TTC after 35

IUI is scheduled for tomorrow and I'm terrified I've messed it up!! Update in Comments

dukegirlscdukegirlsc member
edited January 2015 in TTC after 35
Hi ladies,

Let's start with this...I got good news from the RE this morning, follicles measuring 13,17 and 19. E2 is 366 and I'm not surging on my own this time, LH is 10.7! 

So they wanted to do IUI Friday at 11. The only issue is that DH has to travel for work Friday if at all possible, it can be cancelled if totally necessary. Knowing this when they called with my results and instructions to trigger at midnight and then arrive Friday at 10 I asked if there was any way to do it earlier Friday, they replied "well you can trigger now and we can collect at 3 and do IUI at 4 tomorrow" I rapidly agreed thinking I was making everyone happy. NOT SO FAST, DH had planned for IUI Friday and scheduled accordingly and was upset I didn't consult with him regarding the change. Of course there is no turning back as I told him AFTER I took my trigger shot. So there were tears and him saying "I don't know what to do to help you, I'm really not angry, you just have to communicate and talk to me" So there is that side of the equation. 

Then I started thinking….(that's never a good thing on a day like today) We are going to do IUI just 26 hours after my trigger, so I may not ovulate for 20 odd hours following the procedure. I can't help thinking that by changing the schedule that I've somehow sabotaged this cycle and there is no way we are going to be successful. I'm really upset with myself for trying to be so damned accommodating and possibly messing everything up! I totally forgot that I was hoping that I would have extra time for the follicles to mature, I blanked and all I thought about was helping DH out with his schedule!!! There is nothing to be done for it now but I'm so upset I can't even think and I know the stress is bad before the IUI not to mention the effect it's having on my relationship. 

So that is all.

**Edited update in comments
**Losses Mentioned**
Me 41, DH 38 
TTC #1 since 9/2014 AMH 3.68, FSH 6.6
IUI#1 12-02-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 12-17-2015 beta 1=72, beta 2=64, beta 3=10 MC 12-20-14 
IUI#2 01-08-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 01-23-2015 beta 1=151, beta 2=450, beta 3=6524, beta 4= 29380 u/s at 7w5d baby with heartbeat measuring 6w2d. u/s 2-24 gestational sac only, beta 59400 MC 2-24-15 @ 8w6d D&C 2-27-15. Pathology results 47XX +20

Diagnosis AMA and compound heterozygous MTHFR

Re: IUI is scheduled for tomorrow and I'm terrified I've messed it up!! Update in Comments

  • I agree that it's done. No sense driving yourself crazy about it now. It's totally something I could see getting myself into. 

    Good luck!

    Me: 37
    DH: 35
    Married: 9/26/2011
    Hormones: All normal except AMH: Sept 2014 .022, Jan 2015 .05

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  • This sounds like something I would do. Try to take care of everyone without inconveniencing them by talking to them. I think PP give good advice, just wanted to say I'm sorry your stress is increased and try not to beat yourself up about it... FX it all works out this round
    me:41   dh:43 
    Off Mirena Nov 2013, On Nuvaring end of Jan, Back off Sept 2014.  Never ending cycle starting end of Sept... 
    11/14 Provera failed... cycle continues 
    12/14 High FSH (57 "midcycle")  OBGYN had no clue... about anything 
    01/15 More lab results coming back from RE. U/S showed small (1")cyst on left ovary, thin lining, and couldn't locate right ovary so  possibly straight to DE and IVF 

    Occassionally mess with the chart below to see "what if" and learn (not to make it pretty but because FF stays drunk with me).  

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  • I'm sorry this is so stressful for you *hug*

    I know you're thinking you possibly sabotaged it but on the flip side, maybe it's better this way and will work out for the best. You can't change things, just concentrate on positive thoughts. :)

    Disclaimer: I know how easy it is for me to type the positive thinking suggestion and it's so very hard to actually do but I went there and said it anyway :x
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



  • I'm sorry it's added stress. I don't think the office would have ok'd it if you were messing with the cycle in a way tgat it wouldn't work. The whole Ttc stress is tough and it sounds like your DH is hanging in there. My DH has crazy work obligations too so I understand trying to help and then it making it more complicated.

    Anyway, best of luck tomorrow!
  • Good luck to you! FX for success!
  • Good luck!!  I'm late the game, but I agree with everyone else! :)
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
  • Good luck!!  FX everything works with this cycle and you get to practice your communication skills with pregnancy prenatal appointments.
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    Me 36 DH 39

    DD 3/29/12
                      BFP 6/4/14 ~ MMC 7/7/14 ~ D&C 7/15/14            
    BFP 11/28/14 ~ MMC  12/29/14    

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  • Good luck! I'm so sorry it's so stressful. I too am late to this conversing but I think the other ladies have said some really great things
    ****Loss Mentioned***
    Me: 41 Him: 41
    TTC since December 2013
    HSG 9/18/14 = Tubes open but T shaped uterus
    IUI #1... 1/6/2015 + 50mg Clomid = BFN
    IUI #2... 1/29 & 30/2015 + 50mg Clomid +Tigger +Progesterone = BFN
    3/14 BFFP! Natural w/acupuncture & herbs only
    EDD = 11/22/15;  No heartbeat = 7/21/15
    Cooper Midnight Johnson born sleeping 7/25/2015



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  • I can relate. I have stressed about the timing of triggering etc. for every medicated cycle I have done.

    Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you!
    Me (42) w/ partner for 16+ years
    TTC #1: 11/2012 - 9/2013; 6/2014 - present
    Follistim + TI (3x): All BFNs
    Follistim + IUI (1x): BFN 
    IVF #1: 17 retrieved,15 fertilized, Day 3: 15, Day 5/6: 3 biopsied
    Result; 1 frozen blast (inconclusive PGS results)
    IVF #2; ER: 6/22 16 retrieved, 6/25: 5 transferred (CP), 2 frozen
    FET 9/17: BFN
    Current FET -- Transferred 2 day-3 embryos - BFN

  • glad things are seeming better now.  Deep breaths and begin focusing on the positive thinking! This will be your cycle. Not sure if you are a vision type person, but I like to envision in working. So far it hasn't happened, but it can't hurt, right?  good luck today!
    TTC #1
    me- 37, DH- 38
    Married 6.28.14, started TTC right away
    BFP Nov 2015, PPROM Feb 2016
    ER #1 May 2017, 15 retrieved, 10 fertilized, 3 day 5.
    ER#2 July 2017, 22 retrieved, 13 fertilized, 6 day 5/6
    9 embryos tested for pgs and pgd.  
    FET #1 9.29.17- 1 embryo-BFN
    FET#2 12.19.17- I embryo-BFP 1/1/18! Happy New Year to me! EDD 9/6/18
    Baby boy born 9.11.18- the love of my life!

  • No experience with IUi and stuff just dropping in to give you some hugs.
  • Glad you're feeling a bit more calm :)
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



  • Well that's a relief. FX!!!!
    Me: 37
    DH: 35
    Married: 9/26/2011
    Hormones: All normal except AMH: Sept 2014 .022, Jan 2015 .05

    image
    My Ovulation Chart
     

    My Babies 
    image
  • Hope everything went and is going well!
  • I hope everything went well @dukegirlsc!!!  
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
  • You sound so much like me, @dukegirlsc! It's so hard to stay calm - but I'm sure your doctor wouldn't have let you go through with the procedure if he/she thought it wouldn't work. I hope everything went well! Sending positive thoughts!
    Me: 37  DH:39
    TTC #1 Since May 2014
  • Sorry I'm a little late but wanted you to know I'm sending positive thoughts your way!
  • Yesterday's IUI went well. DH count was 68x10^6, so very good and I had 2 follicles over 15. I was so emotional during the process that there were tears. Crazy talk! I think it's all the hormones and the fact that the last IUI ended in CP. So I'm kind of in an emotional funk right now. I stopped taking my ambien yesterday and because of that there was no sleeping last night. Ugg…I'm trying to think positively and just relax but it's hard to do that right now. Breathe in, breathe out, visualize success and sticky beans, right?
    **Losses Mentioned**
    Me 41, DH 38 
    TTC #1 since 9/2014 AMH 3.68, FSH 6.6
    IUI#1 12-02-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 12-17-2015 beta 1=72, beta 2=64, beta 3=10 MC 12-20-14 
    IUI#2 01-08-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 01-23-2015 beta 1=151, beta 2=450, beta 3=6524, beta 4= 29380 u/s at 7w5d baby with heartbeat measuring 6w2d. u/s 2-24 gestational sac only, beta 59400 MC 2-24-15 @ 8w6d D&C 2-27-15. Pathology results 47XX +20

    Diagnosis AMA and compound heterozygous MTHFR
  • Nikolie93 that is truly a WTF picture! Thanks for the grins :)
    **Losses Mentioned**
    Me 41, DH 38 
    TTC #1 since 9/2014 AMH 3.68, FSH 6.6
    IUI#1 12-02-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 12-17-2015 beta 1=72, beta 2=64, beta 3=10 MC 12-20-14 
    IUI#2 01-08-2015 Letrozol, Gonal-F, Pregnyl, Acupuncture, BFP 01-23-2015 beta 1=151, beta 2=450, beta 3=6524, beta 4= 29380 u/s at 7w5d baby with heartbeat measuring 6w2d. u/s 2-24 gestational sac only, beta 59400 MC 2-24-15 @ 8w6d D&C 2-27-15. Pathology results 47XX +20

    Diagnosis AMA and compound heterozygous MTHFR
  • Late to the party but glad to see everything went well. Welcome to TWWville! :)
    Nicole  
    NYC
    39 y/o DH 45 
    Married in April 2014 
    TTC since May 2014
    Oct 2014: RE Consultation
    Nov 2014: Submucosal fibroid removed
    Dec 2014: Letrozole CD 3-7. IUI canceled. BFN
    Jan 2015: Letrozole CD 3-7. Ovridel HSG Trigger. IUI#1 BFN
    IUI#2 next
  • I'm not familiar with IUI so I didn't know how to comment....... I'm glad it went well!
  • You are doing great! Hang in there! Sending thoughts of success your way.
    Me (42) w/ partner for 16+ years
    TTC #1: 11/2012 - 9/2013; 6/2014 - present
    Follistim + TI (3x): All BFNs
    Follistim + IUI (1x): BFN 
    IVF #1: 17 retrieved,15 fertilized, Day 3: 15, Day 5/6: 3 biopsied
    Result; 1 frozen blast (inconclusive PGS results)
    IVF #2; ER: 6/22 16 retrieved, 6/25: 5 transferred (CP), 2 frozen
    FET 9/17: BFN
    Current FET -- Transferred 2 day-3 embryos - BFN

  • Glad it went well! FX for you!
    36, DH 31 TTC #1 since we got married, July 2014. http://FertilityFriend.com/home/522fa4/
  • Glad everything went well! :)
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
  • Wanted to send you (((hugs))) FX that all will be well & in two weeks you will share good news with us good luck @dukegirlsc‌
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