Brain fog

cosmama

Is anyone else completely unable to make a decision right now?  My brain just keeps going back and fourth.  I am 34 weeks and have to make a decision whether I want to try for a vbac and schedule a c-section at 41 week (which means going a bigger hospital with a new doctor)  or if I just want to schedule a C-section at the local smaller hospital I have been going to.   I know I just need to pick one but I keep going back and forth and it's driving me crazy!   The indecisiveness is getting ridiculous.  

mommaa1615

I can't relate but maybe try making a pros/cons list of each and writing everything down...walk away and then go back and look at all your options?

mle106

Yes, but my indecision lately is usually more about what to eat for lunch.

I agree about weighing both options and taking some time to think about what you'd most like to do. Good luck!

cinnamonstick12

I would try to get more information about the other hospital before deciding. For example, what percentage of attempted VBACs end in a c-section at that hospital and what threshold/criteria do they have for changing a VBAC into a C-section? A hospital that allows VBACs is not necessarily VBAC friendly. It doesn't make sense to go somewhere to try a VBAC if there isn't much of a chance to deliver vaginally in the end. But if the facility is supportive and invested in performing as many VBACs as possible, it may be a good choice.
However, all of this depends on how you feel about VBAC vs C-section in general. If you want to try for a VBAC it is alright to fight for it. It's also alright to admit that you'ld rather have a c-section.

usmcwife89

I can't make a decision when it comes to food for the life of me. I'm hungry but at the same time nothing ever sounds good so I can never decide. Drives DH crazy!

scgmama

Definitely talk to your ob and do some research. I was in the same boat for a while and decided to go ahead and schedule my c-section (my OB set it at 39 weeks) and if I happen to go into spontaneous labor then awesome if not oh well. Of course we only have one hospital in the city I live in with the nearest in state hospital over 3 hours away so I don't have to worry about my decision changing where I deliver. Talk it all over with your ob he/she can help you weigh what's best for you and baby.

cosmama

A VBAC is only an option at the bigger hospital I would have to switch to.  I have met with two doctors there and wasn't super enthused about either one.    I never went into labor at all with my first, so while I would really like to avoid the hard recovery I had last time it's my understanding that not having gone into labor on my own last time means a reduced chance this time as well.

Just wish I could think rationally and not emotionally so I could make a decision.  The clock is ticking!  Thanks everyone for the input!