What are your goals?

cagoldi

We've been talking a lot lately about what we want to work on in the coming year. Not resolutions per se, just things that we've decided we want to pay more attention to be it finances, personal relationships, fitness, professionally, whatever.
What's on your mind?

Pete and I both need to start working out again. If I'm honest, I know I am not going to the gym during the week. I don't want to take A to gym daycare when he's been away from home all day, and I want to see Pete when he gets here instead of running out the door. We're going to buy a treadclimber or something we'll both want to use so we can exercise at home.

I love cooking but haven't found much time to do it. I make food for A but our meals haven't been very exciting. Plan is to try at least one new recipe each week. I want to say I'll lose weight also, but really I just will work on finding a way to squeeze in some workouts and eat a little better, and that's progress I'll be happy with for now.

We have to find a way to manage the house better. It's small and cluttered. We always go on purging/cleaning kicks but don't do a great job of keeping it up, and we need to make sure to do that.

So tell me, what will you focus on in 2015?

cagoldi

Legit LOL at flossing @shanbp. You want to know how I cheat? Before my teeth cleaning I use my Sonicare like, 5 times in a 24 hour period. The dentist always says I have very little plaque.

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I want to stop saying negitive things about my body, intelligence, and mental health. I also want to sleep better and meditate more.

@cagoldi Do you like making freezers meals and meal planning? Every Saturday I meal plan and make two or three freezers meals for the week. It's nice to be able to pull something out of the freezer and maybe make a quick salad or something to go with it. That way we can have healthy homemade meals even on busy days. That's also when I try new recipies and make breakfasts and snacks for the week.

cagoldi

@guiltypleasures‌ I love it. That's something I've always liked to do, but it was hard to find time since A's arrival. I'm good about planning and cooking his meals, but need to get back to doing it for Pete and I also.

gwenneh

We had the "goals" talk a few days ago.

We need to rebuild our savings. We decimated it buying a house, and then sold that house at a loss because we moved back to London and being an absentee landlady sucked. We've lived beyond our means, for both legitimate and stupid reasons, and the savings is getting dangerously low. So the first goal is to rebuild that comfortable cushion and clear off some of the debt we've racked up -- to do that, I'm going back to a "proper" job next week and we're living more frugally. The worst is over - I've had to put riding aside for now, which was a really painful decision - so now I just want to get on with it.

I need to work on my fitness. I'm in a better place than I was last year -- I haven't lost weight but I've gained stamina and muscle, which is fine in my book. I've started going to a personal trainer twice a week, plus I train with the roller derby team a few hours a week. This year, my goal is to be able to use my body effectively to play the sport, even if my body insists on staying this weight. I'm severely insulin resistant so weight loss has always been a battle for me. I've decided to stop fighting that one and working on the strength aspect of it -- I don't care what I weigh as long as I can play the sport I love.

We're also putting things in place for buying another house, and for moving back to the US. I'm not sure how I feel about the first (hated property ownership) and DH isn't sure how he feels about the second. We need to pare down the amount of "stuff" we own (we have storage units in two countries, FFS) and by "we" I mean DH.

@cagoldi have you checked out $5 Meal Plan? I use it, it's really helped me get my shit together when it comes to menu planning, trying new recipes, and buying frugally.

VegasGal1978

Love this thread! Love tits all around!

As always, I want to focus on eating better and moving more. The gym is not a likely outlet because I don't want to be away from the house more than I already am, so I need to be creative.

We need to secure. Regular babysitter. DH and I need to get out as a couple more often.

I'd like to ditch the phones more often when we are out as a family. I don't want B to grow up thinking that she needs to have an iPhone. I want her to see us being completely focused on the people we are physically with. We already have a standard no phones at the dinner table, but I think we should consider extending that to family time.

fitmama418

@shanbp YES TO FLOSSING! That is one of my resolutions every year. Then I'm on my game until April and...merp.

Ok, here are mine. Thank you for starting this, @cagoldi!

I'm going to work on me through therapy. I let myself get bogged down in the responsibilities of marriage, motherhood, work, fitness, and it stresses me out to the point where I'm not a pleasant wife at times. Therapy is my #1 goal/work-on item for 2015 because it'll help me and ultimately my relationship with DH which is great, but admittedly has its moments of darkness.

#2 is fitness. I've only lost 3lbs this whole year. If I had worked harder and stayed consistent with my gym routine, I'm confident that 3 could have been at LEAST a 10-15. By this summer, I want to be 10lbs lighter. We're hoping to TTC come August/September and I want to really keep an eye on my pregnancy weight gain this go-around and to help that, I need to start pregnancy #2 the same place I started pregnancy #1.

#3 is decrease bad debt and add more to our savings then we currently do.

#4 is to finally finish decorating our house so it finally feels like a home. It gets there slowly and surely each day but before we have another kid, this needs to happen. We brought Phia home to a place that was just 4 walls and a roof and being a parent while making that space comfortable is tough as shit.

Karadee1

@fitmama418‌ therapy changed my life. I have suffered anxiety/depression my entire life, and sought therapy in my early 20s. I went through many years of off and on treatments, until I went to someone who did cognitive behavioral therapy (which is exactly what I needed) and it changed my life.

Therapy is such a great goal!!

