Newbie lurker...started TTC this past month...Mirena for 8 years...thoughts?

MrsPowers27

Hey guys!

I'm so excited to start this new journey, I've been following this site and a few others trying to learn as much as possible about TTC and charting.  So much to analyze, I'm kind of full of anxiety!

My husband and I were married in October and said we wanted to get pregnant on the honeymoon (we just got back three days ago).  Previously I had the Mirena IUD for 8 years, with almost no bleeding through the entire 8 years.  I'd have a period MAYBE once every 4-5 months for a day or so, and it was usually so light I couldn't even use a tampon. I probably got one "semi-regular" period every year or so - 3 days of average bleeding.  It was awesome when I was on it, I never had to worry about it! 

I went to my doctor and got a preconception check up, I am healthy in every way (Vit. D was a little low - living in New England, that's to be expected - started taking extra orally).  Have been taking prenatals for about a month or so. I'm 29, husband 33. Doc removed my IUD on the Jan. 8th. but on Jan 2&3 I had some light bleeding prior to removal.  I assumed this would be the beginning of my cycle. That being said, I have NO IDEA how long my cycle really is or what it should be.  It's actually pretty frustrating, because I thought I ovulated while we were in Hawaii - I had EWCM - but I just don't even really know when to test.  I took a test today, negative.  It's been 14 days since my last day of EWCM, but no period or positive.  I don't know when my cycle is complete and it's really hard just waiting.

 LOL I know there's women reading this right now laughing that I'm frustrated at the first month of trying.  I'm just not sure what to think about the Mirena.  I've heard stories of women getting pregnant right away and with multiples, and horror stories of it taking years with lots of irregular periods. I don't even know why I'm posting all of this! Haha, I guess I don't even have a real question...just want to vent and hear some other stories of women that have had mirena for a long time like myself, or who had complete absence of a flow.

MrsPowers27

I'm sorry if I'm not in the right place....I'm not trying to offend at all.  I know the boards all over the place have all kinds of repetitive boards & posts.  I just haven't found much with women that have had Mirena for really long periods of time, most I have seen are women that had it for 3-5 years, or had fairly regular cycles while they were on it. 

LOL I know I need to be patient, it just has NEVER been a virtue of mine and I wanted to vent for a sec. I'm really sorry if this is isn't the right place for that. 

edited for spelling...I swear I type like a child sometimes! ha

PismoDuo

MissMusic said:

NOTJANDA426 said:

@BumpCaitlin‌ imagine if things like the newbie blog and all those helpful women weren't banned.. This poor woman could get the advice she needs! What a shame

...and there wouldn't be 15 "I might be pregnant" or "TTC after 2 months" topics every day.

Does anyone have a copy of the old blog?  It was full of ALL the good info!  Its is exactly what brought be to this site in the first place--all the REAL info that you don't hear other places!!
Edit for wording.

The GKU board on the Dark Side has it pinned at the top.

APAndy4

These forums were created so that we could ask for advice and guidance from one another. There really shouldn't be anything considered as a "stupid question". If each of us knew everything, none of us would be here. Also, sometime it's nice to have a group of like-minded people to bounce things off of.

I don't know much about Mirena, wish I could help. I (maybe) ovulated on my honeymoon too and was disappointed that I didn't become pregnant. We've just got to keep "trying"!

MrsPowers27

Thank you! I didn't expect for my first ever post on the bump....on a board related to "Trying to get pregnant" to feel like I wasn't supposed to ask or talk about what was going on in my head.  I'm not on the "trouble trying to conceive" board...I didn't know where else to go?

I really have looked all over the place for other women that have had Mirena for the length of time I had it, and their stories.  I haven't ever charted until the day I had it removed, because I didn't know how it affected my cycle (or even when to start and end it, since I wasn't getting a period for years at a time).  Now we are anxious to get this started and I'm trying SO HARD to be patient haha.  It's like when you're a kid and you're waiting for summer vacation but it's only April and it seems SO FAR away and you just want it now.

BlueWaffleSpeshul

APAndy4 said:

These forums were created so that we could ask for advice and guidance from one another. There really shouldn't be anything considered as a "stupid question". If each of us knew everything, none of us would be here. Also, sometime it's nice to have a group of like-minded people to bounce things off of. I don't know much about Mirena, wish I could help. I (maybe) ovulated on my honeymoon too and was disappointed that I didn't become pregnant. We've just got to keep "trying"!

