24/7 SUPPORT

lcschap

Guys I'm pretty sure if the mods were here they wouldn't want us to stop talking to each other/posting and providing support to each other, even for 24 hours. True, what happened to them was an injustice, but so many of these moms need everyone's help, and the mods would get that.

I say no to 24 hours of silence and yes to 24/7 support to moms out there with burning questions about their precious little ones. No disrespect to the mods, but that kinda seems like what they would want too.

Hugs, all.

lcschap

^ pretty sure this post is exactly how NOT to build a community. If anyone needed an example.

danascullyx

peanutr1 said:

^^Rude

Calling another member rude is certainly not rainbows and sunshine, dearest.

nocatanywhere

I thought the point of all this was so the people who want to give and receive hugs 24/7 would still be here. Are they not?

lcschap

nandaboob06 said:

Do you know the first thing about how a community is built? If you want 24/7 support get a good bra or go to google.

you have been here a month. Sit down and shut the fuck up.

^she said it right there @miaawallace‌

lcschap

When I came here I thought 'The point of all this' was to be supportive, hence my original post. I'm beginning to think I had the wrong idea.

yellow1daisy

I'm a newb and I still understand that it's about the women who have spent years in this community supporting others and giving their free time to better this community being unjustifiably banned.

I have lurked the parenting board and just briefly looked into it and it is certainly not hard to understand why the regulars here would want to stand with them.

All the new "haha too bad this happened to you now you can't be as free to tell us the truth the way you want to anymore" people are just being cruel and inconsiderate. These women have built bonds. They've supported each other and loved each other and telling them they have no lives or they're losers or they can't take the time out from supporting you to show respect for the valuable members they cared about who have been cast out shows you will never truly understand what it is to be a part of a community.

Anyway, I probably ranted more than I meant to there. I just wish all these other newbs would stop rubbing it in and just learn some stinking compassion and grace.

Daisy out.

lcschap

You're saying I don't have any grace? I submitted an opinion and its fine if you don't agree, but why say I have no compassion when someone else literally cussed me out and told me to leave TB? Seems like thats what the community as a whole should be standing against. And if you actually took the time to read what I meant you would see I support the mods, they were some of the first people to support me here, but I think we can all agree they are part of a much bigger picture. Or maybe they're the frame. But either way we're kinda in this together so I think the issue of someone cussing out another member is the bigger issue here.

yellow1daisy

lcschap said:

You're saying I don't have any grace? I submitted an opinion and its fine if you don't agree, but why say I have no compassion when someone else literally cussed me out and told me to leave TB? Seems like thats what the community as a whole should be standing against. And if you actually took the time to read what I meant you would see I support the mods, they were some of the first people to support me here, but I think we can all agree they are part of a much bigger picture. Or maybe they're the frame. But either way we're kinda in this together so I think the issue of someone cussing out another member is the bigger issue here.

I never identified you in my post. I said the newbs trying to rub it in and being all "haha" to the regs are the ones lacking compassion and grace. If you want to peg yourself with them then go ahead. It's the goading I'm seeing around here that's bothering me.

And, I would not speak for the banned mods.

nandaboob06

See, what i said above was rude. The point i was making is this isn't google and no one owes anyone automatic support because they got knocked up, are trying to get to that point, or otherwise.

Lots of damn good people got banned and for what? So whiny little twits can get a glitter shower? No.

tigerfish227

I have really tried hard to ignore all this drama and not get involved but at this point I think things have gone entirely too far. You people are all acting like this was a personal attack and not a company providing a free service attempting to create a safe and friendly environment for people to share. They aren't trying to destroy a community. They aren't trying to take anything away from us. They are demanding that we all respectfully share our opinions and experiences without being assholes to each other. I read through the TOU that they posted and it really is not that big of a deal. Yes it sucks that people got banned for what seems like no reason, or because they didn't support whatever changes the owners wanted but taking that out on the new people that came here for support and the community that supposedly exists here DOES NOT HELP! Nowhere in the new TOU does it restrict freedom of speech, expressing your opinion or anything of the sort. It does however restrict bullying, hazing and just generally being disrespectful to others which I personally am very grateful for. The heightened stress levels caused by all this bickering amongst ourselves I am confident will not have positive outcomes for anyone so why don't we all just agree to disagree. If you don't like the new TOU nothing is forcing you to stay. If you, like me, don't think it is that big of a deal and just want a place to share, vent, ask questions and whatever else without being made to feel stupid or get attacked then I look forward to spending the next 9 months (or more) with you.


PS: rainbows and glitter are overrated!!!

redandblack14

Well. There goes our BMB.

