We have had sleep issues with DD ever since she learned how to climb out of her bed (she's in a toddler bed now). Once she's down, she's fine. The question is, when will that be? Maybe she'll nap, maybe she won't. It's been unpredictable and exhausting, and now I have terrible insomnia because of it.
She also is going through a bad food regression. She's super picky, but still had a list of things like cheese, fruit and yogurt that she would eat. Now it's just an occasional bite of a banana and her yogurt pouches.
I've discussed all of this with her pedi, who we see next week for her 2yr visit.
This week seems to have been better for sleeping and naps, so hopefully that's a sign of better things to come.
My vent is this. DH and I are having dinner tonight, and I told him I'd talked to my dr today about a short term sleep aid for myself, just to get my horrible sleep back on track. He unloads on me for 15 minutes about how I don't need that, and it's because of B's crappy sleep, which is also my fault because we didn't do CIO like he wanted to. Again, her bedtime may have gone back and forth a bit, but her sleep has always been pretty ok.
And then he goes on about how with our next kid, we are doing CIO and she doesn't eat any food and we need to do CIO with her now.
Let's be real for a minute. I have done bedtime every night for the last two years with the exception of maybe 10 days. I get up with her and do naps.
What I am hearing is what an enormous failure I am at being a mom. Which I already feel like, with her not sleeping or eating.
Sorry to vent, and I know I'm taking it personally. But come on, man. I do 90% of this on my own. You know why I'm up til 3am? I'm up torturing myself with all the things I'm doing wrong which must lead to her not sleeping well/not eating.
Ugh!! I burst into tears and after I got it together in our bathroom, told him I didn't want to talk for the rest of the night so I could cool off.
Our little Samosa arrives in January!
Re: Vent
I understand feeling like you do most on your own - same in this household. Any issue H always blames me and says I did something to cause it. I hope you can communicate with your H and talk it through. That doesn't really happen in this house and I usually just know that I'm right, lol. Good luck mama - hugs!
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
I realize I'm a little fired up so I apologize for that, I just have a lot of feels on this subject because my DH does the same damn thing.
BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12
BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks
BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14
DD is such a great kid. I know she won't starve and I know she will sleep. But since you aren't the one doing naps or bedtime, STFU!
Part of it is that he'll sit in there and let her scream and get upset. I agree she stays in her room- it's bedtime. But we can cuddle and read a story to get calm for sleep. You know what's really frustrating? Being handed a screaming baby who is now not ready for bed anymore because she's wound herself up. So I just do it myself.
When we moved DS to his toddler bed (in his new room) he would constantly get out if bed. I would sit in the floor in the hallway (where he could see me) until he fell asleep. I probably had to put him back in bed 4-6 times each might. I gradually moved myself further down the hall and eventually out of sight. Now he rarely gets out of bed.
I hope your H can be more supportive.
TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby