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MeaganFitch

I am 25 weeks with my second baby. Baby #1 came at 33 weeks via c section because of a placental rupture. I am very nervous about this baby. I am having another c-section which will take about an hour. I wake up with anxiety attacks because I am so scared of giving birth this time I want the baby to be fine and myself. I don't want to (I'm just going to say it, and yes its dark) I don't want to die or for my baby to. Sorry for being dark but I am hoping someone here can relate.

fatcat11188

Ummmm what?  8-X It is not troll Tuesday WTH!

Edited** just in case your not a troll… 

I am very sorry you have had a scary history with delivery. I would seek out a doctor to speak to about this, or a therapist to help relieve some anxiety and hopefully help you sleep. Hoping for a speedy, safe, easy delivery this time around. 

fatcat11188

RHoPA1109 said:

fatcat11188 said:

Ummmm what?  8-X It is not troll Tuesday WTH!

I wouldn't call this one a troll just yet.

No history of any sort of discussion and I am riled up from crazy burning vag. lady  :-S

MeaganFitch

Idk what a troll is. I just joined and wanted somewhere to get advice maybe I chose the wrong forum sorry.

jc_twomamas

OP, I hope you can find a good counselor or therapist in your area. Anxiety can be a very dark thing in and of itself. I wonder if there are any threads on here specific to c-sections...? anyone know?

Edit to say, if you come back or are reading this OP, your username looks like a real name. You should change that. There are too many creeps out there...

fatcat11188

RHoPA1109 said:

qwanda2013 said:

Ummmm what?  8-X It is not troll Tuesday WTH!

Am I missing something?

I don't think so. OP is a stranger, but her issue seems a little more sensitive than many other first time posters. I don't have any advice or experience with previous pregnancies to share, but even I draw a line on snark when someone is really down. Anxiety is rough.

*Edited in case. My apologies if she isn't a troll. 

kurban627

Hi Meagan, welcome to April 15 since you just joined and this seems to be your first post. I'm very sorry that you had a rough first pregnancy. I did as well however the circumstances were much different. I understand the anxiety about your second birth. Make sure you discuss your concerns with your doctor and tell yourself what I tell myself over and over, all births are different and unique. FX for a very easily delivery.

Edit to add a PS: be careful about using your real name as your user name. We sometimes get some really sketchy people coming through the board.

missab

I don't have any experience, but, in addition to speaking to someone about your anxiety, perhaps seeking some relevant facts would help? For instance, how many c-section births has your doctor delivered safely? What percent were repeat c-sections? What is the national average?

Perhaps some of these facts and stats could help put your fears into context?

Best of luck to you; we have many women here facing all sorts of hardships (including anxiety) - I'd encourage you to take a look through the first few pages of posts - it might be helpful (in general) just to see how many women are going through similar pregnancy issues and concerns.

Take care of yourself, momma.

MeaganFitch

My doctor tells me everything will be fine but hadn't recommended seeking outside help. I honestly hadn't thought of that cause its not common where I live but I will be now

Scarlettg

OP please tell your doc how you're feeling.  S/he may have some advice that's far more useful than the empathy we can provide.  Also, as PPs have mentioned, a therapy session or two may help.  Please don't let shame or embarrassment (not saying you are, but just in case) over your feelings prevent you from seeking help from folks more qualified than we.  I hope you feel better soon.

donnamartingraduates93

fatcat11188 said:

Ummmm what?  8-X It is not troll Tuesday WTH!

Edited** just in case your not a troll… 

I am very sorry you have had a scary history with delivery. I would seek out a doctor to speak to about this, or a therapist to help relieve some anxiety and hopefully help you sleep. Hoping for a speedy, safe, easy delivery this time around. 

Coming in a little hot there

jk3610

MeaganFitch said:

My doctor tells me everything will be fine but hadn't recommended seeking outside help. I honestly hadn't thought of that cause its not common where I live but I will be now

Might give you peace of mind to talk to someone. Take care.

janexo221

I have anxiety and am really really scared to give birth! But, I haven't had a bad experience like you. Whenever I feel anxious, I go down that road. What is the worst that can happen? Yes, you can die and/or your baby can die. That is a reality. If you sit and think about nothing but that for the rest of your pregnancy, will it change whether it will happen or not? No. My anxiety comes from uncontrollable or new incidents. The fear of the unknown. The best thing I have found is to talk it out with myself and my husband. There is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent all of that happening unless you don't follow common sense and doctors advice. I spoke in length to my doctor who has been delivering babies for 30 years. He said in all that time, he has had less than 100 deaths. Its very rare and when it happens, there is usually nothing that anyone could have done differently. Talk with those around and practice anxiety strategies to help deal. Hope you can relax and enjoy this time!

fatcat11188

Okay ladies, I apologized. Seems a little weird for a first post and it says she's been around since 2012. I hope you accept my apology- typically I don't knock people down. Must be one of those hormonal cranky nights I am having. Again sorry and like PP said, seek help with a therapist, they will be able to give you stress relieving things to try, which could help. 

Babykells3

I know how you feel in a way. DS1 was born at 31 weeks from a placental abruption as well, although I had a vaginal delivery. With DS2 I had such awful anxiety as well, but as a PP had mentioned, each pregnancy is different and hopefully your doctor is keeping a close watch on you and will be checking the blood flow to the placenta. With my experience, DS2 ended up going to 36 weeks before I went into preterm labour but the cause was unknown.

Rowsdower85

I have a Doula friend who offers her services solely to C-section mommas. She's amazing, and it's encouraging to hear her stories. Maybe try to find a Doula in your area who can help you through this. I know it's already been said, but talking to someone will do so much for you! You don't have to suffer through anxiety... There is help and support out there. hugs, Momma!

knjzacher

We do not share similar birth histories, OP, but anxiety is something I know a lot about. I am happy you have decided to take steps to address the anxiety, it can take over and turn into a black hole. I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and I really hope you can find a way to get over the fear and enjoy your beautiful pregnancy! You deserve it!

Edited: spelling

JJBoden

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can relate. I had horrible PTSD after my first csection. I had a panic attack on the OR table with #1. It was just awful. My whole second pregnancy I just cried and cried thinking about the upcoming RCS. I was going to be put fully under but dad wouldn't be allowed until the room. Anyway, I was given a small dose of a sedative before baby #2 was born. The plan was to get baby out then knock me out so I didn't have to be awake the remainder of the surgery. Well the first part went so I was able to stay awake. I was proud of myself as was my doctor. Anyway, #2 went wayyyyy better than #1. So much better. Yes, I'm a little frightened of another csection but I do know my Dr. will take care of me and I'll get a dose of sedative before the whole procedure. Talk to your doctor. My first csection was because of IUGR so it wasn't planned. RCS are wayyyy better. (((Hugs)))

lirpaloof77

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Very normal reaction to a traumatic experience. As others have said, a therapist would be super helpful. Hope you find peace.

erikaluna01

It sounds like you're experiencing PTSD and would really benefit from therapy. Most emergency c sections turn out traumatic because of the nature of needing to have one. I had one myself at 36w5d with DD. While I'm scared to go through it again, I feel thankful and relieved things turned out well the first time. You and your baby survived it once before. Chances are good if you have to go through it again. Good luck!

DixieNormous330

It's been said, but please speak to your OB and see a therapist. There are safe-for-pregnancy-meds that can help you. Talk to your husband. TALK, TALK, TALK. But most especially, talk to someone who can help you sort out these anxieties.