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Serious, genuine question

astrat017astrat017 member
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so I have been here since August, only connect using the app and have lurked my fair share and posted on a rare occasion. I have been watching lots of what has been going on since the recent changes and am curious about a few things. For those who are regular posters and consider themselves members of this "community", do you still find you are getting something out of being here and is it worth it to become more involved for someone like me. tBH most of what I read is complaints about the site changes and the annoying posts. I could be wrong because I don't click on every thread but there appears to be more about these things now than actual "community" of even pregnancy related posts. So I wonder if a) you all really are annoyed with the other half of the group who don't follow your standards and plan on leaving b) are annoyed but willing to look past it to maintain the friendships started or c) maybe really enjoy the "drama" of it all and it could be in part why you choose to stay?

I'm not judging or the way anyone conducts themselves here but I really do want to know I guess what you get out of it with everything that has happened. Sorry for the length. Thanks (insert clever gif here cause I don't know how to gif)
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Re: Serious, genuine question

  • UnknownUnknown
    edited January 2015
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    I don't really see how it is. I'm curious about people's intentions behind their posts. I don't think you can deny that the site overall has become negative but I'm not saying it isn't justified either
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    And it's not jut negativity from regulars but from admin and newbies alike
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    frownyface said:

    OH. LOOK. I can't tell what happened at the beginning of this thread because it's been deleted.

    HOW WEIRD. NEVER EXPECTED THAT.

    I don't think it got deleted. Just @getoffmyballs‌ edited their post
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  • specialsn0wflakespecialsn0wflake member
    saltbox40 said:
    I think we should spend time causing trouble at Oct15 :-bd
    I'm down.  What do you have in mind?
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  • dana1047dana1047 member
    edited January 2015
    I'm staying for the ban hammer or until it all goes to shit. I wish we could take back the board and ALL our community be back together but that's not a reality.

    If there's a serious question that needs an answer etc I will post a serious response.

    I'm going to try to be more active on PB. Right now I'm more on the FB group as it's easier and I'm not scared of crazies. I own a gun & know how to use it :)
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  • Avasmom4Avasmom4 member
    I guess I assumed this would be for a season. Not as a long term commitment. Lol Especially after having children, who has the time? From what I've seen the app is informative, but the community is not what I expected. Its almost like joining a club full of bullies. Would be nice just to talk about pregnancy topics and concerns. considering this is a pregnancy site?
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    Avasmom4 said:

    I guess I assumed this would be for a season. Not as a long term commitment. Lol Especially after having children, who has the time? From what I've seen the app is informative, but the community is not what I expected. Its almost like joining a club full of bullies. Would be nice just to talk about pregnancy topics and concerns. considering this is a pregnancy site?

    I'm going to respond to your post in as nice and reasonable way as I can because I'm sure others will react poorly to what you wrote. When I came here I had different expectations too and after much lurking have gotten a better understanding of what people use this board as. Like you I feel at times like "I wouldn't have time to keep up with this board" and joined not thinking past the 9 month mark but I applaud the women who have made lasting friendships and supported each other. I don't agree with every person's reactions and ya some people can be mean, we all can, but what I'm trying to do is discuss things reasonably because calling someone a bully doesn't make anything better either.

    "Be the change you want to see" right? I figure if I come into conversations with an open mind and some common sense that people will generally react well to me.
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  • Avasmom4Avasmom4 member
    I wasn't trying to be offensive. Just Stating what I personally have observed. . What in your understanding do people use the board for? Just curious.
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    Well some people are here to form long term bonds with women in similar situations, some have dealt with loss in ways that someone like myself could never even imagine and are here to get the support they need, some are here just to explore and read. It depends on who you ask. Part of why I created this discussion was to get a grasp on some of this and see what I want to get from this forum. I'm not saying you were offensive I'm just telling you that if you are going to call people bullies (and you have every right to feel that) that you may get responses to that that you don't like
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  • astrat017astrat017 member
    I'm officially a novel writer. Sorry all for the long posts
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  • Avasmom4Avasmom4 member
    astrat017 said:

    Well some people are here to form long term bonds with women in similar situations, some have dealt with loss in ways that someone like myself could never even imagine and are here to get the support they need, some are here just to explore and read. It depends on who you ask. Part of why I created this discussion was to get a grasp on some of this and see what I want to get from this forum. I'm not saying you were offensive I'm just telling you that if you are going to call people bullies (and you have every right to feel that) that you may get responses to that that you don't like

    I understand. I wasn't calling anyone particular a bully. . Just a lot of threads have a common unfriendly theme. And bully is meek compared to what is usually written, unfortunately. Hope you get the feedback you were seeking. Have a good night :)
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    dana1047 said:
    I'm staying for the ban hammer or until it all goes to shit. I wish we could take back the board and ALL our community be back together but that's not a reality. If there's a serious question that needs an answer etc I will post a serious response. I'm going to try to be more active on PB. Right now I'm more on the FB group as it's easier and I'm not scared of crazies. I own a gun & know how to use it :)

