is it possible to...

belmont1785

Is it possible to co-sleep part time?

We've been laying LO in the crib during the day and for short periods in the evenings to get her used to it. So far she HATES it. She's so spoiled and used to being either in the rock n play or in bed with us. I fear what will happen when she outgrows the rock n play.

While I LOVE co-sleeping, I know how baby/kid focused hubby and my relationship has become and for that reason I would like to save our bed for just us. But I'm finding it hard to commit to training her solely to sleep in her crib because the evening and night is the only time I will get to be near her once I go back to work. (I'm EBF so co-sleeping is nice for that too.) I'm so torn...

How is everyone else handling this?

vv101010

I wanted to keep the bed just for DH and I too. The Rnp was great at first 1-3hr stretches at night and naps. This week I'm lucky to get one 2hr at night and that's it! All day! I see myself caving to co sleep soon. DH and I haven't slept in the same bed since LO has come home anyways. I want him to but he's afraid his snoring will wake her or I'll stab him one sleepless night.

BridgetThoams

I was 100% against bed sharing because my dad rolled on top of me as a baby and almost killed me. But many sleepless nights later and H being away LO sleeps with me in bed most nights. However I put him down for naps all sorts of places. I don't want him to be used to one specific place so that no matter where I am I can hopefully put him down

Snuffy007

NinerGirl52 said:

I had zero intention of co-sleeping but it just happened to save our sanity. Our lo hated the bassinet but for some reason loves his crib (now). I still bring him back to bed after his last morning feed (anytime between 4-7 am) as he'll sleep longer in our bed. Good luck!

This! LO sleeps in his bassinet for first stretch of the night. H leaves for work at 5:45, and whenever LO wakes up after that I bring him into bed with me.

Depending on what your work schedule is like, you could so something similar or switch it around: start out co-sleeping (safely, of course) and then transition to crib after a feeding. When trying to get LO used to the bassinet instead of the rnp, I would switch him after a night feed when he was still kind of drowsy and less likely to fight it

MrsAdventure

When I was pregnant, I swore up and down I wasn't going to bed share. Frankly I didn't believe it necessary. I thought I'd just let Pips to sleep in her crib/bassinet, and without another option, she'd love them both and it'd be easy. Babies are great for humbling such notions like... Having any sense of control.

When Pips arrived, she wasn't having any of that bassinet crap. And I didn't want to have her own room just yet. I was still trying, at that time, to breast feed and as stressful and exhausting as that was, having her in our room just made more sense. So we bought this:

https://www.amazon.com/Summer-Infant-Your-Side-Sleeper/dp/B00CXHH3DU/ref=sr_1_2?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1421393937&sr=1-2&keywords=Summer+infant+91240

It's been a life savor. Pips took to it easily, and she slept safely between DH and I. The sides are mesh which allow for air circulation (carbon monoxide can't get trapped) and I could keep an eye on her as well. About a two weeks ago I decided to take our bed back and we moved the co-sleeper across the room, where she now sleeps happily in her own little bed. When she was sick, we just put it back between us so I could keep an eye on her better. And in the morning when I get up to pump and she wakes to eat, she still sleeps on the bed next to DH after she eats. Switching back and forth hasn't been a problem for us.

rinaealy

DS starts out in the bassinet but after the 2am feeding he doesn't like laying back down in his bassinet so he just sleeps beside me. However once he stops nursing for MOTN feedings I hope that he would stay in his bassinet all night.

I have a question to those women who bed share how do you not wake up LO when you get ready for work in the morning?

beckerji

My H and I would allow our LO to co-sleep with us during the first couple of weeks home, but now I try to avoid it. I didn't sleep well when she was next to me. She would move, it would startle me, and that would startle her. Also I would wake up terrified that she would be smothered. At night she sleeps in her crib and during the day she naps all over the house (on the couch, in her swing, on my bed, in her crib...) I pretty much let her nap where ever she falls asleep.