DS dosent like to share snacks

ladylisalt

So my DS is 3.5 and a pretty sweet kid for the most part. He loves to play with friends,be social etc. When it comes to sharing snacks with friends he gets very territorial. For ex. I will bring a big bag of pretzels or animal cookies somewhere and he sometimes melts down if I offer them to his friends. Today I asked him to offer some cookies to his friend and he did but then immediately got upset. Sometimes it turns to crying. Really? I explain to him that mommy bought enough to share and we have more at home,etc. but he does this quite a bit. Usually a little later when he's calm I try to talk to him about it and be rationale. Just wondering if this is pretty typical of the phase or not. Drives me crazy!

ashiscute

I think your problem is expecting a 3.5 yo to be rational. I don't think it's abnormal. Most kids aren't great sharers and can be territorial.

pb&fluff

LalaMama81 said:

ashiscute said:

I think your problem is expecting a 3.5 yo to be rational. I don't think it's abnormal. Most kids aren't great sharers and can be territorial.

This. I don't know many adults who like sharing their things either.

I don't even like sharing with my kid sometimes.

ladylisalt

pb&fluff said:

I think your problem is expecting a 3.5 yo to be rational. I don't think it's abnormal. Most kids aren't great sharers and can be territorial.

This. I don't know many adults who like sharing their things either.

I don't even like sharing with my kid sometimes.

ha ha ha!

ladylisalt

tas1883 said:

DD shares pretty well but she has her moments like every human does.  Try packing him a bag of snack and a separate bag of snacks to share with friends and see if that helps at all.

I have done this on occasion but thanks for the reminder. I think I need to do this more often.

thechickencoop

Ask me to share my cookies...see what happens.



Lol, but what ^ they said.

shakinros

ladylisalt said:

tas1883 said:

DD shares pretty well but she has her moments like every human does.  Try packing him a bag of snack and a separate bag of snacks to share with friends and see if that helps at all.

I have done this on occasion but thanks for the reminder. I think I need to do this more often.

Yep I agree with this. DD absolutely will not share her food with other kids. Separate containers are ok though. I get it. I don't like to share my food either.

ladylisalt

Thanks ladies, and the humor helps. With all joking aside about not wanting to share food as adults I just had to post this question bc I have seen my DS's friends share their food without a fuss and just was more concerned why my ds does it, but I guess consensus says its age appropriate.

kladd7182

ladylisalt said:

Thanks ladies, and the humor helps. With all joking aside about not wanting to share food as adults I just had to post this question bc I have seen my DS's friends share their food without a fuss and just was more concerned why my ds does it, but I guess consensus says its age appropriate.

It could just be his personality, and not an age thing. Instead of taking a big bag of something that he might classify as "his" why not try taking individual snacks like fruit snacks, or granola bars? Maybe he would be ok sharing something that's not just one big item.

ladylisalt

good point, I haven't done this in awhile.. I will try this thanks.