TTC - First baby

caitlinkrg

Hello,

My husband and I have decided to begin our journey TTC.  I stopped BC some time in September and we actively began trying beginning of December.  I know this is going to be an emotional journey since I've had baby fever for a year or so now.  Although we have agreed to begin TTC it doesn't seem like he agrees with the articles I have been reading about how often and when to have sex.  I am not sure if the beginning is like this for some men or if he is just being difficult.  I am trying to stay positive!

Any thoughts?

-- CAITLINKRG

ifeelgoodifeelgreatifeelwonderful

I agree, I think for my first two months I got a little chart crazy and it was overwhelming for him. Now he knows I'm tracking things but I try to talk less about it and just initiate things when I really need to. He also starting telling me about articles he found (made up) about having sex 5 times a day everyday and stuff like that haha, so I backed off.

mrsh82414

I hope all that gets worked out! I will keep in mind what you guys say about initiating instead of being all" its my FW we need to do it now!!" Lol. I'm having a problem with my hubby as well, but its about temping and charting. I want to temp and chart as I have been on BC for almost 10 years and want to know whats going on, but he feels like we should just stop the BC and go with the flow. I'm like mehh... I think I will end up winning the battle bc he won't see much of the temping/charting as he gets up for work at 5am and I get up at 7am. 

thechickencoop

Go to the Trying to Get Pregnant board.  Read the newbie blog.  Don't make a big deal to your H about when your FW is if it's going to make him nervous.  Good luck!

jnnfrrose6

mrsh82414 said:

I hope all that gets worked out! I will keep in mind what you guys say about initiating instead of being all" its my FW we need to do it now!!" Lol. I'm having a problem with my hubby as well, but its about temping and charting. I want to temp and chart as I have been on BC for almost 10 years and want to know whats going on, but he feels like we should just stop the BC and go with the flow. I'm like mehh... I think I will end up winning the battle bc he won't see much of the temping/charting as he gets up for work at 5am and I get up at 7am. 

One of the things about temping/charting is that your SO doesn't need/have to be involved to do it. It doesn't affect him whether or not you take your temp in the am and plug into into FF. He doesn't even have to know its going on. IMO it's not the hubs choice whether or not I temp. It's information for me to use. Bonus, I can pinpoint ovulation and know if we hit my FW, but otherwise it's just for me so I can know my body and cycles better. That has absolutely nothing to do with the hubs.

Kaelynn91

The other ladies have given you wonderful advice already and I agree with them completely. When my husband and I were TTC our first we just took it easy for the first few months. I kept track of my cycle, but I didn't pressure him about it at all. In fact, I doubt he would have even known we were trying to conceive if it wasn't for the fact that we were no longer using condoms! It worked for us. The entire process was fun and exciting. I plan on doing the same next time.

finnea

All the advice in this chat has been so helpful!  I've been so excited since my H said he's ready to start conceiving that I forgot that all of the technical stuff may be a turn-off for him.  I'll try to keep it in check, but I'm just so happy!