Biggest 3T worry?

CogDis

I'm not worried about me but I am worried about my baby. I just want him so badly to be healthy! Or at least if he isn't healthy to have a condition that is manageable.

That said, I'm certainly not thrilled about the idea of delivery but that too shall pass.

CatLadyTX

I'm scared of going early. This pregnancy has been so much harder on my body than my son was, as it is DH had a fit when I wanted to walk through Costco today because walking increases my already too frequent BH. The most important thing is that my mom is here so someone can be with DS. If necessary, there are people we can rely on to watch him for a few hours here or there, but not all day so DH can be with me in the hospital. She doesn't come to town until 5 days before my RCS, so as long as DD can hold off until Saturday, I'll be happy.

Everything else just stresses me out.  I want to finish the nursery and buy stuff for her, but DH is super resistant to buying anything before we need it.  He won't even hang the blinds yet, which is driving me batty because my mom won't get off my back about hanging curtains but we need to hang the blinds first.  End rant, I swear.

aggiebug

My biggest worry is I will deliver the weekend my ILs are coming to the area for an "anniversary trip" and will appear at the hospital. H doesn't know it yet but they will not know I am at the hospital if it is that weekend until they are allowed to be up there. I am still extremely upset with the whole situation and they will be here to visit the next weekend for a whole week and a half.

misshart00

Something else stupid I'm worried about. We're getting into H's season of working 80 hours a week. There are about two weeks where baby coming would be ideal (where he could take off more easily, etc.). I'm afraid he's going to come at the worst possible time. I know this is incredibly stupid to worry about, but I'm still nervous.

stefanie_cbc

I know! I should have prefaced my post with a "I know this is extremely superficial". I figure just about everything is out of my control and that is just something I hope to a avoid again.

My first birth experience was an emergency c-section at 36 weeks. I didn't even make it to a birthing class before we had her. Needless to say I was in shock. I'm not to concerned about contractions or water breaking since I've already experienced them.

I guess it's silly to be concerned about stretch marks when I already have a 5 inch c section scar.

ConstanceGoodspeed

Childcare during labor and delivery ("This person is at work right now; these people are away for the weekend; that person isn't answering their phone; my parents are 2+ hours away and slow drivers").

dreemkin84

I voted water breaking but BTDT. I'm just worried it's going to happen at work (even if I'm just going upstairs, since I work in the hospital, I don't want soaked pants) or in public (like the grocery store or something).

dreemkin84

Oh yeah, although right now it's not in the plans, I'm also worried about a c section.

AF9211

This is embarrassing, but I'm nervous I'll go into labor on my own before my scheduled surgery date and be rushing to pack my hospital bag/picking up dirty ass maternity clothes off my bedroom floor and shoving them into my bag because I've procrastinated packing for so long. Even though I've felt the urgent need to have things ready sooner with this pregnancy than my first/last one, it still hasn't motivated my lazy ass to pack my bag.

michelle142

I too am nervous about the potential to go early. Not because the nursery isn't ready or I have stuff to do, work etc.. I'm just not mentally prepared at this point. I know, I better suck it up because it's coming sooner rather than later anyway!

thejollyrancher

Being in labour and not taking action. I had to be told I was in labour the first time, and even took my time getting to the hospital after my waters broke. My midwife has told me this time will be faster (my first was already fast) and I may not have the waters breaking signal, which freaks me out!

I know I need to pay attention to my body's cues and I will, but I still worry I'll brush it off as aches and pains or Braxton hicks until it's too late and I'm pushing my baby out at home (I'm not planning a home birth).

chicagojackie

@stefanie_cbc‌

Just for the lulz...here's you

Wimcgrath

maasybaby said:

Throughout this pregnancy my sister has planted the importance of baby's movements SO DEEPLY in my brain that any time he's not moving so much I freak out. So stillbirth is unfortunately (still) my big worry that I can't get out of my paranoid head... 

This is also my worry. I get paranoid when she has a less active day (like yesterday). Though I've never had any indications that this pregnancy is anything but healthy, my two prior (early) losses definitely affect me. I think we're all thinking about this on some level, just part of the territory. But... we have many, many years ahead of us for worrying

thegoodpotato

Seriously, mine will bump a couple times in the morning after my coffee.  Then maybe three hiccups in the afternoon.  Then she'll move around visibly for about 20 minutes around 7pm.  She DOES get quite active while I'm sleeping, but I usually don't feel it because I'm sleeping. 

Wimcgrath

@maasybaby‌ - I should really cut her some slack on her lazy days... Goodness knows I have way more of them than she does! Here's to a relaxing, calm (if possible) last few weeks!

stefanie_cbc

chicagojackie said:

@stefanie_cbc‌ Just for the lulz...here's you

Too Funny! I have had dreams that I wake up and thats what my belly looks like. 

lotsofdotts

thegoodpotato said:

Oh yeah... one more legit fear.  I am terrified that I'm going to have the baby either in my house or at the side of the road.  Amanda came in less than an hour after contractions became painful.  My midwife lives 15 minutes away, and the hospital is another 25 min.  Her policy is to come check on me at my house once labour starts, then approve a move to the hospital.

