Name help!! Ours was unknowingly poached!

CynthiaWaz

My dear friend and I are due 1 week apart, both having girls and we decided not to share names. She actually suggested sharing names and I suggested we did not so neither of us would feel like we had to change names. I did not think about the fact that given her earlier due date, she essentially had dibs:)

Well her daughter was just born and what do you know...she has our #1 name!! We live in neighboring towns so our kids will never go to school together but we have 1 group of mutual friends so there will be instances where the girls will be together.

What would you do? I don't think she would be upset if we used the same name but I'm worried about what the 2 mutual friends might think - they both live in other towns as well. We are in LA...very spread out!

Also wondering if this is a sign the name I love is the next Sarah or Jennifer from my generation. Do I want my little girl to always have others in her class with the same name?? The name is Charlotte BTW. Our back ups are Morgan and Harper - both of which are gaining in popularity!

foxslaw

Who cares, *someone* will always share her name with her so you should just name your daughter what you want?

one2andnow3

I like Harper

Ace226

I think Charlotte is definitely gaining popularity, as well. Maybe try the name board for suggestions? Or nymbler?
In any case I'd probably pick a different name
My suggestion is Dorothy

HayleyBug55

Who cares what anyone else thinks. She's YOUR daughter. If no one likes it,oh well. If they're truly friends they won't judge or get mad.

junebugjam

I feel like this is exactly why you didn't share. So you wouldn't have to change.

I would still use it and I would expect her to be perfectly fine with it. But yes, Charlotte is getting pretty popular. I like it best of your three names though.

tee18

junebugjam said:

I feel like this is exactly why you didn't share. So you wouldn't have to change.

I would still use it and I would expect her to be perfectly fine with it. But yes, Charlotte is getting pretty popular. I like it best of your three names though.

I agree with all of this!

babykoz214

Have you told her yet about your dilemma? I like Harper a lot. Not Morgan as much- but my name is Megan and It's probably just bc it's so close to my own.
What about Scarlet? I love Charlotte and Scarlet so much and always think of them interchangeably.
Anywho, If you really want Charlotte I say go for it!

Beth.1212

I love the name Charlotte. I'd stick with it. 

Mahmah3

tee18 said:

junebugjam said:

I feel like this is exactly why you didn't share. So you wouldn't have to change.

I would still use it and I would expect her to be perfectly fine with it. But yes, Charlotte is getting pretty popular. I like it best of your three names though.

I agree with all of this!

Me too!

Grapes13

Charlotte is cool! Plus if you like to nic name you can call her Charlie- that might help when the two girls are together. Just a thought.

mommie2bof6

Name her what you choose. If it were your sister or close family member then maybe go with a second pick. But don't let a friends name choice stop you if your in love with that name.

lynnz52

Keep the name!

I've had my son's name picked out since highschool, and my husband coincidently wanted the exact same name, to name his first son after his late brother.  There is no way I would change it. I don't care how many people had it, or even if someone in either our families also used the name.

Chcaggie1

All three of the names are beautiful but if you love the first choice go with that! Your friend will understand and WHO CARES about what other ppl think. That should be your very last concern when naming your child.

cinderella4282

If that's the name you love, then use it. 

If you still have some time until she is born, see if there is anything else out there that you love in addition to your other two back-ups. She is your daughter though and this is her name forever. You don't want to regret what you name her....

CynthiaWaz

Thanks everyone for your feedback! I posted a poll on babycenter and Harper seems to be the favorite but I worry it is too trendy?!

Ace226

I think it's far too trendy. I hear that and piper all the time!

stellar2325

Nameberry has the. best. "similar names" feature.  https://nameberry.com/babyname/Charlotte/similar

 

Would you consider Margot ... similar feel.

NQueen11

This kind of happened to us too. We were between Charlotte and Victoria but decided not to share (we also are team green and don't know what we are having). My cousin and his girlfriend are about 5 weeks behind us and as soon as they found out they were having a girl they started calling her Charli. We decided the name was getting too popular too and decided on Victoria. Good luck with your decision!

bookworm982

Two good friends used my DD's (uncommon) name within a year of her birth. (One friend actually picked after I shared my favorite names with her. Grrrrr!) Thus, we almost decided on a different name. In the end we went for it though because our girls will never be close enough for it to matter. Fast forward a year, and a different friend and I had sons with the same (common) name within a few months of each other. I think we are finally in the clear for baby #3, but if not that's fine too. The moral: go for the name you love!

sunshine525

My husband picked out Charlotte for our first before we realized the rise in popularity. I don't care how popular it is, it's a beautiful name! Name your child what YOU want!

Dannylion24

I have a Harper (a name which I was told later was already picked out by my cousin - before she was even pregnant), my sister is naming her first Charlotte, and literally a couple days before I was going to announce that we were naming our unborn child Declan if it was a boy, a diff cousin gave birth to her son and that's what she named him. My point is just that you can't really get away from the duplicate names, no matter how hard you try. So if you feel strongly about Charlotte just go with it. In the case of Declan, we ended up choosing something different (Brendan) and I'm very happy about that now since Declan's become so popular, but I would've still chosen it, if I want really wanted to. As far as Harper being popular, I had it picked out for years, I can't help what trends come and go. My sister is actually naming her baby after her husband's grandmother, just so happens Charlotte has come back into style. It is what it is. Best of luck!

csexson35

Within your mutual friends you guys will probably have sweet nicknames for the girls so I don't think it's weird to use the same name. My best friend has a Hailey and I am having a Bailey. Not exactly the same problem but very similar. When you see your little girl you will know just what to do!