Hi ladies! I have been lurking here a bit and on a few occasions have even expressed that as we are drawing closer to the arrival of baby #2, we are juggling the idea of me leaving my full time job to be a SAHM.
I am wondering from those of you that do this already, what would be some things to put on my list of "things to look at" or areas where I need to weigh the pros & cons in making sure that we choose what works best for our family. I have done plenty of it in my head but being new to the idea, I want to make sure we are covering all important bases before jumping head first one way or the other!
Thanks!!!
Re: Pros & Cons
I work in the human service field. One downside is knowing how flexible my current job is-I am salary and have an awesome boss that is very understanding when things come up that could require time away from work-although I couldn't work part time or from home once baby arrives- & I wouldn't get back into this position specifically unless they had an opening but the human service provider field in general (which there are quite a few positions for in my area) wouldn't be hard to get back into.
Definitely something I've considered with it. With my degree though, I would not feel too worried about finding a job again down the road once all little ones were in school.
Being a sahm has been great, being able to be with my DD as she grows, watching her change and experience the world ...i'm unable to put words to it as far as how great it is!
But, with that said, it gets lonely, we dont have family or friends here, the closest is 2.5hrs away. I do get lonely and crave some adult conversation, but thats where my phone comes into play. I thought when i started this "oh yeah, i'll clean everyday, cook dinner for my hubs and take care of DD no problem"....yeah it doesn't work like that at all - DD gets all the attention! If you have a support system in place it would probably be pretty great, but without one, you might just have to try it and see if its for you or not.
Every pipe dream about SAHM - such as "the house will be clean..." .. "Dinner will be served at 6 every night and be nutritionally balanced.." .. "I'll have so much free time" ... Get those thoughts out of your head now! The likelihood of those becoming reality is right next to Unicorns being real - oh wait -technically- ANYWAY...
As PP have mentioned, you're at your "Job" 24/7 - and it can get very lonely, isolating, and unless you invest into having a PT DCP, will often feel like you never get a break! Our PT DCP is the best money we spend. Finances are another challenge because being a SAHM doesn't have a formal monetary value it can be a learning experience to divide up the finances, budget, and also "fun money" (i.e. money that you each don't have to be accountable for). And related to finances - what happens if your partner loses their job, can you financially survive for 6 months without an income. Also, are you prepared in case something happens like the heater/AC goes out, transmission on the car, unexpected medical bills, etc. Those are often the things people don't think about beforehand. Also, what are your professional prospects should you decide to SAHM and 6mo later discover this really isn't the right choice for your family. Those are the types of questions/realities only you/YH can answer.