The "Wow, you don't even look pregnant!!" comments

awolfff

I realize people generally say it with good intentions, but for me, it's the last thing I want to hear 19 weeks in to my pregnancy especially when so many of my clothes do not fit. It translates to me as "oh, I thought you were just putting on loads of weight.."
Is anyone else not really looking pregnant this late in the game?? It's my first pregnancy and I definitely can tell, but not feeling so hot thinking everyone else just thinks I've got a beer gut or something. How much longer?!

allicat300

I got the 'wow you are huge!' Today.... Not sure which is worse but could people stop commenting on our bodies?!

BabyBean54

I am right there with you on this!!! I'll be 20w tomorrow and also a FTM. I get that or the belly stare. Where they stare I guess to see if it's gotten bigger? I just found out I'm having a girl and I have heard it takes awhile for girls to pop - could be an old wives tale but it's rang true for me. I'll agree with you the annoying thing is I feel like I have nothing to wear because I know I have a tummy now! I FEEL pregnant and I have gained 7 pounds. We sre halfway there! I can only imagine "looking pregnant" is going to happen at some point!

awolfff

Seriously! I would love it if people didn't feel the need to constantly stare at my body (let alone make remarks about it that are anything other than "you look great!"). We find out on Monday what we are having! So excited.

BabyBean54

You'll have to post it here so I can know!!! Good luck! It was honestly the best moment! Make sure you have some fruit or a smoothie before to get the baby moving, helps show the goods!

awolfff

Yeah, will do! Thanks for the tip!! I'll definitely try a smoothie before

slr1229

With you as well. At the "it looks like a beer belly phase" but def can tell when no shirt or pants are on!

Workoutmommy

I am already getting comments "how much longer do you have?"...lol, but this is my third baby. I was the same as you with my first so enjoy it. I am also almost 23 weeks too.

Aceybaby

I am confident the bump will pop out soon for you ladies. I'm actually at the opposite end of this, I've gained 27lbs. ( Before pregnancy I use to be very active and eat healthy. Now I love bad food and hardly ever make it to the gym. I have a huge bump already! I love hearing everyone's progress!

rklinge0

Ftm and almost 23 weeks but I have had mixed comments from my fellow teachers. Some told me at 21 weeks that I started to have a little bump while others have said they can't see a difference. I work with every grade but none of the kids have asked since I have come back from the break so it must not be too obvious.
But remember it's winter and our clothes tend to be a little baggier, I bet if you're wearing something tight you can probably see a bigger difference. Don't hate it yet, as a ftm it can take longer for you to start showing.

ChrisLipstick

I don't really look pregnant either. This is my second, but I am very tall and unfortunately still carrying some of the weight from baby no 1. I just look like I am getting fatter.

bossybluejay

I don't think people are meaning it like you're taking it, OP. People tell me that I don't look pregnant at all but to me, I do, because I can't fit into any of my pants and the tops that fit me are few and far between. I'm also pretty tall so I don't really look as pregnant as a lot of women might, although I definitely have a bump. 

Anjelyk2

I got asked when is baby due - when I said June, lovely lady told me I have a long way to go and will have a big baby. I thought she was cute. I'm 20 weeks by the way, 21 weeks tomorrow!

HomeLiveLove

I'm 22 weeks and just now starting to show a little bit. I haven't been around a ton of people recently but when I last visited my family around the holidays I felt like everyone was staring at my stomach. It made me very uncomfortable. I'm not interested in having my body commented on by anyone but my hubs.

missjenniebean

Yeah. I despise all comments. The only one I have liked is "hey mama! You look great!" at least I look pregnant now. Some of my coworkers were telling me a couple weeks ago they couldn't tell if I was pregnant or just gained weight. Just shush. Dont say anything. Dont stare.

I hope that I have never stared at a pregnant lady and made them uncomfortable! Le sigh.

