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Saying Hello! Since I've been MIA.

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Hellllloooooo ladies! Sorry I've been MIA for about a month, I promise I've been lurking :):):)

It's been a whirlwind for me. John was born November 10th and since then it's been freaking crazy around here. 

My MIL has been battling cancer since 2004 and sadly she passed away December 12th. She was slowly getting weaker in the past few months, but I wasn't sure if it was her body failing or if it was the trial chemos she was on. She had scan checks done the day after John was born and it was shown that the chemo wasn't working. She had been having episodes of shortness of breath and was hospitalized a couple of times before John was born -- I was teasing her that she only had to wait 6weeks to meet LO, then he came early and I told her she didn't even have to wait that long! We got along great, so I promise this wasn't offensive to her, she had such great spirit and attitude towards everything. I'm just glad she got to meet him as she was a strong support for dh & I during the past two years with all of our struggles and she wanted nothing more than for us to have a baby. MIL's passing wasn't unexpected but it was much faster than any of us expected.  

So umm yeah, with birth, thanksgiving, MILs health and hospitalizations, MIL passing, funeral and Christmas, it's been nuts to say the least. It's really a wonder I haven't developed PPD/PPA with all of this! Overall, everybody has been holding up really well, better than I anticipated. It's weird to say but I think I grieved my MIL in the past two years with all of our losses. With BIL and his baby-mama drama and seeing MIL with BILs LO (paternity still not proven -- if any of you remember all that jazz), it was heartbreaking to see what DH should also be experiencing with his mom as a grandmother. I had pretty much concluded that dh would never get to see his mom in that light as I had serious doubts that we would ever have our own baby. 

Sorry for being a debbie downer :) I can say that I'm glad to be done with 2014 and am excited for 2015 and all it has to offer!

BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!

DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart

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  • BootsOrHeartsBootsOrHearts member
    Hey you! Sounds like lots of ups and downs but so glad you have your rainbow baby finally! We need some pics, mama! 
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    BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member
    What a rough time! I'm so sorry about your MIL, but it's great that she got to meet her grandbaby.
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  • docamy2011docamy2011 member
    Hey lady!! So glad to see you here!! So very sorry for the loss of your MIL! Glad 2014 is behind you and looking for only good things for 2015!! Hope to see pics also! ;)


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  • MommaAshley12MommaAshley12 member
    So sorry for the the loss of your MIL. I'm glad that she had the opportunity to meet LO. Hope that 2015 is a better year for your little family. Congrats!
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  • Wifey xoWifey xo member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. We experienced something quite similar after Tate was born. I couldn't see my FIL during his chemo across the country because I was on bedrest ( his was quick and agressive). After my son was born, we hauled him across the country to meet, and say goodbye to his grandpa. It's like he held on just to hold my son. It was so unbelievably overwhelming. Thinking of your family as you heal. Cheers to a new year!

     

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  • SunshinyLeesSunshinyLees member
    Hi Hun, congrats on the arrival of baby John!! I'm so sorry about your MIL:(. Big hugs xox

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  • Eliz77Eliz77 member
    I'm so sorry for the lost of your MIL and the roller coaster of emotions you've gone through. I hope you are settling into normalcy now and 2015 is a great year! ((hugs))

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  • ball.and.chainball.and.chain member
    Nice to see you again!  I don't get on to this board as much as I mean to either.  I'm so sorry about your MIL.  My mom died of cancer and everything about it is awful.  I agree with you though that under the circumstances it is wonderful that she was able to meet John.  My mom died over 10 years ago so it's not like it was even close -- I wasn't married then, let alone TTC -- but it's one of the things that makes me saddest, that B will never know his grandmother and she didn't get to meet him.

    Hope 2015 is a bit calmer for you and that John brings you and your husband lots of happiness.
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  • carlsonbaby2014carlsonbaby2014 member
    I'm do sorry to hear about your MIL passing away :(. I'm so happy she got to meet your sweet boy. Here's to 2015 being calm and somewhat boring :).
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    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
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