Anyone ELSE?

eheinick

I am having a really hard time connecting with my pregnancy. Some days I feel like oh .. Im a mom right? Other days I think how am I am mom? I don't feel different. Im not even embracing this miracle I have. I feel disconnected and I feel disappointed. WHY IS THIS HARD? What am I missing? WHY can't I talk about pregnancy? When does that bond come? When is this real?

AlexandraMarcotte

I know what you mean - it's almost hard to connect because it's like being pregnant and having a baby sometimes feels more like an intellectual thing rather than a reality - it's like you know it's real in your head, but don't really feel it just yet.

I have a feeling this may just be what the the first few months feel like, but your connection will totally change once your little one is born. but I wouldn't feel disappointed with yourself or allow any feelings of guilt to take root because the connection isn't there just yet. It may just take some time to set in, but it will come

blukats

I felt that way at the beginning of my last pregnancy and once I started to show, found out sex and started to decorate it really helped. Movement also really helps, when those kicks start it makes it more real.

desquinones

I feel this same exact way. I feel like I get more excited when my friends tell me they are pregnant. I am very thankful to be pregnant and want this baby more than anything; I just am not getting that "click" that I am going to be a mommy or that unconditional love yet.

KrisDav

Same here. I don't feel any connection yet and i feel really bad. But i strongly know there's gonna be one when i become bigger and the baby also starts kicking |moving. It doesn't feel real yet to me but i know it will soon. So dear you not alone in this. It will come naturally.

JHaworth84

It all sounds pretty normal to me! It's early days and your hormones are all over the place- be kinder to yourself! During my first pregnancy the realism came and went- it would feel more real when I had scans etc or bought things for baby but less real when I was just doing every day things like going to work. Now I'm pregnant with my third I still find it hard to imagine that third child being here and real (and not ever going away hehe), in more ways it's worse than before as I already have everything I need so not buying lots of exciting baby stuff. Try not to worry, it doesn't mean anything as to how you are going to bond with your baby once it's here- I'm sure the fact that you're worrying about it means you are going to be a great mummy xx

qtjo5

I find myself telling people that DH is way more into this pregnancy than me. I am glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. I think I am finally coming around though, and once we know what we're having I will finally be into it. :-)

iteachkids81

I think it'll be more real one you can feel the baby moving. I feel oddly not pregnant lately except for the random boob pain and occasional gagging. I hope to be more connected once I can feel baby moving

Julz81

Like pp when you feel movement, that makes it so much more real for me!

BabyShaps

I'm having this issue. I had a 6 and an 8 week ultrasound. My 12 week was listening to the heartbeat and my 16th will be too. At the 8 week ultrasound my munchkin was starting to look more like a baby but w/o feeling it and a real defined bump I keep questioning if I still have a viable pregnancy going on at 15 +3. For the week following a Dr appointment I am all mom mode but after that and in between I keep having concerns.

katrinamorgan

Yes, absolutely agree with everyone's comments! I have said so many times that 'I don't feel preganant' and 'DH is way more excited than I am'. I think it's because I had different expectations for pregnancy; I'm fortunate I haven't been miserable but I think it's very normal to not feel a connection until I start showing or feeling the baby move. I asked my doctor about it when I was in the office 2 weeks ago and she confirmed it absolutely normal, even for non FTM to not feel that connection, even sometimes until the baby is born. I'm at the point now where I'm forcing myself to enjoy the non pregnant feeling because I'm sure I will soon not feel that way and all other things will come along with that. Happy, healthy pregnancies to you all!

tt0519

I was the same way with my first pregnancy, after she started moving it got easier but the real connection didn't come until the moment I saw her! I'm currently pregnant with my second and it's starting out the same way. I think it's just a pregnancy thing, our hormones are going crazy we don't know what to feel. Especially w your first, my maternal instincts didn't kick in until I gave birth.

sekosmides

The whole thing (being pregnant) is overwhelming as heck, and I think we should be able to step back and say this is scary and I don't know how to feel. Certainly you shouldn't feel guilty for not connecting immediately with something you've literally only seen pictures of.....
You'll get there. Don't stress yourself out. With my 1st I didn't really feel a strong emotional bond until a few weeks after she was born. Still don't really feel a connection with this one. I'll get there though.

kris_tee

I kind of feel the same way sometimes. We are happy to be expecting our first child, but sometimes feel that other people are more excited about it than we are. But I think pp's are right. We will feel more connected as time goes on. Hang in there! All will be fine!

ohkay

With my first, it didn't hit until I held her. Don't worry. It will happen.

forevergraceful

I didn't connect with my first until I found out the sex. Some women don't connect until after the baby is born. Just try to focus on having a healthy pregnancy. 

jenmitens

YES!  YES!  YES!!!  This is me to a T.  This is my first, so I'm not sure what is normal and what's not.  I'm 14+2 and not showing at all and certainly havent felt the baby move.  I havent had a Dr appointment in over a month and wont have one for another week and a half.  So I'm still just scared that something happened and the baby wont be there.

I even bought a home doppler to check on her, but since the Dr hasnt used the doppler on me yet, I'm kind of just guessing that I'm finding her heartbeat.  (youtube has helped me figure it out, I think) 

I'm really hoping that once I start to actually show baby and not the bagel I had for breakfast and feel her move it will be more real.  

I havent even bought anything for her yet, besides a crib and dresser.  I just dont want to get super excited and then have the rug pulled out from under me.  

inLOVEalready715

you're definitely not alone, this is common in early pregnancy.  its so surreal, and you might not feel well, its hard to be excited all the time.  I am thrilled but i have times when I'm scared and worried.  I don't feel super connected to my baby yet, but I feel like Im holding back a little out of fear.  we were told around thanksgiving there was no heartbeat and no growth, a week later everything was right on track.  its still kind of unbelievable that everything is ok and Im growing a healthy baby.  try to relax and just be good to yourself.  

stardust6284

I did not feel connected during my first pregnancy. And it wasn't until after my daughter was born and almost a year later that i really felt that connection to her. This pregnancy im currently in i have days that come and go. I find it helps to look at the ultrasoud pictures and reflect on all the wonderful things a new baby brings