C6091

Yup, I'm 22w3d and I've had family members (I count SO family as my own too) comment on how I'm bigger. One person said ''wow.. You still look like you from the back, tiny but when you turn around it's like BAM.'' My mum even said I now have an ass.. to which my response was so your saying I have a fat butt now. I'm just pissy I guess. I can't be bothered with peoples stares and comments. I know I have a bump & I'm proud I don't need people telling me. I did get stressed when none of my jeans fitted me earlier this week and I had to move to maternity jeans. With someone who's a recovered anorexic and very insecure about my body image you'd think my family would be more considerate.. It's just the way people tell you like your unaware your body is changing. rantover.

sharice111

People aren't saying it to be rude. (For the most part) They 1 speak without thinking or 2 probably think it's a good comment to make. I'm a very petite person and don't show much until the third trimester and this is baby #4. I think when people say you aren't showing its suppose to mean "you look great"... People who say you have a long road to go are trying to be sympathetic with how long you will have a bump. Yes, they are 100% dumb comments and should either say nothing or just say if you look great that day. Try to brush it off, they will only keep coming and eyes will stare at your belly and not your face. Pregnancy is unreal to some people and they are just curious whether they have been there or not. It's exciting. Dwelling on the comments only makes you feel weird and uncomfortable yourself. Try to take it in a positive way of you can and it will help.

lovemywildgirls

I remember all the "you can't even tell you're pregnant!" comments when I was a FTM. It was definitely irritating because I just wanted that noticeable pregnant belly so bad. Now, with third baby on board, all I hear is "wow, you're huge already!" "Are you sure it's not twins?!?" "Is it possible you're further along than you think?!?" Yep, definitely one kid in there. Nope, all measurements are right on track. Thanks for making me feel like a whale though. Appreciated.

dancegurl1118

I really don't understand how being pregnant is a pass for everyone to comment on your body. Every nurse, OB, and midwife who know I'm pregnant comment how I don't look pregnant, which coupled with my lack of weight gain makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. You would think that those who work in the field know not to comment on a women's body but I guess not. I don't know if they are trying to mean it as a compliment but if anything it just makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and not taking care of my baby because I'm not gaining. UGH.

delujm0

I'll be 20w tomorrow...when people tell me I "don't look pregnant yet" I wonder why on earth I work out so much when I'm not pregnant. Because my previously flat stomach from years and years of expensive pilates lessons is quite obviously no longer flat. But if it looks the same to everyone else why do I bother!

I'm sure things will change soon enough though.

Malfie14

A woman I barely know said ''"Wow, you're really big for only five months. You must be having a boy." And then she touched my belly. Wow, I love her method of deduction, that's so science! I wanted to kick her in the face. People really need to keep their thoughts and hands to themselves regardless about how big or small you are! I feel like although my body is changing publicly that I am going through something private and they need to keep to themselves.

Malfie14

@sharice111 your comment made me feel better! Thank you!!!

kbbtah

I don't care at all what others think. "I'm growing human life...what did you do today?"

christy7284

This is my second and I keep getting asked if I am having twins too...

heatheremanderson

I had one employee at thyme maternity actually say to another client (yes I have bionic hearing) I am not sure why she is shopping here - she is barely pregnant

MrsFriede

I have a noticable pregnant belly. It my first pregnancy and I'm 20 weeks with twins. I went from flat tummy to basket ball so fast my head spun. My least favourite comment so far is, "you are going to be HUGE!" Like I don't know that already and it kind of freaks me out... I wish people would keep their thoughts to themselves. Also, I've only gained about 6lbs and when I tell people that they call me a liar or tell me my scale is broken. I can literally feel my skin stretching and my belly growing, so if people want to comment on it the should just tell me how awesome I look I attached my 19 week belly shot as well... Good luck ladies!

thay33

I'm 22w 5d and the lady checking me out asked me if I was POSITIVE I only had one baby in there... Hormones or not, she really hit a nerve with me and I tried hard not to cry... Yes there is only one baby I'm sorry I'm so fat. Some people just don't think before they speak

thay33

Just wanted to show a picture. I personally don't feel like it looks like two babies are growing but whatever.

taboullio84

People are so rude . smh

kendallapp

I am also getting the "you aren't really showing" and a close friend also told me that if she saw me on the street, she would assume I was not pregnant and just had a gut. So hurtful, even if true. I am trying hard to think of something to say back to these comments that isn't mean, but keeps me from internalizing them! It's my first baby, she is measuring right on schedule, and my doctor assured me that it's totally normal not to really pop until 24 weeks or even later. I am perplexed as to why people feel the need to say this stuff, and even more perplexed as to why it bothers me so much. Sending good thoughts to all of you ladies enduring comments about their size, everyone's body is doing something amazing and we should be proud of that!