Incorrect. These forums were created to generate revenue for XO. It's a common misconception that they actually give a shit about anyone getting any help or support.

APAndy4

@MrsPowers27‌ perhaps we should DM... I was speaking to you in my post and it seems that you actually understood what I was saying.

APAndy4

It seems like there are so many people on here that wait to pounce on anything that can be construed in more than one way... Then they run with it. I spend more and more time in these forums laughing at how worked up some people get over nothing.

lovelychaos03

MrsPowers27

I'm just surprised. Thicker skin? LOL. Then you get attacked for just responding to me. I didn't ask for someone to tell me about waiting...I know I need to wait and be patient.  I asked about Mirena and how people started charting their cycles.  I honest to gosh don't know when a cycle starts for me.  I haven't had a period (except MAYBE on the 1st&2nd, but it was so light it could have been just spotting), does having the Mirena removed affect the start of a cycle? I'm just confused.  My doctor said I should be able to get pregnant right away, obviously that's not the case for everyone, and I was hoping someone had a personal experience. I haven't had a regular doctor ever, since I was military and my records have been lost many many times, so this is the first time I have seen this particular doctor and she isn't familiar with me.

katiebeth93

MrsPowers27 said:

Thank you! I didn't expect for my first ever post on the bump....on a board related to "Trying to get pregnant" to feel like I wasn't supposed to ask or talk about what was going on in my head.  I'm not on the "trouble trying to conceive" board...I didn't know where else to go?

I really have looked all over the place for other women that have had Mirena for the length of time I had it, and their stories.  I haven't ever charted until the day I had it removed, because I didn't know how it affected my cycle (or even when to start and end it, since I wasn't getting a period for years at a time).  Now we are anxious to get this started and I'm trying SO HARD to be patient haha.  It's like when you're a kid and you're waiting for summer vacation but it's only April and it seems SO FAR away and you just want it now.

Everyone is different, so even if you found someone with your exact circumstances, they may have a totally different response. If you get to 60 days without a period--flow heavy enough to need a tampon or panty liner--call your doctor. Until then, you just have to wait it out. It sucks, but...well, most of us here have been doing that for a while.

lovelychaos03

MrsPowers27 said:

I'm just surprised. Thicker skin? LOL. Then you get attacked for just responding to me. I didn't ask for someone to tell me about waiting...I know I need to wait and be patient.  I asked about Mirena and how people started charting their cycles.  I honest to gosh don't know when a cycle starts for me.  I haven't had a period (except MAYBE on the 1st&2nd, but it was so light it could have been just spotting), does having the Mirena removed affect the start of a cycle? I'm just confused.  My doctor said I should be able to get pregnant right away, obviously that's not the case for everyone, and I was hoping someone had a personal experience. I haven't had a regular doctor ever, since I was military and my records have been lost many many times, so this is the first time I have seen this particular doctor and she isn't familiar with me.

I don't think you are being attacked or anything. I think the lack of good resources on this board is the problem right now, and you were being directed to a board where you would have better luck with help.

So rather then letting it get to you, just take the advice and run with it. Not much else to do.

P.s- I'm bored out of my skull here, so I'm adding gifs for entertainment

Carry on.

APAndy4

@MissMusic‌ thank you for high lighting... It's much more clear now

APAndy4

@lovelychaos‌03 I honestly watched that movie for the first time yesterday lol how random

lovelychaos03

It is a classic! @APAndy4

MrsPowers27

Thank you MissMusic for your response.  I don't really know what I'm hoping to hear, I know every woman's body is different.  I guess I was just hoping that someone would magically be like..."oh hey, I'm in the same boat as you and I got pregnant right away!" So I could feel like there's a chance haha. This whole world of cycles and charting and ovulation and everything feels like I'm watching snow in June.

  My husband and I have dated for 7 years, and we just decided to get married really quickly because we didn't want to have the big wedding thing.  We had 35 people and planned it in a month.  Man were the rumors flying that I was pregnant! We hadn't talked about little ones a whole lot until about 6 months ago and I decided I wasn't going to research it much until the days were upon us.  Now I'm just overwhelmed and looking at all this info, and wondering how people ever get pregnant and why didn't we start this earlier and babies are freaking magic fairy dust. LOL