I'm pregnant with my second child due in August. My first baby was a csection due to "failure to progress" AKA failed induction (I WASN'T READY! I TOLD YOU!). Before I even consented to the CSection with my daughter, I demanded my OB commit to allowing me to VBAC my second. I had already done a LOT of research on birth methods and was not happy about the CSection.
Flash forward two years - I am a terrific candidate for VBAC. Never got to active labor, "childbearing hips," within delivery and BMI requirements, and have the desire. I've done a lot of research about the risks associated with both VBAC and R/CS (about 2 years of research) and am very aware that for me, the VBAC is the way to go. I'm exceptionally committed to my decision and feel strongly about it.
However - I have NO support around me. My mother in law believes that I am being "risky" and my husband can't understand why I'd risk a uterine rupture - his comment was, "If I told you 1/200 people died in a plane crash, would you ever fly?" He also mentioned that if I had to work so hard to find a supportive provider, it's probably not a safe option. In the past two years, I have shared multiple VBAC stats with him, we've had the conversation 100 times, and yet I still don't feel that I have his support. I'm terrified that without his support, I will get to the delivery room and cave to the "easy" R/CS. The most frustrating part? Until I first brought up the conversation of a VBAC, he didn't realize that it was even an issue after a c/s. Gah!
How did you get your husbands and support people on board? Did they have concerns? How did you address them? Did you have your hubby's full support in the delivery room? Did it make a difference?