Feel Good Friday

KH826

Happy Friday Everyone!

Share with us something (or more than one, if you've got it!) that you feel good about today

QOTW: Sometimes you can feel good one minute and then upset, frustrated or sad the next. We are all human! Tell us something you struggled with this week, and perhaps what made you feel better about it, or how you hope to work through it if you are still struggling.

ball.and.chain

We are on vacation next week! Not jetting off to Rio or anything but a week off work is a week of work.

As for struggling, I'll go with my weight! I gave myself a break as far as eating goes until our vacation is over, but that doesn't mean I like how I look and feel right now. Oh well, I'm starting over soon!

bfonz619

It's Friday!  That is always something to feel good about in my book.  I also feel good about hitting our 5 week milestone on Sunday.

Not just this week, but since finding out I am pregnant again right after a CP, I have been struggling with almost looking for signs that this pregnancy isn't viable.  Whether it is incessantly testing or checking for bleeding every time I am in the restroom, it was becoming too much always feeling on edge.  What I have done to redirect those feelings is to make sure I write out my thoughts for that day, no matter how busy my day becomes.  Once they are written down, it helps me move past stressing over them and now those fears aren't consuming me.

Edit to fix words.

YBnormal85

I'm pretty happy that I got the post Christmas mess under control! We posted posted our celebration a bit because little miss had the stomach bug,but now we finally have all the decor back in the attic and the house seems so much bigger ;-)

I often struggle with keeping up with housework,and caring for the baby in the way I want to. The baby always comes first in my book,and the housework can wait..I'm happy this week I was able to get things done and not feel like the baby was being neglected at the same time.

KH826

Today I feel good about having J's car back again after ANOTHER trip to the mechanic. We have another new alternator (free of charge), and a new battery. Seems the work that was done originally prior to this whole mess with her car was not done correctly. I am optimistic that this car will get us by for a little while longer until we are financially ready to buy what we want for our next big family car.

Today I also feel good about the fact that I am not sick! So many people around me are hacking up a lung, running to the bathroom, or otherwise miserable with awful colds and/or stomach bugs. So far, I am showing no signs of sickness (same with J and Will, thankfully). I really hope we can ride it out for a while without getting sick!

In terms of things I struggle with... I have been struggling a lot lately with self esteem issues, and regretting the things I say/second guessing myself and worrying about being judged. I have always been a sensitive person who cares too much about what other people think, but it feels lately like that has gotten worse for me. I can't seem to feel consistently confident without fretting over how others perceive me. Perhaps this is too deep for this forum, I don't know... but I feel like you peeps are my friends, and I trust you. I fear maybe I overshare. I also fear that I am generally annoying and difficult to "like," These are all things that I need to work on. I don't feel this way all the time, but when it creeps in it seems to feel overwhelming. This week I have spent too much time thinking about this and having bruised feelings about silly stuff that doesn't matter. I hope to find a way to work through this for myself without having to process out loud and burden others with my neuroses. That is my action item!

redrockmama

Well to start with I feel great that it's Friday!!! This week went by surprisingly fast. I also feel good that I stopped to get a latte this morning on the way to work (J stole my coffee mug and is holding it hostage). And our little love is a happy, healthy, social little guy according to the pedi. 

Rough spots: this week was the one year anniversary of my step mom passing away. It's been a hard week, month, year. Nothing has really made me feel better about it. I think it's finally starting to settle in as real, which makes it that much harder. I think my brain wanted to think it was an extended vacation for a while. I don't know how to accept she is never coming back and that I will never get to talk to her again. It freaking sucks. I hope to work through it by keeping her alive in memory, talking about her, telling Thijs about her, maybe making some art. Her daughter/my step sister is getting a tattoo in her memory so we'll go along for that. 

ETA: Sorry that was way more about the bad than the good. 

2momsinCA

@kh826 I need to write that you are so so not annoying in any way shape or form. Based on the wonderful, thoughtful, helpful and generally awesome things you post on here I feel like you are the definition of a "good person". I don't know you IRL but I have no doubt that you are a sweet, caring friend and coworker. You write in such a way that you are relatable and speak from experience with genuine empathy for others. I always look forward to what you have to say and even though I don't participate in all the threads, I can always count on you for supportive words when they are needed.

I have to admit that I am sometimes over taken by similar thoughts though. That perhaps I'm just annoying to people or that my comments aren't helpful or come across the wrong way. It keeps me from participating as much as I would like (that and generally having no free minutes with work + babies). I understand how you are feeling but please know that, at least to me and I'm sure everyone else here, your feared self image is in no way how you are perceived in this forum. Honestly, everyone loves you!!!

KH826

@2momsinCA - thank you so very much for your kindness. I promise I wasn't looking for ego stroking, first of all! It makes me feel a little less like a crazy person to hear that you feel this way at times too, though. It is reassuring to know that I am not alone in this kind of self consciousness. At any rate, thank you again for everything that you said. It means more to me than you know. I would also add that your comments are always thoughtful and meaningful as well, so I can honestly say "right back at ya!" in terms of everything you said about my participation here.

