More Babies in Your Feature?

MrsAdventure

DH is already starting to ask when we will have another LO, so I'm curious, those of you who are planning on trying for another LO, when do you want to start trying again?

I told DH we will talk about starting to try again on 11.11.15, the days after Pips' first birthday. Apparently this sort dissapointed him. He was expecting sooner. He turned 30 this past year and his biological clock is having a panic attack about being too old. And it's making him worry that I'm too old too (I'm 29, thank you very much DH). I love my husband, but he can be such a ship dit sometimes.

alli65

Oh Lord you ladies move quick!! Haha! I am 29 as well H is 30. Baby #2 won't even be open for discussion until L is AT LEAST 2 years old. If we are even blessed with #2. I want to give L a sibling but want him to have us to himself for a good bit. Newborn bootcamp has been a wild ride for us between reflux, wont sleep any where but on us, blood in diapers. My blood pressure needs to decrease before I toss a 2nd one in the mix to worry about.

bustarmu21

Ha, my DH and I were just talking about this last night around 1am while trying to get LO to go down to sleep....we have be done just after one. We will both be 32 in the next coming months. Not sure I'd have the energy to do the newborn thing with a toddler in the mix. But we will see. Maybe I'll change my mind once LO is a few years old.

smboswell1

I'm going to wait until I'm married to have another one:)

Ladies, you aren't too old! The people I nanny for are 40 and 38. Their kids are 7, 4, and 2!

abbyful

This is baby #2 for us.

At my 6-week postpartum visit with #1, I was asking my doctor how soon I could have another. (He said 6 months. We planned to try at 9 months, but I was EBF-ing, and my period didn't come back until the week DS turned 1. Then I got pregnant and miscarried. My kiddos are 2 years 3 months apart.)

I would like to maybe have 1 more. We won't start trying until at least 9 months.

I'll be 32 in April, I want all my baby-making done by 35.

mommymeg143

I think we're aiming for after her first birthday.

If we all start trying after the first birthday, we could be in the same BMB again.

mander82

After the past (almost) 2 months of demon spawn living in my household,  I don't ever want to do this ever again. 

I like the idea of having another one so they can be buddies growing up together.....but then I think about my pelvic pain I had during pregnancy.....and I think about how this child WILL. NOT. STOP. CRYING.   

crizz13

LO is our first - timing wise, we want the next to be a March baby (perfect timing for a teacher) but March '16 means we would start trying in June....which seems way too soon for me!!! Who knows how I'll feel in a couple months.

mrsransom

We have 2 miracles. I had a very rough pregancy & very tough recovery from this c-section. Going through that again terrifies me, but not enough that I could get my tubes tied. I just want to leave the possibility open. The odds of it ever happening on its own are insanely low, but it has happened twice, so we are using birth control for a couple years (we never wanted any closer than 3 years apart), & then it will just be in God's hands. If it's meant to be again, it will! We are financially able to have another & would have plenty of love, but if it didn't, we are very blessed & happy with these 2!

rox825

NinerGirl52 said:

Sorry ladies but I cringe everytime I read references to being old at 30. I got married at 30 & it took 8 years to have our LO. I'll be 39 next month & we aren't using bc ... If we're able to have another than we're all about it.

I'm 33 but H is 40 and we were only able to get pregnant with fertility treatment, so we're not using birth control either. If we get pregnant again on our own I'll be a happy harpy! If not we know how lucky we are to have LO and will be content with him.

BrianneG78

We'll probably start trying as soon as my period comes back. We definitely want LO to have a sibling, I'm 36, and it took two years to get pregnant the first time.

2ndGeneration

 Yeah you guys arent too old!!! I'm 43, dd was a very planned baby She's my 6th-if she was my first, I would not hesitate to try again. Being this age hasnt slowed me down much, and it was actually not a difficult pregnancy, more tiring than anything.

 My kids range from 18 months apart, to 11 years (this dd). The ones that were about 2 to 3 years apart, that was the easier IMO. The 18 month span was hard.

 Actually, THIS baby was easiest, because I have 2 adult, 2 teens and a tween to help LOL.

MmmPopcorn

I would definitely like one more, but I would like to wait a while (at least 3 years) before trying again. I may feel differently in a few months, but this newborn thing has been so, so hard. DS is a fairly content baby, and I still feel like I'm going to collapse from the stress and exhaustion sometimes. DS still isn't sleeping all that great (we are starting to see a few four-hour stretches at the beginning of the night here and there, but usually not). I need to wait for newborn amnesia to kick in before I can seriously start planning a second.

Jpinky9

We definitely want more, we would both like 3 if we can do that financially. But I suspect we will start trying for number 2 by the end of this year for sure. We would like them close in age. My sister and I are 20 months apart and we are super close, the teen years were a bit of a bitch though lol. DH and his brother are 4 years apart but they are super close.

I will be 34 in June and of we want to have 3 we want to start soon.

