian if something were to happen to you but like PPs have said...that has to be stated in your will. Otherwise the child usually goes to a family member like grandparents.

daniellelea1985

I would narrow it down to one set of godparents. You might have another child and can name the other couple as that child's godparents.

lovermyboys

We are opting for zero because people annoy me. No one is me and will no one will raise my child like me.

gotdiesel2007

lovermyboys said:

We are opting for zero because people annoy me. No one is me and will no one will raise my child like me.

God parents don't raise you child, they provide guidance. God parents have no priority or rights unless stated in your will. Either way it's best to have will in case something happens so you are comfortable with who your children will life with in that situation.

cvbee

Talk to your priest.

lovermyboys

@gotdiesel2007‌ I know they don't but my husband and I are confident in the path that we will make for our child I don't need to choose someone for the title. Because that is all it is to people that I know. They can say they are then never come around. It pisses me off. I just have had very bad experiences all around with Godparents being involved zilch in my life my husband doesn't know who his are and our sons are deadbeats.