~*~November Angels Check-In~*~ (1.5.15)

LittleMrsW

This is a bi-weekly check-in for those who have lost an angel with a November EDD or a loss date in November. If you would like to be added to our group, please reply to this message with your EDD and date and stage of loss. Please also tell us a little bit about yourself and your TTCAL journey so far.  As time goes on, it is only to be expected that there will be graduates, which means that there will at times be BFPs listed here. On weeks when we do have a BFP to celebrate, you’ll see a warning at the top of the page, which is provided so you’ll have the option of scrolling past the announcement if you need to. If you do get your BFP, please PM me so that we can congratulate you appropriately in the next check-in.

General Updates: How are you doing? Any appointments or other updates you’d like to share?

Shout outs: If you aren't listed, we haven’t heard from you for a week or two. Welcome back and feel free to jump in!

@aswedishbee We didn't here from you last week, how are you doing?

@mrskush1014 We didn't here from you last week, how are you doing?

@Nikolie93, How are you feeling now that the holidays are over? Are you planning on hanging around for awhile (I saw in another thread you weren't sure how long you'd be staying.)

@mcsarah1104 Do you like how the main board is running now? Do you feel like you'll be sticking around? It seems a few ladies have been needing to step away for a bit, which is totally understandable. I've been pretty quiet these last few weeks myself.

LittleMrsW

Now that the holidays are finally over, things are starting to settle down for me. DH and I had a really good conversation about our TTC struggles and what the next steps are for us. This month marks 2 years of TTC with one MMC. DH feels like he really hasn't given 100% (which is true) and he wants the chance to get healthy and see what happens before seeing a doc. It will be a bit of a lifestyle change, but it's seriously needed and to actually have him positive about it keeps my spirits up as well. 

MrsKush1014

Thanks for the check-in @LittleMrsW.  I'm glad you and your husband had a heart to heart, it's so helpful to be on the same page.

AFM, I'm sorry I've been so quiet the last month.  Between traveling for work and the holidays, I haven't had much time to be bumping.  Being away from TB has gotten me thinking about my TTCAL journey and where I fit in.  After my loss last April I said I wasn't going to put my life on hold for work...and I'm feeling like that has changed.  I may have the opportunity to travel overseas for work this year and I don't want to pass on that opportunity, which has me questioning everything.  DH and I also had a heart to heart over the holidays and we're going to take a break from TTC if I don't get a BFP this cycle.  AF is due at the end of the week, but I'm feeling my typical pre-AF symptoms already.  So we'll see what happens I guess.

TheAerialist

LittleMrsW said:

Now that the holidays are finally over, things are starting to settle down for me. DH and I had a really good conversation about our TTC struggles and what the next steps are for us. This month marks 2 years of TTC with one MMC. DH feels like he really hasn't given 100% (which is true) and he wants the chance to get healthy and see what happens before seeing a doc. It will be a bit of a lifestyle change, but it's seriously needed and to actually have him positive about it keeps my spirits up as well. 

Thanks for the check in!  This post makes me happy for you!!! I don't think I could have gotten this far if my husband wasn't 100% committed (now he is, before.... not so much), and only they can make that decision, so it's so great to hear that he recognizes and is ready to GO! :-)

@mrskush1014 will be thinking good thoughts for you and for this week.  My fingers are crossed for you, but it sounds like either way you have some pretty exciting things to look forward to!! Traveling overseas (for FREE!) sounds like an amazing opportunity!  I rarely get to travel, but I love it when I do.

As for me, I am still here.  I am trying to stick to the threads that make me happy (this check-in and places where I can legitimately help women that have questions) and away from things/posts that make me unhappy.  I still have feelings and whatnot about some stuff, but that's ok this is a public board and it won't be all things to all people.  I am generally happy with the changes that have occurred and will stick around a little while longer mostly to support others because I am feeling pretty good these days now that November and the holidays have passed. 

Best to everyone!

