April 2015 Moms

Prayers Please

I just found out that my boyfriend has been doing/dealing drugs behind my back. I almost had a panic attack when I found out. We know that isn't good for me or the baby... I could use some prayers please. Thank you so much.
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  • Wow. That's awful. So sorry. Is this out of nowhere or is he a drug user? I would get away as fast as I could.
  • This is out of nowhere. We've been dating for a year & I had no idea. I wouldn't even know what to look for honestly. I don't even know what drugs look like. I found out from his phone. I'm still living at my parents house & he's not welcome here anymore.
  • JJBodenJJBoden member
    edited January 2015
    I'm so sorry. Glad you're able to stay with your parents.
  • Yikes! So sorry you're dealing with this. That's no life for your baby, that's for sure. He needs to clean up or get out.
  • What did you think he did for a living?

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  • Yeesh sorry Hun. I don't think you will be able to change that behaviour though. I'd end the relationship.
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  • Call the police and anonymously report him. Perhaps once arrested he will hit rock bottom and seek treatment for his problem. :heart:
  • Glad you are safe with your parents. Best of luck to you. I hope he can get clean and away from danger and legal problems.
  • Glad that you are somewhere safe! I hope that everything gets worked out. Focus on you and that little baby and keep both of you safe!
  • Oh my. I am so glad to hear you are somewhere safe for you and your LO. I'll be sending thoughts and prayers for strength your way. I can't imagine how you're feeling, but I'm with PP's that this would be an automatic deal breaker for me.
  • So sorry to hear this. My best friend just left her boyfriend of 8 years who was dealing (she knew but chose to look the other way), her final straw happened when the police pulled him over with her in the car and almost took them both to jail because of the amount he had on them. Stay strong. It's hard to do but the best for everyone!
  • I'm so sorry you are going through this. T&P to you and baby. So glad that you are being so strong through this and that you have such good support from your friends and family.
  • What a dreadful thing to have to deal with. I'm so sorry. But super glad to hear you're taking a stand and putting yourself and your baby first. You should be proud of yourself for that. Wishing you strength.
  • I'm sorry you're going through this. But I'm glad you have your parents and a good head on your shoulders! That's gotta be tough, but you're already an awesome mom for thinking of what's best for your baby.
  • I'm sorry hon.  That must've been a shock.  I'm glad you're staying with your folks already because that makes things easier.  Unfortunately I think this is (or at least should be) a deal-breaker.  Whether or not you report him is up to you, but I'm sure you wouldn't want your child in that kind of atmosphere.  Stay strong and do the right thing.
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  • Glad to hear you and LO are safe. So sorry you are dealing with this. It must be quite a shock!
  • Wowzers, this is no good. You certainly don't need to subject yourself to dangerous behavior while pregnant and you really don't need to subject your child to it either. I'm glad you're safe with your parents and I hope he gets the help he needs, if not for himself, for his child. 
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  • I'm glad you're seeing this as a deal breaker and keeping yourself and baby safe. You rock, mama!
  • I am so sorry, lady. I have been going through a similar situation and understand how stressful it can be. I'm so glad to hear you have the support of your family and church family as that is what has helped me through my situation. It is a tough situation to be in and I've learned the hard way that we all need support in situations like this. My thoughts, prayers, and strength go out to you. 
  • I'm so sorry you're going through this but sounds like you have a great support system and you are making awesome and strong decisions for you and your LO. Bravo! Stay strong! I'll be praying for you.




  • I agree with others who are impressed by your strength during this difficult time. Good for you for taking care of you and your baby. I'm glad you have a support system to lean on.
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  • I've been sober in AA for a little over 7 years. I truly know what it's like unfortunately you have to pull yourself away from him. Enabling him won't help him at all- you need to keep your child and you safe #1. Like previous posters said he has to reach his bottom. I am not sure where u are located but there are alanon meetings world wide which helps ppl deal with this and there is good support and ppl to talk to - were I live in Massachusetts we also have meetings called learn to cope I think that's only a new thing around here tho... Let me know if you have any Q's too. I can only imagine how hard this is for u - Thank God you have your family!!
  • jessc0616jessc0616 member
    edited January 2015
    Sorry you're going through this. First and for most you and the baby are most important. You do not want a baby brought up in that lifestyle. If he's hiding drug use and dealing, what else is he hiding. Get out now for the the sake of your baby.
  • I'm sorry your going through this! Glad to here you have someone to tell and your baby and yourself are safe. Thinking of you. I can't even imagine what your going through. Hugs.
  • You are an amazing mom. Hang in there.
  • drotha01 said:

    You are an amazing mom. Hang in there.

    Totally made me just burst into to tears! You said something so simple, yet it meant so much. Thank you.
  • Seconding all the PP-- your baby is so lucky to have such a strong and sensible mama!
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  • kohlsmommie22kohlsmommie22 member
    edited January 2015
    That really really sucks. I'm sorry you have to go through this. But its lucky you found out now and not later on when you and your baby could have been living with and depending on him. Hang in there, you'll get through!
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