Someone spilled the beans. Thoughts?

Justone13

My boss was aware I was going through ivf for the past year. She knew I received my bfp. Today I received a text from a very good friend that said people at work knew I'm pregnant. Now I know for sure that the friend I told didn't release the info. So my finger points back to my boss. I happen to be a supervisor also. I don't want my team feeling as though I lied to them but I had planned on waiting until I was 12 weeks. So should I make the announcement early or just wait and let them all talk? Thoughts?

RunCC37

Oh, that would irk me so much!! How rude of your boss to spread your business!! I'd probably go with something like, "Oh, you've heard that rumor, have you? I'll keep you updated when the time is right." And hope that people will just let it go. So not cool, sorry you are dealing with it!!

hopeby2015

Oo .. idk .. I've never been a boss so no advice, but man does that suck! Hope others will have good ideas!

pblge

Terrible, just terrible. I wouldn't say anything, definitely without confirmation from the people you work with. When it does get discussed, you can tell people that you didn't want to reveal the news early, which almost everyone will understand. If this really does happen she needs a serious conversation about betrayal of trust.

So sorry you're dealing with this! Try not to dwell on it--you don't want this to spoil your joy!

AMShark

That's terrible.  Most people I know don't make any announcements until 12w, and that's including people who haven't struggled with IF.  Your boss way overstepped her boundaries, and I think you should address it with her.

Of course, that doesn't fix your current problem.  I like @RunCC37 's advice, to acknowledge the rumor, but let people know that it's not up for discussion right now.  I think most reasonable people would respect your request.

mrs.willie

If it were me, I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with announcing just yet. I would just let them talk. If someone said something to me (which most people don't ask until they're told, except for some rude people), I would just say something like it'd weird to be the last one to know I'm pregnant or brush it off. When yoyou are ready to do announce, people should definitely understand.

Justone13

Thank you ladies!! I can't believe it even happened. I talked with my boss and she swears that she didn't but it's obvious she did.

I told my friend that told me about everything that if anyone comes to them again to tell them to come see me directly. I highly doubt they will have the balls enough to do that.

And if they do I think I'll say something like "do I look fat is that why you are asking?" Turn it back to make them uncomfortable.

No one is stealing my happiness!!

katers79

Ugh. How frustrating! I had something similar happen with my supervisor telling our admin assistant (with a big fat BIG mouth) about why I needed the day off on FET day. I flat out confronted both the admin and my boss, and said that my business was NOT theirs, and not meant to be shared.

Kudos to you for saying something to both your friend and boss- I would have handled the same way.

iheartsippycups2

I'd cut a bitch, that's crap!

Justone13

Came to work tonight and all is quiet. So I'm assuming either no one has the balls to say anything or it wasn't as wide spread as I thought. So frustrating though!!

@iheartsippycups‌2 I say that all the time. Lol!! Great minds think alike!

rella22

First of all...how flipping rude!!! That is your exciting news to share and not work gossip!!! I absolutely hate when people think it's their place to open their mouth...about anything...especially something that is so important to you!!
I agree with @RunCC37‌ ... acknowledge it, possibly explain why it hasn't been mentioned from YOU yet, and when the time is right then make your announcement!