Nikolie93

@LittleMrsW thanks for the check in! I am glad you and YH had a hear to hear. The TTC journey is so very hard. I am also glad that he wants to work at getting healthy, that really is important! So much luck to you! 

@MrsKush1014- I have my FX that you get that BFP. If not your plan sounds good. If you have the opportunity to travel now and it's something you REALLY want to do, go for it! I know it's easier said than done..it's a hard decision to make. 

@McSarah1104 I am glad you're feeling better since Nov and the holidays have passed *hug*

AFM: I am feeling a bit better since the holiday's have passed but to be honest I feel confused and lost. I have no idea which way I want to go with my journey. MH and I also had a heart to heart talk during our 13 hour road trip and we are leaning towards calling it the end of the road for our TTC journey. I will still keep my appointment with the RE coming up on the 21st because I think I will forever wonder if I don't. I believe I am a bit older than you ladies here and the thought of months of testing is exhausting to me. Add the fact that we just had our 2 year anniversary and although we have done things in our first 2 years of marriage, we have also put so much of our lives on hold. 

If we do throw in the towel I am not sure if I will stick around here. I love the ladies here and I love giving support but I am pretty new. I am not sure if I will fit in any more. 

So many hard decisions for all of us and so shitty we are in these situations. *hugs* to you all. 

TheAerialist

Nikolie93

Confusion is the worst place to be, but you seem like a thoughtful person, I know you will come to a solution that makes you happy in some way.  I think it was your doctor situation that makes me think about you a lot, because I know how I would feel in that situation (annoyed as hell).  

Both of your options suck for different reasons, (which we all know), but from my side, I can tell you that the 'months of tests' weren't really months, I did it all in about 6 weeks, but I could have done it quicker if I wanted.  We still don't know if we get to ever 'graduate' (all our tests were normal, so there is no reason for the repeated losses, we can do IVF or keep trying) but knowing that it was just random and that I have plenty of eggs in reserve still (theoretically I guess!) was really, really helpful for me. Everyone feels differently, but thought I would share my story with you in case it helps.  

Nikolie93

Thank you @McSarah1104 >:D<

LittleMrsW

MrsKush1014 said:

Thanks for the check-in @LittleMrsW.  I'm glad you and your husband had a heart to heart, it's so helpful to be on the same page.

AFM, I'm sorry I've been so quiet the last month.  Between traveling for work and the holidays, I haven't had much time to be bumping.  Being away from TB has gotten me thinking about my TTCAL journey and where I fit in.  After my loss last April I said I wasn't going to put my life on hold for work...and I'm feeling like that has changed.  I may have the opportunity to travel overseas for work this year and I don't want to pass on that opportunity, which has me questioning everything.  DH and I also had a heart to heart over the holidays and we're going to take a break from TTC if I don't get a BFP this cycle.  AF is due at the end of the week, but I'm feeling my typical pre-AF symptoms already.  So we'll see what happens I guess.

That sounds like a good opportunity, I totally understand putting things off in the name of TTC. I was supposed to be in the the nursing program after I finished my pre-reqs to continue on with my career. I (wrongly) assumed I would be KU by now. Plans do change and it's so hard. Sometimes a break is needed, if you don't get a BFP, I really hope you can find some comfort and clarity taking a step back from TTC. 

I'll still be keeping my FX for you though.

>:D<

LittleMrsW

McSarah1104 said:

LittleMrsW said:

Now that the holidays are finally over, things are starting to settle down for me. DH and I had a really good conversation about our TTC struggles and what the next steps are for us. This month marks 2 years of TTC with one MMC. DH feels like he really hasn't given 100% (which is true) and he wants the chance to get healthy and see what happens before seeing a doc. It will be a bit of a lifestyle change, but it's seriously needed and to actually have him positive about it keeps my spirits up as well. 

Thanks for the check in!  This post makes me happy for you!!! I don't think I could have gotten this far if my husband wasn't 100% committed (now he is, before.... not so much), and only they can make that decision, so it's so great to hear that he recognizes and is ready to GO! :-)

@mrskush1014 will be thinking good thoughts for you and for this week.  My fingers are crossed for you, but it sounds like either way you have some pretty exciting things to look forward to!! Traveling overseas (for FREE!) sounds like an amazing opportunity!  I rarely get to travel, but I love it when I do.

