Problems only preggos understand

HaruhiChan

I myself have suffered a few losses. Losing a child does not mean you are not allowed to complain about something. The only person who has a problem with this thread is you. I can't tell you how to post or what to post, but that goes the same for you--people can post as they like. They're not posting this on the TTTC board or posting anything offensive. Saying this is an insensitive thread is like saying all the other pregnancy posts are insensitive. Go nitpick at the trimester boards then. They're all pregnant, too. But they shouldn't post anything because it might be insensitive to people who've lost.

Think before YOU criticize. You do not know anyone here enough to know all of the demons they have faced to have gotten to this point. I understand your point that it could be insensitive to those hurting. And I wouldn't dare complain to the face of those who are hurt. I've been there and done it and I remember that brutal pain of losing my previous children. But, this is on a pregnancy board, not on a loss or TTTC board. Your point would be more than valid on one of those boards.

Seriously, just enjoy some fun chit chat. Some people find comfort and kinship in sharing joys and complaints. I just think maybe you could enjoy yourself more than complain about something that you made into a problem. I just would think someone would want to spend their time enjoying something they like rather than seeking out the things they don't just to stir the pot.

I am sorry if you have suffered a loss and if this thread bothers you. I would understand your hurt. I know personally after my losses, I avoided anything that involved pregnancy, but I cannot change the joys or annoyances that other people feel just because I am hurting. The world does not stop for me or anyone else, though it feels though our own worlds have ended.

Not trying to pick a fight, just trying to understand your point as to why you'd try to start drama on a thread that's been going by happily and peacefully for awhile. Your opinion is valid, and I respect your empathy you feel towards those who have suffered losses or fertility problems.

crsanchez87

HaruhiChan 

I agree with everything you said and It was so eloquently put. T&Ps go out to you for everything you've been through. 

blankenbakerh

HaruhiChan said:

I myself have suffered a few losses. Losing a child does not mean you are not allowed to complain about something. The only person who has a problem with this thread is you. I can't tell you how to post or what to post, but that goes the same for you--people can post as they like. They're not posting this on the TTTC board or posting anything offensive. Saying this is an insensitive thread is like saying all the other pregnancy posts are insensitive. Go nitpick at the trimester boards then. They're all pregnant, too. But they shouldn't post anything because it might be insensitive to people who've lost.

Think before YOU criticize. You do not know anyone here enough to know all of the demons they have faced to have gotten to this point. I understand your point that it could be insensitive to those hurting. And I wouldn't dare complain to the face of those who are hurt. I've been there and done it and I remember that brutal pain of losing my previous children. But, this is on a pregnancy board, not on a loss or TTTC board. Your point would be more than valid on one of those boards.

Seriously, just enjoy some fun chit chat. Some people find comfort and kinship in sharing joys and complaints. I just think maybe you could enjoy yourself more than complain about something that you made into a problem. I just would think someone would want to spend their time enjoying something they like rather than seeking out the things they don't just to stir the pot.

I am sorry if you have suffered a loss and if this thread bothers you. I would understand your hurt. I know personally after my losses, I avoided anything that involved pregnancy, but I cannot change the joys or annoyances that other people feel just because I am hurting. The world does not stop for me or anyone else, though it feels though our own worlds have ended.

Not trying to pick a fight, just trying to understand your point as to why you'd try to start drama on a thread that's been going by happily and peacefully for awhile. Your opinion is valid, and I respect your empathy you feel towards those who have suffered losses or fertility problems.

Thank you!!!! I have had 3 losses and was trying to formulate an appropriate response to this but thought maybe I should just ignore it. I would never dare complain to anyone who has been through loss. I didn't see this thread as everyone complaining. I took it as a thread of people just listing the things you only experience during pregnancy just for for fun. I in no way thought anyone was being "whiney". I agree if this thread popped up on a loss board or TTTC board it would be rather inappropriate. However it's posted on a pregnancy board. I am truly sorry for those who have experienced loss as its never easy. I am blessed to have my children and thank god for them! However just because I have children doesn't mean the 3 I loss hurt any less.

Doora

Same here

supersarah77

I, too, have suffered a loss and I am the OP. It is healthy and appropriate to honor the perks, the challenges, the funny, the awkward, and everything else about the pregnancy experience. It doesn't kill the joy or minimize the sorrow.

I also know that some people who would have had May babies but suffered a loss may be lurking. Even though it's painful and I wouldn't recommend doing that, everyone's grief process is different. That doesn't mean any of us should not be allowed to share and seek support and comeraderie, or stifle our experience in any way.

dec2018mom

I'm one of the women who have suffered a loss. I tried many things to get pregnant for 5 years and nothing worked. The one time that I did get pregnant I wasn't even aware of the baby and I lost it. It was terrifying and heartbreaking. I'd never wish that on anyone and I'm deeply sorry to those who have experienced it. Its something you'll never forget. 

Losing a baby is terrible, but women here aren't being insensitive or saying they regret getting pregnant. We aren't saying how absolutely terrible being pregnant is. I know that if you asked ANY of these women they would tell you how worth it their LO is. 
I had the worst morning sickness I think possible until I was 17 weeks and felt awful and on top of that terrified that I could lose my LO, but shes so worth every single second of feeling like garbage because I know my body is doing what it needs to do to grow this beautiful miracle. 

sthrnbelle8806

1) I have literally gotten to the point where I where DHs shoes outside to feed the dog, laundry, etc because putting shoes on is too hard lol

2) DH has to lotion the lower part off legs sometimes because reaching is hard lol

3) I sometimes con my 4 year old step son I to rubbing my back for me. He always says he just wants to help me but I still feel bad afterwards!