It is sad this had to go down because this was the only outlet for many of us; however, I understand and respect he stance many members are taking.

bfonz619

@peanutr1 As someone who has experienced a loss, and is here to give as well as receive support, your comment to @nandaboob06‌ was completely out of line. Regardless of whether you agree or disagree, if you're going to preach about being a supportive community, I highly suggest you apologize.

Edit to fix spelling.

EmeJay

If I may offer some {much needed} perspective here, I completely understand that the situation is overwhelming for new members who are only trying to find a group of ladies in the same situation as them and to get/offer support.

But for some of us, theses boards have been doing that for quite some time now. We have given and receive support, help, friendship and some might-be-harsh-but-very-needed dose of reality.

This isn't about a new TOU that are not crazy at all; it's about wonderful women who have given their time for free helping moderate the boards and were ASKED their opinions on the new TOU. When they tried to voice their opinions and concerned, they were banned without any kind of warning.

XO is a company and its purpose is to make money. But why should we blindly stay here and say nothing when they do not even account for the people using their site?

And for the record, the only times I've seen people go against the TOU (using bad words and all.) were in situation where we were wished infertility by spiteful women.

That's all I have to say about this. Anyone have the rights to stay here or go as they want and for the reasons that they want. But please don't make assumption on why people were hurt yesterday.

nandaboob06

peanutr1 said:

I apologize for my general statement, however someone looking for sympathy from the Internet should probably stop walking around telling perfect strangers (who are not being ass*oles) to "sit down and shut the fuck up". glass houses and all.

El oh el.

You basically said I shouldnt be posting here because I'm not a s15 mom ans I let you know I should have been. I'm not and never looked for sympathy. I added it to my siggy, never announced it because frankly that would have made it harder on me, but I did have some very amazing women on here reach out with support-- the same support I have given so many. Did they have to? Absolutely not. Was I expecting it? Nope. Was I thankful for them? You bet your ass. Your comment was shitty and insensitive.

And hell yeah I told someone who doesnt know and doesnt care to grasp the bigger picture to sit down and shut the fuck up. I'll stand by that all day, every day.

But go ahead, keep sticking your fingers in your ears. Good luck with this one, ladies.

tigerfish227

The point ink

andtheheartbreakers said:

tigerfish227 said:

I have really tried hard to ignore all this drama and not get involved but at this point I think things have gone entirely too far. You people are all acting like this was a personal attack and not a company providing a free service attempting to create a safe and friendly environment for people to share. They aren't trying to destroy a community. They aren't trying to take anything away from us. They are demanding that we all respectfully share our opinions and experiences without being assholes to each other. I read through the TOU that they posted and it really is not that big of a deal. Yes it sucks that people got banned for what seems like no reason, or because they didn't support whatever changes the owners wanted but taking that out on the new people that came here for support and the community that supposedly exists here DOES NOT HELP! Nowhere in the new TOU does it restrict freedom of speech, expressing your opinion or anything of the sort. It does however restrict bullying, hazing and just generally being disrespectful to others which I personally am very grateful for. The heightened stress levels caused by all this bickering amongst ourselves I am confident will not have positive outcomes for anyone so why don't we all just agree to disagree. If you don't like the new TOU nothing is forcing you to stay. If you, like me, don't think it is that big of a deal and just want a place to share, vent, ask questions and whatever else without being made to feel stupid or get attacked then I look forward to spending the next 9 months (or more) with you.


PS: rainbows and glitter are overrated!!!

Once again, this is not about the new TOS. I don't know how many fucking times that needs to be repeated.

And for anyone that doesn't understand, you clearly weren't a part of this community. I spent months over on TTGP and the mods there were amazing. They gave up their time, without any compensation. They provided amazing advice and they truly made it a community. Then they got banned for no reason. Women who volunteered their time to providing "advice 24/7" got kicked out of the communities they were responsible for building.

And @peanutr1‌ your insensitive comment about needing to "be a sept 15 mom"? Yea, go look at TTGP. All those women are trying so hard and would give anything to be sept 15 moms. Some of them were supposed to be sept 15 moms, but lost that chance. So I hope you feel all big and powerful with the fact that you just rubbed your pregnancy in the face of amazing women who are not pregnant-not by choice.

It blows my mind all these WKs that think they are standing up for something but don't even realize they are the whole problem.

