This is why they say don't share names

kier23

Pix3lle said:

One of the names i had for a girl (evangelene) i changed to a different variant because a friend started saying she'd call her 'angie' or 'ange' and i realllyyy don't like that name/nickname for some reason.
It sucks but unfortunately people will just end up calling them whatever comes to mind first what nickname would you give him? If it's cuter the rest of the family might take to it! Screw your brother!

I love that name!!! It's my baby sisters lol but we call her by her initials which is ebs so we say ebsy, Blake ( which is her middle name) or "bambeam" as she would pronounce it

court476

My sons name is Michael Jene Dominic (he goes by Dominic) but my mom and her entire side of her family call him Meaux ( pronounced moe, were Cajun). I hate that name! But you have to get used to not being in control anymore. If you don't like it then simply don't call him that.

jesslfar

Harry is going to be a nickname a lot of people try with Harrison, I don't think you can avoid it. Pretty much whatever you name your child someone will come up with a nickname you hate and it is unavoidable, if Harry is really that bad for you I would change it, but seriously it might end up being a worse nickname. One of my children is named Abigail and we have several people in her life that have made up their own names for her like Abbadabba. I have no clue why people do this when there are other nicknames offered, but they all seem to.

galba08

I love that name and it sound like your brother is just aggravating you which is what brothers do. I wouldn't worry about it too much especially if everyone else uses the cute nickname Harris. His teasing of Harry will eventually fade away I would think.

LB10

I named my first son William. Right off everyone was saying he would be Will, or Willy, or (just to piss me off) Bill. Regardless of what everyone called him, I called him William. Once he became old enough to have his own opinion, he would very vocally remind people that his name was William, not will, bill or anything else. He was very proud of his name. There's nothing you can do about what people want to call your son, (my husband kept insisting on Bill despite my vocal protests). You call him what you want and one day, Harrison will choose for himself.

becarue

I say it's your baby if you like the name then name him what you want... But I do agree that someone down the road will most likely call him Harry just make sure you call him Harrison and when you say his name he will also tell people that his name is Harrison not Harry. Good luck my the way Harrison Parker is adorable

kinseykinz

Well honestly, I hope this makes you laugh more than get upset/pity me, but a story from my first pregnancy/naming of our first child.  (Really, I even thought it funny WHEN it happened, so its cool you can laugh). 

Things you need to know :

My Grandmother is very loving, I am her only grand-daughter, my mother is her only daughter...but my Grandma is also very blunt, and has lived a tough life. 

My husband and I wanted to name our daughter something traditional, but not over-used.  Something that sounded modern and could be flexible (he and I both have names that are gender-neutral AND that are non-nickname-able) My husband is also named after his grandfather. 

We ONLY decided to tell people the baby's name once she was born.  So this meant we told people from the delivery room, moments basically after she was born. 

Isadora is my Maternal Grandmother's Mother's name.  Olivia is a variant of Olive which was my Paternal Grandmother's Mother's Middle name.  Basically, both of these names came from 2 of my great-grandmothers. 

So, we called my Mom first.  We told her, Isadora Olivia is here.  She was like awe that's so sweet...you should call Mom (my grandma) and tell her yourself.  All happy and proud of the name choice...especially the first name. 

Now again, I'm still IN the delivery room.  I actually haven't even held my daughter since they cleaned her up yet (she layed on my chest after birth, but I hadn't officially cuddled her yet...I wanted to let my hubby do it first b/c well, I already got to hold her/know her for 9 months, this was his first meeting and I thought it could be his 'special' Daddy held you first).  The doctor (a midwife delivered her) still had yet to come in to stitch me up (I tore bad enough the midwife wasn't able to do the stitching...but 1st time Mommy's don't think about that too much )   My point, I'm still pretty gooey and juuuuuuust squeezed out my little melon, when I call my Grandma. 

I call:
Me: Grandma she's here and healthy.  Her name is Isadora Olivia. 
silence.
Grandma: after long silence. That's a HORRIBLE name.  Why would you name her that? My mother hated her name.  Kids will make fun of her.  (after this I kinda stopped listening..but she went on lol...I'm use to her and while I didnt' expect this response...It wasn't outside the scope of my Grandma). 
Me: Grandma, we're not gonna call her 'Dora' unless she want's to be called that.  We're calling her Izzy.  But we named her this because we like it, and she'll blend right in with all the Isabella's running around.  He name will sound totally normal, old lady names are back.  And if she does hate it, and wants to be called Olivia, or 'Liv, that's fine too.  But we think she'll like the name...and that the name fits.  But Grandma,  I have to go now, the Dr's here, love you, bye. 

I guess, she then immediately called my Mom.  Because like 20-30 minutes later, my phone rang again.  It was Mom. 

Mom:  Are you okay?  I didn't know she'd do that.  I am so sorry.  Are you okay?
Me: Laughing, Mom, that's just how she is... she doesn't know.  She doesn't even know how rude that was...or how funny I find this.  It's fine, and she'll get use to it.  She doesn't even hate the name, she thinks her Mom did so the baby will too, but the baby is going to grow up in a land of Isabella's and Izzy's and Bella's.  And 'Dora' is a cartoon. This name will sound normal to her generation. 

Almost 5 years later I still giggle about this (the whole thing).  And 5 years later:

Miss Isadora Olivia:
1. LOVES her name.  She ALWAYS introduces herself to people with her full name.  She's that proud of it.
2. I explained to her when she started Pre-K this fall 'your teacher and friends will call you whatever you want to be called'  so if you want to be Izzy, tell your teacher that...or Dora, or whatever really.  Kiddo goes 'I want to be Isadora' so all her teachers and friends call her Isadora (her friends have started doing Dora at times which she also adores).  Actually only family call her Izzy now. 
3. Grandma is still around, still loves us and adjusted to the name...also now that she hears what other names girls my kids age has, and sees that Izzy actually likes her name, she's totally chill about it. 
-Although this DID prompt my Mom to say point blank to me and hubby when we told her we were expecting 'is William even a potential name option if it's a boy...because if so, I need to start talking my Mother down from her tree now'  (William is my father-in law's name...but also a strong male heir name on my mother's side....Great-greatgrandfather down to little cousin...all Billy's). 
Which also made me laugh... because it is, and because it'd would totally freak my Grandma out. 


My point:  You have your reasons for choosing a name.  I don't think anyone chooses their child's name lightly.  And even people who you might be honoring might go compete schmuck when told the name.  But bring your sense of humor because most times, the person judging is totally wrong/misguided/just taken aback initially. 

PS:  even though we're expecting a boy....part of me reaaaaaaallly wants to call her and tell her we named him Joan.  You know, for funzies.  (her name). 

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karboss

GrailSeeker14 said:

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I just read the entire post. Wow. That was long. I even went back up to see who posted. I'll never get those 4 minutes back.

SeekingSmall

canadianttc1st said:

We named our son garrett and I absolutely hate the nickname Gary or gar. We have never called him either and neither have our friends or family. I wouldn't change the name just be firm when he arrives about the nickname. People will call him what you call him

My husband is Garret and when I want to drive him nuts I call him Rhett! (Gary would get me shot!)

SeekingSmall

My rule for names personally is that they have to be able to have a nickname (in case they hate their name like I did....I just legally changed it at. 30) and we have to like all possible nicknames (within reason), because chances are they will go by it at some point. So our Eleanor is often Nora (I call her Eleanor most of the time and she likes both), and these twin girls have older names with several possible nicknames we like.

In the end, it's your kid. But prep for the chance he'll like the name Harry and you only have a say for so long.

ashtxley

Ignore him. My brother is the same way. They will find any excuse to poke fun with any name.