Hello everyone, long time lurker and first time poster here. I have two girls 3 and 4, both born in September. I have been doing joint parties for them since I figure nobody wants to come to party then 2 weeks later another one. So this year for their 4 and 5, we are doing a very large block type Frozen party. We will have a bouncy house and snow cones, also thinking of hiring an Elsa and Anna to come. I am keeping it simple this year and giving the girls a tiara and wand set, and a bottlecap necklace. But the boys, do I do a crown and sword or something? Also wondering do the boys care about getting a necklace. I mean, who am I to judge if your boy would wear one or not, so last year to be equal to all, I gave the boys a necklace. We did a Sheriff Callie theme so they got Peck or Toby, a cowboy hat, badge, bandana, some hershey gold nuggets, fools gold which was rock candy painted in luster dust, and a reusable milk bottle with their names on it. Now, I know some don't like a goody bag, and a friend of mine admitted that she didn't ever even look inside and her boys probably destroyed it soon after they got it, but I feel like it's a thank you to my guests, especially when we have a 2 kid party.
So last year I invited my immediate family, and our friends and their kids. This year my daughter will be starting trans-k in August, a month before the party. If she makes fast friends that she wants to invite, how do we go about it? I am new at this, do I invite their whole family since I will have my friends there? Or just call the mom and introduce myself and tell her about it and have them drop off?
Now onto gifts, last year it took a very long time to open them all. For the girls 1st and 2nd birthdays, we basically asked if anyone had objections to us not opening them here, a few of the older guests that traveled wanted theirs opened, and I sent thank yous to everyone. It would have taken 2 hours if we did it there. So is it OK to just not open gifts at a party? The culture of my area seems to not like that idea. I usually put down a 4 hour window for the party, I feel like if I put 6 hours people would shy away from going, that's a long time! But 4 hours is just perfect for kids playing, eating, and then playing more. I know I cannot please everyone, but I don't like upsetting anyone either. I literally had never been to a child's party before having them, so I need all the advice I can get. Thanks for taking the time to read!.