As for me, I am still here.  I am trying to stick to the threads that make me happy (this check-in and places where I can legitimately help women that have questions) and away from things/posts that make me unhappy.  I still have feelings and whatnot about some stuff, but that's ok this is a public board and it won't be all things to all people.  I am generally happy with the changes that have occurred and will stick around a little while longer mostly to support others because I am feeling pretty good these days now that November and the holidays have passed. 

Best to everyone!

I'm definitely happy the holidays are over with too. I'm glad you are sticking around. 

I think you have to do what makes you feel the best even if that means only opening certain posts. The board seems to be moving in a better direction lately. Sometimes it's hard to stay positive when are surrounded by negative. 

LittleMrsW

Nikolie93 said:

@LittleMrsW thanks for the check in! I am glad you and YH had a hear to hear. The TTC journey is so very hard. I am also glad that he wants to work at getting healthy, that really is important! So much luck to you! 

@MrsKush1014- I have my FX that you get that BFP. If not your plan sounds good. If you have the opportunity to travel now and it's something you REALLY want to do, go for it! I know it's easier said than done..it's a hard decision to make. 

@McSarah1104 I am glad you're feeling better since Nov and the holidays have passed *hug*

AFM: I am feeling a bit better since the holiday's have passed but to be honest I feel confused and lost. I have no idea which way I want to go with my journey. MH and I also had a heart to heart talk during our 13 hour road trip and we are leaning towards calling it the end of the road for our TTC journey. I will still keep my appointment with the RE coming up on the 21st because I think I will forever wonder if I don't. I believe I am a bit older than you ladies here and the thought of months of testing is exhausting to me. Add the fact that we just had our 2 year anniversary and although we have done things in our first 2 years of marriage, we have also put so much of our lives on hold. 

If we do throw in the towel I am not sure if I will stick around here. I love the ladies here and I love giving support but I am pretty new. I am not sure if I will fit in any more. 

So many hard decisions for all of us and so shitty we are in these situations. *hugs* to you all. 

Such a big decision. Totally blows. I'm so sorry you're feeling lost.I know you will make whatever choice is best for you and your H. I totally agree with keeping the RE appointment, maybe they can shed a little bit of light. It's such a tough place to be in knowing we may never have the answers we are looking for. ((Hugs))

If you decide to TTA, you will still be more than welcome here! I know it's your personal decision, but definitely don't think you'd have to leave. It doesn't matter how new you are, you give a lot of ladies support and it's truly appreciated!

Nikolie93

Thank you @LittleMrsW   :x

TheAerialist

Hey ya'll I decided that my screen name was a little too much information about me for the interwebs.  I have changed it, it doesn't look like it's updated yet, but my new screen name is @theaerialist , which I am already regretting since I always mis-spell Aerialist, and I know everyone else will too :-)  

Oh well. I guess I could change it again if it annoys me too much. 

My avatar will stay the same! :-)

mrswheelo

My ttcal journey has just begun. We lost our twins, Lane & Lydia at 21 weeks gestation November 24 & 25th. (Cause unknown). They were naturally conceived, so we felt really lucky! Now, we are hoping for a miracle and that this time everyone makes it. Eagerly awaiting sleepless nights and everything else fb moms complain about!! Lol

TheAerialist

grr.  sorry, no where to test to see if my new SN is working. It's NOT.  Annoying.  

Sorry for the bump.

blackbird818

McSarah1104 said:

grr.  sorry, no where to test to see if my new SN is working. It's NOT.  Annoying.  

Sorry for the bump.

fyi there's no need for a test post. all previous threads/replies will switch to your new SN when/if you change it. If you sent an email to the Bump Gods to change your SN, it can take some time to go into affect depending on how busy they are. If you went thru theknot.com, make sure you are signed out of all your devices and then sign back in.

