I'm a non-pregnant expecting lady.
I just saw an intro and it really jogged my thinking brain: maybe other non-pregnant expecting people would like to jump in. I dunno.
Could we have a check-in? Maybe I just need an attention-hogging thread for a minute? Maybe I'm nervous because my lady is going to have a baby and I'm freaking out a little that I'm not in control of the birth thing ("WHAT?! I'm not in control?!").
Here's me: 37yo mama who had one baby girl 12 years ago and one baby boy almost 2 years ago. My DW is currently 38 weeks pregnant with our beloved and tough-to-conceive third baby (a girl!). Same known donor (KD) as baby boy. There is so much wrapped up in this baby and birth and I find I'm getting more anxious as we get closer. I did natural childbirth for the two I carried, but I have a high pain tolerance. DW is thinking of getting an epidural and I'm so happy that that option is giving her some comfort--she is worried about the actual birth, and extremely modest and a bit anxious. We have a good team of docs/midwives (same as who delivered DS) and are at a fantastic birth center attached to a hospital. They do all the right things to help a mama have a baby.
Words of advice? What will I do? How do I get through this? The thought of seeing her frightened or in pain makes me more and more anxious. I know I can be a good support, but I find myself having more fear and anxiety as each day passes. I'm also having a lot of worries about the baby herself; what if something happens to her? I almost want to lobby for an elective c-section just to have her arrive safely. It took a year of medical support and IVF to get her to this point. There were only two viable embryos and we put them both in. And she is SHE--she is so close to being here safely and I just want HER, not some other baby.
I don't know what I want besides support. But maybe other people are in my same shoes? Or similar shoes?
37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.
5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered. All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd. 4 fertilized. Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853. Yay!
"Things separate from their stories have no meaning. They are only shapes. Of a certain size and color. A certain weight. When their meaning has become lost to us they no longer have even a name. The story on the other hand can never be lost from its place in the world for it is that place.”
― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing