Claiming names?

eandt1111

My cousin is due one month before me. This will be my first child and I've already had names picked out for a long time. Is it rude to throw out what we want early? Or should I just keep it to myself?

Mufflerlove

If you throw out what you want she could like it and use it. She is naming her kid first. I don't think you can claim a name. She has the right to pick whatever she wants, even if you want it too. That's not to say you can't give your baby the same name.

eandt1111

You're right...it's just going to drive me crazy over the next seven months haha!

tigerfish227

You could try talking to her and letting her know how important the names are too you. You may find out that she has names picked out too. Or maybe she isn't sure and could use some ideas. I am very close with a lot of my cousins (they are like my siblings instead) so if one of them were to say hey we have this name picked out and I just want to know what you have cause this is important I would listen and we could make sure neither of us has to worry.

rablissful

I don't really have cousins, but my sister and I have both claimed names. Luckily, we both had/have different names picked out!

sailorgal

If you want to share for fun, go for it! I think it's highly unlikely she would use the name. I'm assuming your relationship with her is fine otherwise you likely wouldn't consider sharing with her.

eandt1111

My cousins and I are really close. I see them at least once a month. I would never call her up out of the blue and claim a name, but I might announce our name choice after the gender is revealed. Speaking of claiming names...I told a friend that I was expecting yesterday and when I got home from our coffee date she had already sent me a text with a list of names that I can't use. It's hilarious how protective and opinionated people can be about names! I was like girl, you aren't even pregnant. We will choose whatever name we like.

irenejean

I might say something in case she is protective of names that she has in mind. I'd approach it more from the angle of "I don't know what names you have mind, but we're set on these names and hope you won't offended if they're the same as your's." It is still pretty early, so bringing it up now might be weird, but after you know the gender sounds like the perfect time. I think claiming names is a bit silly, but I understand that people can feel resentful if someone close to them uses the same baby name as their's. 

angela52689

Apparently my BIL has a girl name claimed, but it's in the top 10 so I don't want it anymore anyway.

snikai

To be the honest devils advocate here....I think you might be overanalyzing the situation. If you feel like telling her as a natural conversation piece, then go for it!!

victoriah1516

I think it's okay if a name is repeated...especially if it's a family name. My brother and his wife had their 4th child last year and named him the name my husband and I picked out if we had a boy. But it's okay. ..He likes the name and so do I...so we're sharing! (Although if we're having a girl then we have no overlap)

excited2bmommy09

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Out of all the thousands of names out there and then adding in the significant other's opinion, what are the odds that you both want the exact same name? But if you are concerned, announcing it after finding out the gender is a good plan

eandt1111

Update: My cousin sent me a text with their name ideas and asked if we had thought of names two days after I posted this. We have completely different names picked out. I was worried over nothing.