IUI is scheduled for tomorrow and I'm terrified I've messed it up!! Update in Comments

dukegirlsc

Hi ladies,

Let's start with this...I got good news from the RE this morning, follicles measuring 13,17 and 19. E2 is 366 and I'm not surging on my own this time, LH is 10.7! 

So they wanted to do IUI Friday at 11. The only issue is that DH has to travel for work Friday if at all possible, it can be cancelled if totally necessary. Knowing this when they called with my results and instructions to trigger at midnight and then arrive Friday at 10 I asked if there was any way to do it earlier Friday, they replied "well you can trigger now and we can collect at 3 and do IUI at 4 tomorrow" I rapidly agreed thinking I was making everyone happy. NOT SO FAST, DH had planned for IUI Friday and scheduled accordingly and was upset I didn't consult with him regarding the change. Of course there is no turning back as I told him AFTER I took my trigger shot. So there were tears and him saying "I don't know what to do to help you, I'm really not angry, you just have to communicate and talk to me" So there is that side of the equation. 

Then I started thinking….(that's never a good thing on a day like today) We are going to do IUI just 26 hours after my trigger, so I may not ovulate for 20 odd hours following the procedure. I can't help thinking that by changing the schedule that I've somehow sabotaged this cycle and there is no way we are going to be successful. I'm really upset with myself for trying to be so damned accommodating and possibly messing everything up! I totally forgot that I was hoping that I would have extra time for the follicles to mature, I blanked and all I thought about was helping DH out with his schedule!!! There is nothing to be done for it now but I'm so upset I can't even think and I know the stress is bad before the IUI not to mention the effect it's having on my relationship. 

So that is all.

**Edited update in comments

hooligans4

Deep breath.
What's done is done. Do your IUI as scheduled. Have sex with husband again on Friday if it will make you feel better.
Next time just schedule everything with him and double check all dates and times. But get maybe this one will work and their won't be a next time

waterbaby318

I agree that it's done. No sense driving yourself crazy about it now. It's totally something I could see getting myself into. 

Good luck!

URMySunshine77

Ugh. I know exactly how you feel about being accommodating. That is me to a "T."

I agree with @hooligans4. You have done your best, and sex on Friday would be a good idea. Focus on the positives and rant away here whenever you need to. Hugs.

vh2014

This sounds like something I would do. Try to take care of everyone without inconveniencing them by talking to them. I think PP give good advice, just wanted to say I'm sorry your stress is increased and try not to beat yourself up about it... FX it all works out this round

Nikolie93

I'm sorry this is so stressful for you *hug*

I know you're thinking you possibly sabotaged it but on the flip side, maybe it's better this way and will work out for the best. You can't change things, just concentrate on positive thoughts.

Disclaimer: I know how easy it is for me to type the positive thinking suggestion and it's so very hard to actually do but I went there and said it anyway :x

kindershlitz

I'm sorry it's added stress. I don't think the office would have ok'd it if you were messing with the cycle in a way tgat it wouldn't work. The whole Ttc stress is tough and it sounds like your DH is hanging in there. My DH has crazy work obligations too so I understand trying to help and then it making it more complicated.

Anyway, best of luck tomorrow!

dukegirlsc

Thank you so much ladies, I've come down off the emotional ledge now (thanks for your assistance with that!) and started to think logically. I'm so very thankful that I could express my fears here and receive so much support. You are all amazing!

@kindershlitz‌ I believe you are right, my RE's office would have told me no if I were asking for anything that would make the cycle unsuccessful. Plus I've researched post wash sperm viability and feel better about the timing. I'm taking deep breaths thinking positive thoughts and I'm so thankful for acupuncture before and after IUI to relieve stress!

CML11

Good luck to you! FX for success!

emsmama15

Good luck!!  I'm late the game, but I agree with everyone else!

lcwed

Good luck!!  FX everything works with this cycle and you get to practice your communication skills with pregnancy prenatal appointments.

Teenie16

Good luck! I'm so sorry it's so stressful. I too am late to this conversing but I think the other ladies have said some really great things

dolphin012

I can relate. I have stressed about the timing of triggering etc. for every medicated cycle I have done.

Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you!

dukegirlsc

Again thank you so much everyone!
@hooligans4‌ @waterbaby318‌ @clgsquared‌ @URMySunshine77‌ @vh2014‌ @Nikolie93‌ @b0710‌ @kindershlitz @CML11‌ @dolphin012‌ @lcwed‌ @Teenie16‌ @emsmama15‌

I woke up this morning and took an OPK, I had forgotten I had them! It says peak fertility so my mind is even more calm now knowing I will O late today or tomorrow. Whew, this is some stressful stuff. I promise to come back to the boards this afternoon when I'm taking it easy and catch up on all the goings on. Until then I'm sending positive thoughts your way, each and every one of you.

gfgrump

glad things are seeming better now.  Deep breaths and begin focusing on the positive thinking! This will be your cycle. Not sure if you are a vision type person, but I like to envision in working. So far it hasn't happened, but it can't hurt, right?  good luck today!

wvarn

No experience with IUi and stuff just dropping in to give you some hugs.

Nikolie93

Glad you're feeling a bit more calm

waterbaby318

Well that's a relief. FX!!!!

kindershlitz

Hope everything went and is going well!

emsmama15

I hope everything went well @dukegirlsc!!!  

luvmyponies

You sound so much like me, @dukegirlsc! It's so hard to stay calm - but I'm sure your doctor wouldn't have let you go through with the procedure if he/she thought it wouldn't work. I hope everything went well! Sending positive thoughts!

dream2be3

Sorry I'm a little late but wanted you to know I'm sending positive thoughts your way!

dukegirlsc

Yesterday's IUI went well. DH count was 68x10^6, so very good and I had 2 follicles over 15. I was so emotional during the process that there were tears. Crazy talk! I think it's all the hormones and the fact that the last IUI ended in CP. So I'm kind of in an emotional funk right now. I stopped taking my ambien yesterday and because of that there was no sleeping last night. Ugg…I'm trying to think positively and just relax but it's hard to do that right now. Breathe in, breathe out, visualize success and sticky beans, right?

Nikolie93

Sweetie, if there was a way I could make sure you relax, I would do it for you! 

Definitely visualize sticky beans! 

And just because I want to share the WTF, I found this when searching for a sticky bean pic  /:)

dukegirlsc

Nikolie93 that is truly a WTF picture! Thanks for the grins

nd613

Late to the party but glad to see everything went well. Welcome to TWWville!

dandkbaker

I'm not familiar with IUI so I didn't know how to comment....... I'm glad it went well!

dolphin012

You are doing great! Hang in there! Sending thoughts of success your way.

wannabmama23

Glad it went well! FX for you!

emsmama15

Glad everything went well!

C_Girlie

Wanted to send you (((hugs))) FX that all will be well & in two weeks you will share good news with us good luck @dukegirlsc‌