I think that because she knows I labour so quickly, she'll let me go to the hospital right away without being checked... but I am still terrified of a side of the road baby.

Although that might be fitting for two Hwys Dept Engineers....

This is a fear of mine as well. I'm worried about bad weather and NC drivers aren't very proficient snow drivers nor do we have the equipment to clear roads. 

I'm also starting to really worry about going very early. My first two were both born at 37 weeks, but I never had the BH contractions like I have had with this one. I know I am probably being neurotic, but I have had some cramping and nausea lately and my paranoid radar is going off. I plan to call my doctor if it keeps going. I just want to make it to at least 37 like with the other two, preferably longer. 

triplej9

chickyclg said:

I am most worried about my water breaking and being home alone and my mom being on the other side of Houston and DH being at work and in a meeting. Worst case scenario I know I can just call an ambulance but they will prob take me to the closest hospital to us which I hate.

This exactly!

Maple403

I'm actually only scared of taking the baby home. What if I don't bond? What if DH and I lose our great relationship? What if he regrets having the baby? What if the baby gets really sick and we don't know what to do and don't realize how serious it is right away? None of my fears are related to 3rd tri, except for the sneaky stillbirth fears that no one can hide from.

SaraL1175

As I have had a previous full term still birth, that is my fear. I have 4 healthy boys, but lost a daughter F2010. Now expecting a daughter F2015--I've hated going through the same seasonal pregnancy markers that I went through with my prior loss.

I really want this baby to be born healthy and sound. It would be great if the weather would stay rainy (not snowy) so that it can be as different as possible from F2010.

twinklymama

yesiknowwhatcausesthat said:

I have been experiencing pain...like a level 6-7 pain...for days/weeks. The baby is very floaty and high up under my ribs. It literally feels like a knife through the front right ribs all the way through the back. I even asked the doctor to check to see if she could see the knife yesterday. Tylenol doesn't touch it. When I have a braxton hicks contraction and the baby happens to have a foot/knee/leg up by my ribs, the pain is crazy. So my biggest fear is to have this pain continue for the next 5-6 weeks.

Pretty much this. I'm in so much pain by about 3pm, I'm worried that the next 7 weeks will drag by so slowly.

twinklymama

SaraL1175 said:

As I have had a previous full term still birth, that is my fear. I have 4 healthy boys, but lost a daughter F2010. Now expecting a daughter F2015--I've hated going through the same seasonal pregnancy markers that I went through with my prior loss.

I really want this baby to be born healthy and sound. It would be great if the weather would stay rainy (not snowy) so that it can be as different as possible from F2010.

Oh I'm so sorry. Will be praying for a completely different story for you this time around.

misshart00

Maple403 said:

I'm actually only scared of taking the baby home. What if I don't bond? What if DH and I lose our great relationship? What if he regrets having the baby? What if the baby gets really sick and we don't know what to do and don't realize how serious it is right away? None of my fears are related to 3rd tri, except for the sneaky stillbirth fears that no one can hide from.

I just thought I would address the concern of baby getting sick and you not realizing it. My daughter was extremely sick for about two months (months 5-7 of her life). She literally threw up everything that went down. We went to the doctor and were told GERD. Fine. We took all the medicine. We took all the advice. She got worse. One morning, h said we need to call the doctor back (I didn't want to as I didn't realize that she was getting that much worse). Since it was a Sunday, they told us to go to urgent care (throwing up and no wet/dirty diapers). When she got worse at urgent care, they admitted us to the hospital. She was in the hospital two weeks. We went home and she still got worse.

This is all to say that I have extreme mom guilt over not wanting to take her to the doctor. It'll be okay and you'll figure it out. As a mom, don't be afraid to get a second opinion, etc. And you won't always know what to do, but that's okay.

SaraL1175

twinklymama said:

SaraL1175 said:

As I have had a previous full term still birth, that is my fear. I have 4 healthy boys, but lost a daughter F2010. Now expecting a daughter F2015--I've hated going through the same seasonal pregnancy markers that I went through with my prior loss.

I really want this baby to be born healthy and sound. It would be great if the weather would stay rainy (not snowy) so that it can be as different as possible from F2010.

Oh I'm so sorry. Will be praying for a completely different story for you this time around.

Thank you... I appreciate it.

mommaa1615

Ahh im scared about everything. .I feel so clueless right now & keep thinking everything is a sign of labor.

jaytee16

I was afraid of getting baby boy out vaginally and then needing a c section to get baby girl out because she's been less cooperative position wise. However now that I've been in L&D with preeclampsia for 4 days, I'm praying for every extra day I can keep them inside. Hitting 34 weeks would be amazing, the doctors agree, but no one is really expecting that, we're in a day by day holding pattern.