JGY

@kh826 - I love you and I know I'm not alone.  I also feel like the people on this board are my friends, and I'm often saddened by the fact that I can't just call you guys up to go for a drink or schedule a play date, or walk our dogs together.

I'm sure that most people that participate here feel the way you do at times, so of us more often than others (I'm in the more often camp).  Please don't let it keep you from posting, I promise I'm always eager to read what you have written and hear your perspective!

 

StacyLH24

I feel good that as of yesterday I have 16 follies cooking in my ovaries.

I feel good that my RE told us yesterday that he will continue to be aggressive with this cycle.


This week I am struggling with my infertility issues and my emotions. I am certain that part of it is due to the meds. I am generally terrified that this isn't going to work. Most days I try not to think about the big picture and I'm taking it one step at a time.

CageyMack

I feel good that I did some impressive house cleaning yesterday.  I'm just going to work through this cool housecleaning plan I found online and see if I can avoid the $280 cleaning person route.  Also, I got all Baby Girl's layette items washed and folded.  It was fun to see W's wee-est clothes come back around.  I'm so ready.

Stuggling: I am officially 20 pounds over my appropriate weight.  This is a real smack right now and I'm just not sure what to do.  Additionally, I have been sick for over 2 months (with a variety of things: eye infection, colds and then bronchitis). It is really hard for me right now, but I'm trying to envision myself a well person. Not easy.

2momsinCA

I feel good that I successfully made it through a week of work! This was my first week back post maternity leave and I DREADED it! I don't like leaving the babies, I know it's hard for my wife at times since so often they just want to nurse and me and my boobs are miles away. So already as of yesterday my wife said they are figuring out a routine and so far today the boys have take two tandem naps. Wow! It's almost just better that me and my boobs are miles away because I see how I rely on nursing to soothe them and now they are learning to fall asleep on their own. I'm just so happy about this! But I still wish I was home.

I am struggling with being back at work. I worry I'm going to miss out on things. Owen is starting to scoot- K told me that yesterday he scooted down to the end of his tummy time mat, then flipped over to his back. He's been rolling over for a couple months but now they are both using rolling in the effort to get to places. So I missed that. By the time I get home around 4:15 they are tired and fussy. We nurse a bit, they might take a little nap then possibly eat some purée sweet potatoes and then get ready for bed (bed time is 7pm). I hope that in the coming weeks we will all acclimate.

healz413

StacyLH24 said:

I feel good that as of yesterday I have 16 follies cooking in my ovaries. I feel good that my RE told us yesterday that he will continue to be aggressive with this cycle. 

I feel SO good about this! Yay, @StacyLH24!!!!

KH826

healz413 said:

StacyLH24 said:

I feel good that as of yesterday I have 16 follies cooking in my ovaries. I feel good that my RE told us yesterday that he will continue to be aggressive with this cycle. 

I feel SO good about this! Yay, @StacyLH24!!!!

Double ditto!!! This is great, Stacy! Sending you ALL the positive vibes

KH826

@2momsinCA - Adjusting back to life at work is HARD. Congrats to you for surviving the week. That's huge! So many of us know how tough it is to go back to work, so please lean on us for support when you need it! Hugs!

KH826

@JGY - thank you, my friend! I'll be on the next flight to MN for a cup of coffee. We will get you a decaf! ;-)

Jazibel

I feel good about this cup of coffee I am enjoying.... Mmmmm I haven't had coffee in years really and I've slowly started enjoy a cup here and there.

I'm excited that I've been chipping away at my household to do list. Today I swept up leaves and did a little weeding.    

Oh and I'm excited to be meeting @Flygirl1228 and her beautiful family this weekend!! YAY!!!

QOTD:

I'm also nervous about work and life in general. I feel like I'm balancing on a cliff and hoping desperately when I fall off the side (for surely I will) that I'll sprout wings and fly.  As mentioned before finances are tough, life is full to bursting, and even though I am excited about bringing my ideas to life, its hard to do when I feel a tremendous amount of pressure to help make ends meet. EV feels the same pressure is actually being roped into working all weekend for her departments VP. She's angling for a promotion and can't really refuse. The stress we both feeling is putting a strain on our relationship and I wish it wasn't the case. Plus our house here in California needs a new microwave and the new floors we installed over the summer are buckling. And our house in Roatan has a ceiling that still needs to be fixed, and water damage in the kitchen...

JGY

Jazibel said:

QOTD:

I'm also nervous about work and life in general. I feel like I'm balancing on a cliff and hoping desperately when I fall off the side (for surely I will) that I'll sprout wings and fly.  As mentioned before finances are tough, life is full to bursting, and even though I am excited about bringing my ideas to life, its hard to do when I feel a tremendous amount of pressure to help make ends meet. EV feels the same pressure is actually being roped into working all weekend for her departments VP. She's angling for a promotion and can't really refuse. The stress we both feeling is putting a strain on our relationship and I wish it wasn't the case. Plus our house here in California needs a new microwave and the new floors we installed over the summer are buckling. And our house in Roatan has a ceiling that still needs to be fixed, and water damage in the kitchen...

Hang in there girl, sometimes if you stop plugging away long enough to look around it'll make you sick from the stress of what needs to be done.  I prefer to just keep plugging with my blinders on ...

2momsinCA

@StacyLH24‌ 16 follies- awesome!! I have everything crossed for you this cycle! I'm glad the RE is being aggressive! And yes, one step at a time. Right now you are in a good, fertile place. Though I know it sometimes feels like adding insult to injury when the emotions of tttc are so awful but then we take hormones and it just boosts up our emotions. It's crazy making.

@stringy813‌ and @kh826 thank you for your encouragement. Going back to work has been good and bad. Good because I needed to, we need money, my work friends are nice, I do enjoy my job. Bad because it just sucks. I suppose we all feel like we are missing out on milestones and cuddles when we go. I hope it gets better. Maybe they can save their first crawl or steps for the weekends...

Danni_Girl

Jo is coming home today!!!

QOTW: there is a Sick Kids Hospital commercial that comes on, it has a little baby on it who it states was born with health issues and then a song comes on and the lyrics are 'I will try to fix you' and it makes me want to ball every time. Just typing that is bringing tears to my eyes. It is one of my triggers right now...

Danni_Girl

@redrockmama‌ Monday is the one year anniversary of my fathers passing. Everything you said about the extended vacation and all that is exactly how I've been feeling this year. It's surreal, and I still can't believe he's gone.

I got a memorial tattoo for a Dad too, and I love it so much.
Planning to get something for Baby Girl too. Just need to sort out what it is I want.

*hugs to you*

redrockmama

Thanks @sarahtrpt and @Danni_girl and hugs to you both. 

doodah1013

I just feel good. We are still on baby cloud nine. For three years we have been planning serious life events... First our wedding and then we started trying to get pregnant (and that took over a hear) and then waiting and planning for baby. Now she is here and we are excited to just enjoy the ride a little bit!

I also feel good that @healz413‌ and @manada are in the neighborhood again and having positive news to share!

This week I struggled with worrying about going back to work... Which won't happen for another month. I don't want to worry my leave away... Loving my job makes it a little easier. And when I go back I am only going for half days at first....

ATXmommas

Add me to the list of KH-love.

Great update, @StacyLH24!!!

Hugs @redrockmama and @Danni_Girl

2momsinCA said:

@StacyLH24‌ 16 follies- awesome!! I have everything crossed for you this cycle! I'm glad the RE is being aggressive! And yes, one step at a time. Right now you are in a good, fertile place. Though I know it sometimes feels like adding insult to injury when the emotions of tttc are so awful but then we take hormones and it just boosts up our emotions. It's crazy making. @stringy813‌ and @kh826 thank you for your encouragement. Going back to work has been good and bad. Good because I needed to, we need money, my work friends are nice, I do enjoy my job. Bad because it just sucks. I suppose we all feel like we are missing out on milestones and cuddles when we go. I hope it gets better. Maybe they can save their first crawl or steps for the weekends…

I so get what you are saying, but I'll repeat what someone told me.  All of us, whether we work outside the home or not, are going to miss some of our children's firsts.  But, there will always be the first time you see them reach a new milestone, and I PROMISE you that it is no less amazing than if you saw the actual first.  The first time that Ash walked across the room to me when I picked him up from daycare was just awesome.  I had the biggest grin on my face and tears in my eyes.  I don't care that he probably was walking all over that room before I got there.  It's all still amazing.  Hugs to you as transition back to work.  I know it is so, so hard!

ATXmommas

I feel really good about gas prices right now.  I'm going to fill up for $1.85/gallon today.  What?!?!?!

I'm feeling good about the prospect of us TTC and moving into a bigger home in 2015.  We have to get back to our savings plan after a hiatus from saving over the holidays, but I think we're in good shape.  Perhaps the meeting with our realtor next week will help confirm my good feelings.

QOTD: I'm struggling with work right now as I mentioned in TTT this week.  Part of it is about the work, part of it is worry that I'm not being an effective leader of my team.  I've managed a team before and/or have been in leadership positions before, but my current position is a different ballgame in many ways.  I received a nice compliment this week and that was reassuring and nice to hear.  I also had a good talk with my mom about it and processed some things.  For instance, I know that being a great leader takes experience and the only way I can gain experience is one day at a time.  I'm invested in doing a good job and becoming a better leader, and that will serve me well moving forward.  I remind myself I've been in my position less than a year and it will take some time before I feel truly comfortable in my new role.

2MamazInSeattle

Feel good 4 a.m. Saturday? Ok!

I too finished my first week back after maternity leave. Sigh. I'm glad I survived! Last night we had a,really nice grown-up dinner out with non-kid friends! It was all kinds of awesome. And brunch today with our gay dad friends and their little baby boy whose 3 weeks younger than Sim1.

Struggles...oy. Well I mentioned that I returned to work to a sinking ship...my role, along with the program I'm on, are going away June 30. So that means I have to job hunt (internally) and do my (not terribly inspiring) job. And, though I know I'll find something, it's still no fun hanging out in a space of uncertainty. It creates a little hum of stress as an undertone to daily life.