MrsAdventure

I should have clarified. I do not feel I'm too old for more kids. Nor do I feel DH is, or that any of us here are too old. DH just thinks he is, and since we're only 9 months apart, by proximity that makes me old too. At least in his mind. I love him, but like most men he is an idiot sometimes.

torontokim

I'll be 30 this month & DH will be 34 this year. We would like to have them close in age, much like others have said I didn't like having a 4 year gap between me & my brother.

So we may try again in the summer. Depending on how that goes, I would need to go back to work if we wanted a 3rd. DH is already excited about another one!

Maelara

I'm done having babies!! Woot woot!

Snuffy007

We want more, but haven't discussed timing. Since LO was a surprise, we need to get a few things in order (like moving into at least a two-bedroom place) first before trying. But I don't want them to be too far apart--my sister is 6 years younger than me and we didn't become close until maybe her second year of college. I would like 3 total if it's financially feasible, so far I've gotten H on board with having 2.

kayd8

LO just turned two months and I already have baby amnesia for the first month! Although I feel like I "get" the newborn thing now, our decision for one or two hasn't changed.

FWIW, my husband and BIL and 4 years apart and close. Being same gender probably helps that.

jessa1228

At the very earliest we'll start trying when DS is 1.5 years. The thought of 2u2 terrifies me.

wildflower75

Maelara said:

I'm done having babies!! Woot woot!

I am as well!!
YAY!!
2 girls and that's it!
I'll be 40 in 3 months!

missnacholover

Well, LO is the current star in my feature presentation....(See what I did there?)

I'd like one more.  DH says he wants one more, but on rough days he claims he's more "one and done".  So we will see.  We've decided to table the discussion until DD is a year old with probable start trying around a year from now. 

ExcitedKJ

We will start trying within the next month. It took us 3 years to get our LO but we really don't want it to be that long before number 2 arrives.

hjenni

This is our first and we want another one. We're shooting for the next 3-5 years.

krgriffin26

We will stop preventing pregnancy on New Years Eve. I have already said to DH multiple times that 2015 is a prego free year. We do want ours some what close though so if we aren't pregnant again by June 2016 we would probably consult our Dr for help. DH is 37 and has said repeatedly that he doesn't want to wait too long before trying again (he actually complains that 1 year is too long to wait but my vagina disagrees)

Dannielle87

Since it took a while to conceive both of my LOs we are not preventing this time. We will hopefully get pregnant with the next one this year sometime.

howin23

We want more soon. My OB said to wait at least 3 months, which would be late February, but I'd like to get a little more of the weight off first. I think we'll start trying once I'm back down to within 5 lbs of my prepregnancy weight.

moroccojade

There are almost 7.5 years between our girls.  I gave birth at 31 last time...  39 this time.  Wouldn't change a thing.  I would not want to be pregnant with a needy toddler.. nor would I want to have a newborn with a little one either.  It was really fun to go through all of this with my school aged child!

hiketheworld

We want 1-2 more but probably will not start trying for another two years.

MrsAdventure

kegcrc said:

I have no effing clue. I almost want to just do it again quickly and get it over with so I can lump my sleepless nights together. ETA if I don't do it soon I may never.

I feel the same way. Only I don't want DH to know. He's a master a finding the weak points in my arguments for why not to do something and wearing me down. Most of the time I don't mind because it's not usually life changing stuff. But I need a little time to not be pregnant.

beckerji

My DH and I have had this discussion and the only conclusion we could come to is that we're not ready to make a decision. Knowing what to basically expect during pregnancy, labor, and delivery has taken away a lot of the fear of having another. But I have two step children who are already 8 years older than my LO. My husband and I are torn about whether we want 4 children. Plus with the big age gap we're creating a second generation family and it already been complicated with just one baby.

carafern

Both dh and I have siblings and I would love for LO to have that bond. We hope for two, or maybe three. It also took us a long time to get pregnant, but I'm hopeful it won't take us so long next time. I definitely wont be ready to be pregnant for a year at least.

JFH2010

We're done. Part of me likes the idea it a third, but it's SO tiring when they're little, and I'm looking forward to traveling and having days uninterrupted by naps and getting my career back on track. I don't want to start back at zero in two years. Age is also somewhat of a factor - if I were 10 years younger maybe I wouldn't mind sacrificing a few more years of travel and career and whatnot (not that I'm sacrificing my career, but I'm not going to go balls-to-the-wall with little babies). But I'm 38 and I feel eager to get back to (parts of) my regularly scheduled life.

dawn6041

I have twins that recently turned 3, a son who's 18 months and then this little one. It's crazy here but I already am thinking about another one. I know it's crazy but my kids are my life. My hubby is almost 38 so if I want more we have to do it sooner rather than later, at least according to him, I'm only 31. I would love to have 6 kids but if I never had more that would be ok too. I definitely want another boy so my son had a brother but if we get all girls that's ok. I think the babies get easier as I go and so do the toddlers. After all I got the worst done first since I had twins first and it's become all I've known for the last few years so I don't miss the freedom of having a little me time that much.