TheAerialist

I thought that was what would happen, but I can't see my own screen name anywhere on TB except when I post. And since it's all changed over on TK, I thought I might be mistaken. I just needed to see it posted to be certain, but clearly..... :-)

My avatar is all F'd up too, so not sure what is going on. Hopefully someone will consider me worthy of attention soon :-)

Nikolie93

@mrswheelo I saw your intro on the main board and I am once again so sorry for the loss of your LO's Lane and Lydia. So many *hugs* to you. 

blackbird818

McSarah1104 said:

I thought that was what would happen, but I can't see my own screen name anywhere on TB except when I post. And since it's all changed over on TK, I thought I might be mistaken. I just needed to see it posted to be certain, but clearly..... :-)

My avatar is all F'd up too, so not sure what is going on. Hopefully someone will consider me worthy of attention soon :-)

You have to edit your avatar thru the Old Bump site.

1. Click the Community tab on the Bump header across the top.
2. Click the My Profile tab on the right side of the screen.
3. Just above your avatar icon (on the left hand side) there should be an Add/Edit Avatar

Again you have to log out of everything after you change your SN and log back in.

TheAerialist

blackbird818 said:

McSarah1104 said:

I thought that was what would happen, but I can't see my own screen name anywhere on TB except when I post. And since it's all changed over on TK, I thought I might be mistaken. I just needed to see it posted to be certain, but clearly..... :-)

My avatar is all F'd up too, so not sure what is going on. Hopefully someone will consider me worthy of attention soon :-)

You have to edit your avatar thru the Old Bump site.

1. Click the Community tab on the Bump header across the top.
2. Click the My Profile tab on the right side of the screen.
3. Just above your avatar icon (on the left hand side) there should be an Add/Edit Avatar

Again you have to log out of everything after you change your SN and log back in.

I have reset it there a couple of times already, and it always looks correct, but still doesn't work in the forums.  I am sure they will straighten me out soon.  No worries, thank you for the help! :-)

LittleMrsW

McSarah1104 said:

blackbird818 said:

McSarah1104 said:

I thought that was what would happen, but I can't see my own screen name anywhere on TB except when I post. And since it's all changed over on TK, I thought I might be mistaken. I just needed to see it posted to be certain, but clearly..... :-)

My avatar is all F'd up too, so not sure what is going on. Hopefully someone will consider me worthy of attention soon :-)

You have to edit your avatar thru the Old Bump site.

1. Click the Community tab on the Bump header across the top.
2. Click the My Profile tab on the right side of the screen.
3. Just above your avatar icon (on the left hand side) there should be an Add/Edit Avatar

Again you have to log out of everything after you change your SN and log back in.

I have reset it there a couple of times already, and it always looks correct, but still doesn't work in the forums.  I am sure they will straighten me out soon.  No worries, thank you for the help! :-)

....mobile quote fail......

I've heard sometimes you have to click save several times before it works.

LittleMrsW

mrswheelo said:

My ttcal journey has just begun. We lost our twins, Lane & Lydia at 21 weeks gestation November 24 & 25th. (Cause unknown). They were naturally conceived, so we felt really lucky! Now, we are hoping for a miracle and that this time everyone makes it. Eagerly awaiting sleepless nights and everything else fb moms complain about!! Lol

Welcome to the check-in. I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins.

aswedishbee

Thanks for the check in @LittleMrsW‌ ... And I too am glad that you and the hubs were able to get on the same page for moving forward.

@mrswheelo‌ :: I'm sorry for your losses but glad you found us. This board offers support as well as laughs.

AFM :: I've been sick, work has been nuts and hubs and I have been consumed with the puppy so I haven't been on my phone or laptop that much lately. We did discuss the whole "missing romance" problem and feel like we're on the same page now so I'm excited for AF to be gone soon. My acupuncturist thinks things are moving in the right direction since my cramping has subsided, my flow is changing (for the better) and my digestion has stabilized.