How to not feel like a jerk?

Gina070605

Does anyone else feel like a selfish jerk when get hurt feelers when they see others pregnant? I am so grateful for my two amazing little people, but I can't help to feel sad and jealous of other people when they get pregnant.

There were 3 newly pregnant friends at the NYE party we were at. All with their first babies. I was SO happy for them, but the next day I had some shitty thoughts about "why can't it be me". It made me feel bad, because I have two already, why do I feel such a strong urge to have another?

Anyone else ever feel like this?

emsmama15

Completely normal! I do the same. And feel guilty.

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roselynnerm

Happens to me, as well. We just got back from vacation and will have to/want to go meet our new baby nephew. I have such mixed feelings and I'm scared I won't be able to hide any sadness.

PurplePanda2

I am afraid I feel the same way as well and also feel guilty about not being 100% happy when I hear about others getting a BFP. 

Greco1014

I feel the same way. I know it annoys DH when I have that reaction, but I can't help it.

Katelobster

It happens to me too. I am usually OK with people announcing their first pregnancy or baby because I can still get into squee-ing about being a FTM and talking about birth and baby gear. But I can't help but compare myself to and be jealous of moms have #2 or more.

On my BMB-turned-FB group from my daughter, I had a good friend that I chatted with all the time. She and I started TTC #2 at the same time and were all "OMG we will be TTC buddies and pregnant together!". She got pregnant the second month and is due in a few weeks. I feel horrible, but I had to basically stop talking to her because it just hurt too much to have to squee about her pregnancy and be sad about the prospect of splitting her attention between her daughter and the new baby.

I hate feeling this way.