The point I'm trying to make here is that all of you who claim to be regulars and are so outraged by this event are creating a negative and hurtful environment for those of us who just got here by carrying on about it. Do I agree with what happened, not from what I have heard. But that is my point. Everything that is going around is based on hearsay and assumptions. I believe that it has been said that the company did not give an explanation for why they banned certain people. Does that definitively mean that they had no reason at all? No! Does it mean that whatever reason they had was justified? I don't know and quite frankly I doubt any of you do either. All i'm asking is that instead of taking it out on the community and attacking anyone who doesn't understand what is going on or that isn't personally hurt by it, why don't we focus our energy on trying to maintain the atmosphere that you all claim to have built and cherish so much. For us new people, being inundated with hateful and vicious attacks not only on the company but on each other is not productive. It does not paint a pretty picture of what we can expect for the next 9 months or however long we are here.

The whole reason I choose this site was because it came highly recommended from several others that have used it in the past. So far I am not getting a good impression and from what I can tell most of it is being over dramatized and blown out of proportion. I'm not saying that any of you shouldn't be hurt or outraged, just please stop being hypocritical and destroying the very thing you claim to want to protect.

AmyGardner430

peanutr1 said:

You mean the regs are the ones that run around to all the boards stirring s*it up? Bc all I've seen from them is a bunch of complaining all day. I'd hardly call that silence. This boards still has lots of people ignoring the nonsense and discussing pregnancy relevant topics. If you're so angered by that, just go away!

Oh FFS, Peanut, please just finally tell us all exactly what crawled up your ass, gave birth and died.

AmyGardner430

What happened to my other comment? 

Suddenly moderators have power again?

AmyGardner430

Loss shaming is really, really low.  I don't like a lot of what you have to say Peanut but that is just way below the belt.  I hope you never have to feel the pain, emptiness and grief of pregnancy loss.  

AmyGardner430

I have been wanting to tell you for a long time that your holier than thou attitude is offensive.  Notice I didn't say that you are or are acting like a bitch.  But the things you say and the way you say them cause me to question your judgment, and offend me personally. I feel better now.

bfonz619

tigerfish227 said:

The point ink

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The point I'm trying to make here is that all of you who claim to be regulars and are so outraged by this event are creating a negative and hurtful environment for those of us who just got here by carrying on about it. Do I agree with what happened, not from what I have heard. But that is my point. Everything that is going around is based on hearsay and assumptions. I believe that it has been said that the company did not give an explanation for why they banned certain people. Does that definitively mean that they had no reason at all? No! Does it mean that whatever reason they had was justified? I don't know and quite frankly I doubt any of you do either. All i'm asking is that instead of taking it out on the community and attacking anyone who doesn't understand what is going on or that isn't personally hurt by it, why don't we focus our energy on trying to maintain the atmosphere that you all claim to have built and cherish so much. For us new people, being inundated with hateful and vicious attacks not only on the company but on each other is not productive. It does not paint a pretty picture of what we can expect for the next 9 months or however long we are here. The whole reason I choose this site was because it came highly recommended from several others that have used it in the past. So far I am not getting a good impression and from what I can tell most of it is being over dramatized and blown out of proportion. I'm not saying that any of you shouldn't be hurt or outraged, just please stop being hypocritical and destroying the very thing you claim to want to protect.

Funny, the only hateful and vicious attacks I've seen are from newbies throwing their pregnancies in the faces of those who have experienced loss.  If you actually read through "regulars" posts and threads yes, you will find snark, but more importantly, you will find well informed advice and supportive responses.  While I understand your desire for things to move forward, spouting off unfounded accusations isn't the proper way to get your point across.

TarheelMama202

Well, the one good thing that came out of this is that Peanut was able to show her true colors. How long did it take over here? A week? 

AmyGardner430

CFearsy said:

Someone explain to me why this thread is now under BumpHQ? Are we really that special?

CruiseGirl28

CFearsy said:

Someone explain to me why this thread is now under BumpHQ? Are we really that special?

What does this even mean?

AmyGardner430

seadragon2013 said:

Loss shaming = real bad apples

bad apples.  I see what you did there.

allrightmeow

CFearsy said:

Someone explain to me why this thread is now under BumpHQ? Are we really that special?

  Because the bump interns be like..

erobbins09

CFearsy said:

Someone explain to me why this thread is now under BumpHQ? Are we really that special?

We aren't in the HQ... We're really in

erobbins09

Bump Interns be like...


BumpAdmin be like

And our beloved Mods be like

nandaboob06

@gothefawktosleep‌, i like you.

See ya on the flip.

erobbins09

After being hit hard with the mass exodus earlier this week their stock is regaining momentum.

I am out.

erobbins09

Ps you can't keep me from posting images, bitches

erobbins09

QFP this

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