henrytviii

I had this same issue with #1, it wasn't clear I was pregnant until about 30 weeks.  Now at 22 weeks with #2 I think its obvious but people are saying nothing, avoiding looking at my stomach and I can tell they are terrified to say congratulations least it just be a gut.  I work at a small retail shop with lots of regulars so starting last week I've been wearing only really tight clothes that emphasize the bump, and this is making me feel better about how I look. I've also been preemptively announcing it to people I know, "yes I am pregnant again."  They all  breathe an audible sigh of relief.First time around I announced my pregnancy around 12 weeks and it was a very long period of people saying "You don't look pregnant enough." It's way to late to be sharing this advice but this time I waited until 19-20 weeks to share.  Most people think I'm having this baby in the fall so that is cutting down on the "you don't look pregnant enough" comments. Tight clothing really does help too.

Addelie

I get this a lot and choose not to care. As long as my doc is happy (AS is tomorrow) and it sounds as though yours is - then awesome - sounds as though those abs of yours are doing their job

leightrain

I didn't think I was really looking all that pregnant until this week, just more round. I still feel like the bump is much more defined at night. At 19 weeks, I feel like I'm bigger than I should be and agree, the "you look great, mom" comments are nice, the rest can be safely ignored.

allyshaa

I feel ya. I'll be 23 weeks in 2 days and haven't gained a pound. There's a small bump but I always get the same comments.. Or people that still don't know I'm pregnant which I can't stand

mlindzz

thay33 said:

Just wanted to show a picture. I personally don't feel like it looks like two babies are growing but whatever.

You look great! Super cute bump!!

I think most people can now tell it's a baby bump, not a Christmas baking bump.. lol but for a few weeks I wore belts often to help show it off!

I attached a bump photo from a few weeks ago wearing a belt. I'm sure without it, I would have just looked bloated!

ngaines27

I gained 70 lbs even with my first 2 pregnancies, so by the time I was out of 1st trimester I was getting stares and rude comments. This time I'm almost 20 weeks and still pretty small and it hurts my feelings when I get the "but you're so tiny" comments. I think either way, it's uncomfortable for a person to make any comment concerning my body weight. Just tell me I'm beautiful or keep quiet.

hailee8706

I constantly get "you look great, for having twins" I think it's such a backwards compliment. Like why can't I just look good whether I'm having one baby or two. I try not to let anyone's comments bother me too much because I know people just feel like they HAVE to say something. I seriously don't like any attention on me and I can only imagine the comments I'll be getting when I am HUGE.

frankengibbs

I definitely know how you feel. Although I do look pregnant, the comment that I keep running into is "you look small for how far along you are" or "you look smaller than in pictures" ...both of these bug me to no end for a few reasons, 1. Ummm I didn't know you were an OB! Would you like to weigh in on my vaginal discharge and acid reflux too?! 2. There is no way that I look smaller in person, I literally have 3 pictures online from my family and I look exactly the same. (I went so fat as go ask DH and my best friend who aren't the kind of people to just pander to me in order to make me feel better.) But honestly what bothers me the most is the fact that anyone feels like it's okay to comment on my body noe that I'm pregnant, like somehow it gives people free reign to say you look fat or skinny or that now your ass takes up 3 continents. It's ridiculous... if you wouldn't say it to a woman who wasn't pregnant, why would you say it to one that is? Your body is a private thing. And I know I just got rant-y but seriously, I know how you feel and it sucks. And if you ever feel like you aren't "showing enough" watch the week by week videos and check out HDBD, you'll probably see that you look just fine and if that doesn't work, talk to your doc, they tend to be very smart about these things.

coachjulez

I thought I was the only one. I've gained 15+lbs but I'm not really "showing" it just looks like I let myself go I used to eat well & work out all the time now I just feel unhealthy.

Emilyy93

The comment I seem to get is "wow your hardly showing for 20weeks" I agree with all you lady's it is aggravating! I know I was slightly let's say 'curvy' before pregnancy but come on it's obviously more of a bump!. The main thing that really pisses me off is that people feel it's ok to touch my stomach when finding out that I'm pregnant!. I don't mind my partner doing it as it's intimate & his child, but strangers it's just weird & not wanted!

Dino1219

I'm getting mixed comments but wish i didn't have any. We're already sensitive to our body changing (at least I am) so why start calling me out? I should be so kind to comment on their weight gain. Ladies, let's just try to keep our focus on the fact we are so fortunate to create life, and try not to let comments affect us too much.