Curious if anyone has any experience doing this?
I'm a FTM due in May and my mom and her friends (like moms to me) want to throw a shower for me. Unfortunately we live 16 hours away from my parents. We have been trying to budget for baby girl and it seems a little silly to spend extra money on a plane ticket for me--especially when we could use that money to buy things we will need for baby.
My sisters and my mom mentioned the idea of still having a shower for me but having gifts sent to me and possibly skyping me in.
I just wondered if anyone has had this type of shower and how it went?
Re: Long-Distance shower
If it were me, I would decline. I would however, still registry and if anyone should inquire you can point them in the direction of your registry. At the very least, you will get a nice completion discount!
I just think drinking punch while trying to huddle around a computer screen is odd. Plus, besides the points of etiquette and the weirdness, as someone who lives far away from family, it would almost make me feel more alone, if that makes sense.
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Also- REALLY think about it. You're the guest of honor. But you're not there. You're in another state alone. Part of the fun of a shower is getting a chance to see the MTB. Doing it over a PC for a few minutes just doesn't count. 90% of the shower will involve a bunch of people mingling, eating, what have you - oh, and yeah, there is a PC over there if anyone wants to talk to you/ crowd around to watch you open gifts.
Awkward. On all fronts.
If your mom and sister want to do something nice for you, a MUCH better option would be to throw a "meet the baby" party the first time you have a chance to go to them.
If people want to send gifts they will. Have a get together the first time you are back in town with the baby.
This is the first grandbaby on both sides so I get that they are all excited and also sad we live far away (I am too). Truly I just feel cared for that they thought of trying to throw me one while I am not living near them.
Note that opening gifts is half the point of baby showers so this wouldn't go over well in all circles but for this very small (mostly family) party it worked. However the mom and dad to be were present to see people. I think at least mom has to be there in person for a shower to work.