I was wondering if any of you have older kids you've held back an extra year before starting kindergarten?
At conferences last week, we were told DD (who is currently in a 3-day pre-school program) will be ready to start full-day kindergarten next fall. However, we're sort of second guessing that for a few reasons: 1.) DD is one of the youngest in the class (summer birthday) and 2.) we're not sure if she is ready for an all-day, every day program.
The other option is to enroll her in the young fives/developmental kindergarten program, which is a HALF day every day.
It sounds like a few of DD's friends are in the same limbo: the teacher says they are ready, but can they handle an all-day program? We don't need to make a decision right away, but we've been thinking about it quite a bit since last week. Ultimately, we'll see how the rest of the school year goes, and move on from there.
Any experiences? Opinions? FWIW, while DD is on the younger side, she's always been labeled as "mature" by her teachers (she also did 2-day pre-K last year). Acidemically and socially, she is doing great. I guess I'm just worried that she won't be able to keep up once she starts the rigors of kindergarten, which I've heard is "the new first grade".
Re: "Redshirting"/Holding Back before Kindergarten *Not IF Related*
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Hi! While I don't have older children I did teach elementary school for 10 years prior to having DD and my last 4 years of teaching was 1st grade. I'm happy to hear when parents stop and think about whether or not their kids are ready for Kinder. So first kudos to you because where we live in CT as long as a child is 5 by December 31st then can start K and most parents will start their 4 year olds who aren't ready and ultimately fall behind in the years to follow.
Now without knowing your DD I can't really say which way you should go. BUT you know her best and if you truly feel like she's not ready for a full day program and the rigor of K (because yes, it's big time nowadays) then the 1/2 day 5's program sounds wonderful! To me it also depends in the state you live in because the rigor definitely varies based on that as well! HTH!!
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Long story short, he was not ready for K this year. Academically, absolutely. But emotionally and socially, no way. He doesn't have a choice next year- off to Kindergarten he'll go.
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I am an August baby and was on the younger end (9/1 cut off in MA) and never had any issues socially or academically so I'm confident that my end of July girl will do fine with K in the fall. She's in preschool just 2.5 hours a day now, but I'm sure the transition will end up smooth even if there is a rough start.
My thought process is that unless there are significant concerns about social or academic progression that I'll just go with the date that is set by the state/school system - someone always has to be the youngest and oldest.
You should also check with your school system. Although I'm sure it's not common, 60 Minutes had a report on Redshirting and there are cities that if you don't show up on time for K they'll just put you in 1st grade when your child enters the school system. The rationale was that when people don't send their kids on time it can affect the school system planning how many kids will be in each school and each grade, and the majority of red shirting kids were getting sufficient academics their redshirted year to be ready to go into 1st grade.
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