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Love this!! Like many others I want to work on my relationship with DH. There has definitely been a lot more arguing and nasty things being said since Jase was born. I expected it to an extent but I have to get my sharp tongue under control. We will probably TTC at some point this year but I also need to get right with either being a stay at home mom or going back to work...I have been really resentful of staying home lately. At the time it felt like I had no choice. MH worked nights and I was doing double duty 4 nights a week. Jase and I were sick all the time from exhaustion and daycare germs and I had to use all my PTO for sick days. It was just miserable. Now DH has a normal schedule and I'm itching to earn money again. I struggle with feeling like I have no worth without making a living (thanks to my parents issues around this growing up) DH supports either way but I have to make a decision and I can't let guilt be my guide anymore....I also want to get back to going to church more regularly. Maybe it will help with some of these other issues...
On a separate note I am extremely thankful for having all of you this past year. Although my participation can be spotty I truly value all of you. And even when I am not love titting or commenting I think about all of you and your LO's often. I hope all of N'13 is able to attain their new year goals and make 2015 even better than 2013 was for all of us! Xo

rbtrumpet

I feel like I'm just ditto-ing everyone else.  

DH and I are officially trying for #2 now!  

And working on our relationship (it's in a good place, but babies do take their toll).  And working out, eating better, all that jazz....

Kfran84

We are getting some projects done around the house. We were recently checking out some houses are the market, and decided we love our house for many reasons. I need to add some furniture pieces to help keep us organized better, which is so tricky because we have very different styles. 

MH would prefer a house that no one lives in. He has no thoughts for organization or storage solutions. He'll show me photos on Houzz that he likes and I'm like, Yes, but where does all their stuff go? I also struggle with picking things out because it's "his money" so I want/need his approval. I don't feel like I live in my house and that's a weird way to feel. 

Also, we will be doing a big backyard overhaul, which we generally agree on, so that will be fun. 

mskatiep

I had a massive list that I wrote a few days ago, but just a few of the highlights:

I want to improve my morning/evening routine so that things at home run a little more smoothly

I want to improve my health and fitness as well as lose some weight, but mostly my body doesn't feel strong anymore, and I miss it.

I need to make some mom friends. All of my friends are 2 hours + away from me (or on the computer) and I need some IRL female companionship. This place is hard because it is so military and since we are not, there isn't an easy way to connect with people.... plus working blows ass for mommy groups.

Also we need to bulk up our savings and emergency fund. But I NEED a new car, so it will suck to pick up a car payment again.

I need to start volunteering or doing something that I am interested in besides work. I feel like I am becoming a very boring person, and I don't like it.

Finally, Tim and I need to start having sex more often. We are not fighting, we are not nasty to each other, but I do not feel connected to him when we are not having regular sex. It is like we are really good friends that are roommates - but I still have to cook for him... that's not enough for me.

Kim22

Right now I need to get my house painted and get some blinds and decorate. After that I need something to do (because working and 3 kids isn't enough). In the past 10 years I got my masters, bought a house, got married, had three kids, and rebuilt my house. I don't know how to not have something big going on in my life. It's either find a hobby or have another baby.

TJHine

Get more active again, and plan healthier meals for me and T - I used to love cooking and I want to get back there.

Stop complaining about my family to others and start focusing on their good qualities.

Be more positive in general.

Learn how to control my anger especially when tired.

cagoldi

I don't like all the ones that say spend less time on the phone/computer. What about TB?! Don't leave me!

I am going to take more baths. Nice, long, hot baths where I luxuriate with a glass of wine, candle, and a good book.

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My goals:

Take a cooking class
Meet @kellykinns and @Sing2phins‌
Listen to music every day
Have more sex
Build a house!!!

thelastunicornxo

I need to work on my temper with my Dh. When I  get upset I tend to fight dirty and throw out low blows that I totally don't mean, and I know I would be devastated if he did that to me. I'm trying to get better about walking away until I calm down and then coming back to talk about the issue. He's really an amazing husband, so hands on with the kids, and he works so hard... and sometimes i feel like I don't know why he even put up with me!

I"m going to try and be more patient with the kids too. Overall, I think I'm pretty good in this respect, but with three boys under 5 there are moments I feel like I'm going to lose my shit, and really they are just being rambunctious boys. I want to try and see the good in these moments instead of getting frustrated with them.

I need to get back on track with the gym. I'm a pretty big gym rat, I usually go 5 days a week, and I worked my ass of this year to get back under my pre-preggo weight from my first kid. But then the holidays came and I've been going super sporadically and eating all the treats and drinking all the drinks. I've gained 5 pounds and I"m not happy about it. Also, why is it so freaking easy to gain 5 lbs but it'll take me a month to lose it? Not fair.

I need to work on being a better friend. I have a big group of friends and sorority sisters here and I get so wrapped up in family stuff that I tend to turn down invitations to do stuff. I don't want to lose these friendship and I need to realize it's ok for me to go off on my own once in  awhile!

Great thread, by the way. I like seeing what everyone else posted and it really made me sit down and think about what I want to do this year!

thelastunicornxo

@LizB8943‌ aw, thank you! Glad to be back!!

cagoldi

CFox815 said:

Also, I am surprised at all you non-flossers. I floss at least once a day, sometimes more. Isn't food stuck between your teeth if you don't?

I floss, just not often, but I don't have a problem with food stuck between my teeth because of that glorious Sonicare.

AlisonM12

This is a great thread! Even if no one reads this it helps me to type it out so here goes:

 - Loose the rest of my pregnancy weight (about 15 lbs). I am doing this by tracking my calories each day. I'm still trying to figure out what kind of exercise I want to do and how to fit it into my life....to be continued...

- Finish paying off our student loan debt and build back up our emergency fund of 3 - 6 months expenses. I am doing this by continuing to follow our budget and living below our means.

- Having more date nights with DH. We already have one planned for this month!