    Hey- can someone give me the 411 on the FB group? I'm in a similar position as OP. Daily reader, occasional poster, trying to figure out where I best plug in. I have a PB account, but I think FB would be more my speed.
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  • topaz7777topaz7777 member
    I'm here because I've been here and I liked it... and this is the platform I'd like to stay on.  I hate all the drama and randomness it's caused.  I hate that the community I felt a part of is no longer a community.  But I do think that eventually a new one will form and I'm just waiting for the drama to slow down.  I'm hoping we can rebuild enough to have a new and at least somewhat regular community in the next 3 months before the majority of the babies come because PP is right, this board will become pretty helpful once the babies are born

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  • KatyInNHKatyInNH member
    I'm here for the cake.
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    Expecting our first child April 3, 2015
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  • doxiemom415doxiemom415 member
    KatyInNH said:
    doxiemom415 said:
    KatyInNH said:
    I'm here for the cake.
    THERE'S CAKE?
    There better be or else this has been a huge waste of my time.
    But forreal, it is National Pie Day. Eat. All. The. Pie.
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    doxiemom415 said:


    KatyInNH said:


    doxiemom415 said:


    KatyInNH said:

    I'm here for the cake.

    THERE'S CAKE?

    There better be or else this has been a huge waste of my time.



    But forreal, it is National Pie Day. Eat. All. The. Pie.

    I though 3.14 was pi day?
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    edited January 2015
    Chill- I didn't bitch about you. I just clarified the cause of the drama on some of the month boards. I never said it was unfounded, etc.. And I thought it was ok to voice various opinions on the internet? I've done my best to offer value here when I felt I could.
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    And here's what I posted on over 35... I'd say it is somewhere between neutral and factual? "Hi there... I'm wondering if you ladies will welcome me in. I'm not 35 yet, but will be when I deliver. My birth month board is undergoing some real drama at the moment (the bump banned one of our mods, and a lot of people are angry about thr new terms of use). I'm just interested in a community to exchange ideas and support."
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    souptin said:
    topaz7777 said:
    I'm here because I've been here and I liked it... and this is the platform I'd like to stay on.  I hate all the drama and randomness it's caused.  I hate that the community I felt a part of is no longer a community.  But I do think that eventually a new one will form and I'm just waiting for the drama to slow down.  I'm hoping we can rebuild enough to have a new and at least somewhat regular community in the next 3 months before the majority of the babies come because PP is right, this board will become pretty helpful once the babies are born
    @topaz7777, you were at that same Over 35 post that @specialsn0wflake mentioned, chiming in and love titting as well. So...?
    Link?

    Here you go: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86336312/#Comment_86336312
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    saltbox40 said:
    I think we should spend time causing trouble at Oct15 :-bd
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  • mommybelanovamommybelanova member
    Ifeellikeamammal said:


    souptin said:

    snowbigdeal said:


    topaz7777 said:

    I'm here because I've been here and I liked it... and this is the platform I'd like to stay on.  I hate all the drama and randomness it's caused.  I hate that the community I felt a part of is no longer a community.  But I do think that eventually a new one will form and I'm just waiting for the drama to slow down.  I'm hoping we can rebuild enough to have a new and at least somewhat regular community in the next 3 months before the majority of the babies come because PP is right, this board will become pretty helpful once the babies are born

    @topaz7777, you were at that same Over 35 post that @specialsn0wflake mentioned, chiming in and love titting as well. So...?
    Link?




    Here you go: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86336312/#Comment_86336312


    I read the post title. Enough for me!
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    mommybelanova said:
    souptin said:
    topaz7777 said:
    I'm here because I've been here and I liked it... and this is the platform I'd like to stay on.  I hate all the drama and randomness it's caused.  I hate that the community I felt a part of is no longer a community.  But I do think that eventually a new one will form and I'm just waiting for the drama to slow down.  I'm hoping we can rebuild enough to have a new and at least somewhat regular community in the next 3 months before the majority of the babies come because PP is right, this board will become pretty helpful once the babies are born
    @topaz7777, you were at that same Over 35 post that @specialsn0wflake mentioned, chiming in and love titting as well. So...?
    Link?

    Here you go: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86336312/#Comment_86336312
    I read the post title. Enough for me!

    I didn't make the post title, anymore than you made the post title "Kindness".
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  • mommybelanovamommybelanova member
    Ifeellikeamammal said:


    mommybelanova said:

    Ifeellikeamammal said:


    souptin said:

    snowbigdeal said:


    topaz7777 said:

    I'm here because I've been here and I liked it... and this is the platform I'd like to stay on.  I hate all the drama and randomness it's caused.  I hate that the community I felt a part of is no longer a community.  But I do think that eventually a new one will form and I'm just waiting for the drama to slow down.  I'm hoping we can rebuild enough to have a new and at least somewhat regular community in the next 3 months before the majority of the babies come because PP is right, this board will become pretty helpful once the babies are born

    @topaz7777, you were at that same Over 35 post that @specialsn0wflake mentioned, chiming in and love titting as well. So...?
    Link?




    Here you go: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86336312/#Comment_86336312

    I read the post title. Enough for me!





    I didn't make the post title, anymore than you made the post title "Kindness".


    Regardless, you can't sit with us.
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    Thanks!
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