I work in the legal industry, so our office environment has a very professional atmosphere. There is a relatively new employee that started here a few months ago. She has a toddler and when I first met her she told me she didn't want to have any more babies. She is a nice enough person, but the problem is that she always seems to have a reason to be late or miss work all together. The excuses can be anything from the baby being sick, car troubles, husband troubles, daycare problems, tooth aches, migraines, etc. She has an issue at least once a week, if not more. Her supervisor has come to me on multiple occasions to complain about her.
Anyways... this woman and I are fairly close in age, so I guess she feels comfortable talking to me about certain things. Lately she's been coming up to me and complaining about cramps/symptoms and not knowing whether she is pregnant or about to get her period. I'm a FTM and this is my first pregnancy, so I'm not exactly an expert when it comes to any of this. Last week, she gave me a lot of unsolicited information about her sex life with her husband during her *fertile* days. So I casually said to her "Oh, you guys decided to start trying?" to which she responded "No, we don't like to say that we're trying..." Um... ok? So you just made it a point to tell me that you're ovulating and you've been having non-stop unprotected sex with your husband, but you're not TTC?
This morning, her supervisor comes up to me and says "Apparently, _____ thinks she is pregnant" and rolls her eyes. I asked if she knew for sure, and she said that our coworker was planning to take a HPT later this week. She was visibly irritated.
Personally, I don't care if she is pregnant or not, as it doesn't really affect my position. I just feel that she is too new and it is too soon to be sharing all of this information with people that don't really know her that well, especially considering that there have been so many problems with her in the short time she has been here.
So as working moms or moms-to-be, what do you think? Would you TTC at a new job? Would you wait until you have established your place/reputation at your job? Would you ever share those plans with other people or do you agree that this is information that should be kept private?
Re: Would you TTC and talk about it at a new job?
Well, I found out I was pregnant with DD about 3 months into my current job. We were TTC, but no one knew and I would never discuss any future baby plans.
She sounds like a drama queen and a general over sharer.
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When I was negotiating with my current employer I did tell them that we did want to expand our family (we only had DS at that time). The only reason I brought it up, however, was because we are under 50 employees and I wouldn't qualify for FMLA. I wanted to make sure that they wouldn't fire me if I took maternity leave.
I told my coworker I was pregnant when I threw up at work. I told my boss a few months after that. But I am a private person, whereas she, quite obviously, is not. I agree, she has judgment issues.
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However, this woman sounds like a terrible employee and if I was her supervisor/manager, I'd start the documentation process to terminate her right away. Or, establish severance and move on.