I am always feel very sad and start crying when I know that I didn't get pregnant.

Sarah1516

My husband and I got married last year and we immediately ttc after we got married. But still no good news. We are both 35 now. I am feel very nervous and even depressed about this. Every month when I realize that I did not get pregnant I started crying. And this makes my husband nervous too. He now had trouble ejaculation... What should I do? Any suggestions?

hooligans4

Get a referral for a reproductive endocrinologist if you have been trying for more than 6 months with good timing.
Get a bbt and a fertility friend account.
Buy the book taking charge of your fertility.
That is the best advice anyone can give.
Good luck.

rspalding001

Are you Temping or doing OPKs? The more you know about what is going on with your body the better you will feel. I second prior poster and think getting in touch with an RE would be a good idea. Good Luck

KirstenAlecia

What @hooligans4 said

Sarah1516

Thank you so much for your reply! I've already read that book you recommended. I am using OPKs and my periods and ovulations seem normal. I also did my type-B ultrasonic check just before we get married and the doctor Said I am healthy. My problem is that I now made my husband very nervous and he has trouble in enjaculation, especially during my ovulation period. Should we still see the reproductive endocrinologist? Will the RE help my husband or the RE will make my husband feel more nervous? We have tried for 5 months and sometimes not successful due to my husband's problem.

Sarah1516

Thank you! I am using OPKs.

hooligans4

My husband has issues as well so I understand.
If your husband is only having a problem during your fertile week then don't tell him when it is.
When you detect your surge using opk's then just seduce your husband. But you will also have to do it at random other times in the month so that he doesn't catch on.
If you are truly serious about wanting a baby after your 6 months then see a RE. They will make sure there is nothing wrong with both you and your husband. They will so a HSG and a sperm analysis as well as a crap load of blood work.
It is very stressful but you just have to deal with that and do what you have to in order to get pregnant.

Sarah1516

Thank you so much!

2pupsnokids

Hang in there! Of course it's upsetting every month. Don't put off going to a RE, I did bc I was scared and kept hoping time would cure any issues we may have had. It's def taken some time, but at least docs can provide insight and offer options. It was a relief to have a plan and know what the next steps needed to be.

There will be a lot of blood work, semen analysis, HSG, and bring all your records from your obgyn to help in gathering your info. Don't be discouraged. Everyone going through this understands the pressure, the stress, the heartbreak, you are not alone. Good luck and keep us posted.

TTC: 21 Months
Husband: 41
Me: 36
3 failed IUIs
changed REs
1 failed IVF (chemical pregnancy)
13 5-day frozen embryos

Sarah1516

Thank you so much for your help! My best wishes to you!

kindershlitz

I agree with what everyone else said. It is frustrating for sure. The RE will evaluate both you and your husband and then help you with a treatment plan accordingly. Good luck.