MissEm15

jaytee16 said:

I was afraid of getting baby boy out vaginally and then needing a c section to get baby girl out because she's been less cooperative position wise. However now that I've been in L&D with preeclampsia for 4 days, I'm praying for every extra day I can keep them inside. Hitting 34 weeks would be amazing, the doctors agree, but no one is really expecting that, we're in a day by day holding pattern.

@jaytee16‌ I had no idea you were in the hospital too! Sending prayers your way!

MrsRoy07

I chose something else, and it's a toss-up between the awful hip pain I'm experiencing everyday and my somewhat irrational fear that I'll go into labor before my scheduled c-section.

mands1125

I'm worried about going early and also showing up to L&D thinking I'm in labor just to be sent home.

mishka29

Mine is not having enough time to get to the hospital bc we have to wait for my mother in law to come and stay with DD. Last time I was pretty clueless about being in labour so time was wasted. I worried labour will go much quicker...

jaytee16

Thanks @MissEm15‌ and @cougarette‌ - it's been a hell of a week, I appreciate the good thoughts

RedGiant

I voted nursery not done, but I have one larger worry. Like others have said, I'm most worried about going into labor when DH is at work (it can be a 2 hr drive home if it's rush hour, 45 min otherwise), and not having someone available to watch DS. (And/or drive me to the hospital)
I'm actually not worried to much about the actual birth - i know it'll hurt, and might be really fast like last time - more concerned about my almost 2 year old.

TexasMamma0809

I have an hour drive to the hospital, and all of my moms babies were born in less than 2 hours. I'm scared to go and then have wasted time/work but also scared NOT to go to the hospital if I think it's labor. My BH are barely noticeable though so any pain and I'm booking it.

kefttsc

chicagojackie said:

kefttsc said:

I'm worried about my water breaking even though I feel foolish saying that!

I also feel very worried about my dogs. I have plans in place for them to be cared for my dear friends, but still

I love dogs and would be your responsible (but still anxiety producing) neighbor...but only if you left me with an excel spreadsheet detailing their exact care

I have six days of meals for them individually bagged, instructions for feeding, walking, and playing, along with other special instructions and written and laminated in a bag. My dog sitter friend has a key and all of the dogs know her well. They are set, I'm just worried about them the most!

Sahara6971

2 things...

My biggest fear is bleeding to death. I have had 2 c-sections and due to the size of the baby, this will most likely have to be a RCS. Which brings me to fear #2.

I am a little bit afraid of this baby being HUGE. I am only 5 ft tall and my first two were really big. The doctors keep telling me this one is going to be "your biggest one yet". I still have 47 days to go and I am pretty uncomfortable already. My Dr. said she has never had such a hard time prying a baby out during a c-section as she did w/ my first baby.

SquirrelsRWatching

My fears have been mostly calmed since my childbirth class today. Definitely worth taking one if you haven't. I was most worried about the pain, but now I'm more confident I can go without an epidural with some of the coping skills learned in the class. 

AF9211

kefttsc said:

I'm worried about my water breaking even though I feel foolish saying that! I also feel very worried about my dogs. I have plans in place for them to be cared for my dear friends, but still

I love dogs and would be your responsible (but still anxiety producing) neighbor...but only if you left me with an excel spreadsheet detailing their exact care

I have six days of meals for them individually bagged, instructions for feeding, walking, and playing, along with other special instructions and written and laminated in a bag. My dog sitter friend has a key and all of the dogs know her well. They are set, I'm just worried about them the most!

Is it sad that I will basically be doing this exact same thing for DD1 who will be at home with DH while I'm in the hospital? 

dacora

AF9211 said:

kefttsc said:

chicagojackie said:

kefttsc said:

I'm worried about my water breaking even though I feel foolish saying that!

I also feel very worried about my dogs. I have plans in place for them to be cared for my dear friends, but still

I love dogs and would be your responsible (but still anxiety producing) neighbor...but only if you left me with an excel spreadsheet detailing their exact care

I have six days of meals for them individually bagged, instructions for feeding, walking, and playing, along with other special instructions and written and laminated in a bag. My dog sitter friend has a key and all of the dogs know her well. They are set, I'm just worried about them the most!

Is it sad that I will basically be doing this exact same thing for DD1 who will be at home with DH while I'm in the hospital? 

Your husband doesn't know how to take care of his daughter?

AF9211

@dacora it's called a joke...

DH works around the clock, 7 days a week and I stay home with DD. I do plan on having her clothes and diaper bag packed and ready for DH to make things easy for him to grab & go. But yes, he's fully capable of taking care of our daughter. 

dacora

AF9211 said:

@dacora it's called a joke...

DH works around the clock, 7 days a week and I stay home with DD. I do plan on having her clothes and diaper bag packed and ready for DH to make things easy for him to grab & go. But yes, he's fully capable of taking care of our daughter. 

Apologies, kfttsc didn't seem to be joking about her concern over her dogs so I assumed you had the same level of seriousness.