Just want to rant for a minute

waterbaby318

Well I went in today for a hysterescopy but didn't end up having it because it looks like I already o'd. So, my husband and I had a short check-in with the RE instead so I could ask a bunch of questions.  We talked some about my extremely low AMH (.022) and he said AMH that low at my age is a good indicator that I will go into early menopause and that there are really no options for IVF because the success rate is really low with low AMH. 

HOWEVER, he also said that because my AMH was taken right after coming off of BCP, it would be worth it to retest because that can sometimes artificially lower it.  So, I'm going back in a week to take a blood test to both confirm (hopefully) ovulation and get AMH retested. 

Of course, I'm stuck on the stupid, horrible AMH and not on the tiny hope that it was low due to BCP.  I think I'm scared to think there's a chance my AMH could be higher and then have my hopes dashed if it's not the case.  My sister is 2 years older than me and has an AMH almost as low as me so I'm worried that it's genetics and that's the actual number.

I'm pissed that our bodies want to force us to have babies in our 20s. ~X(

I just wanted to get this off my chest because I've been stewing on it all day. 

thirtyninetoforty

I'm pissed off too! Why can men make babies forever and women are put on clocks!? I wasn't ready in my 20s or well into my 30s.
I've seen women with low AMH get pregnant so think positive!!!!

waterbaby318

Thanks! I wasn't ready before either. It just wasn't time!!!

Nikolie93

Damn, I'm sorry. I have my FX that the low number right now is from the BCP

wannabmama23

Mostly chiming in to lament our bodies' timelines--so unfair! And my DH is 31, so he has no concept of the urgency at all...
Hoping for better numbers and/or other good news for you @waterbaby318‌

waterbaby318

My husband is 3 years younger than me and he's in no hurry! Of course his SA was stellar. Dammit!!!

vh2014

Having high fsh that might have been for the same reason, I am with you. FX is bcp. I was also bitter that my body with the time clock was the one that had to adjust from bcp. They need to make bcp for men and it be popular since they don't have a clock. Vent away, thinking positive for you!

waterbaby318

I'm going with this... https://sciencenordic.com/birth-control-pills-halve-size-women%E2%80%99s-ovaries .  

FX for lots of nice juicy eggs next time I test.

CML11

Ugh it makes me crazy to think about this too. I felt too immature in my 20s, why weren't my ovaries too immature too? Lol I had so much I wanted to do and places to travel to. I feel like I'm paying for enjoying my 20s/30s and not finding MH sooner.

kindershlitz

It totally sucks. There's no way I could have had a child ten years ago. Meanwhile, dh's numbers are super. Yea for him we were born on the exact same day.

waterbaby318

I read some quote recently that says women these days are terrified of getting pregnant until they are terrified they can't.  

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meredithcarole

I am sorry. I hope the testing comes back with positive news.

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sonpetitlapin

I really hope the low numbers are in relation to the BCP!!! FX

Davie813

I'm so sorry.  And add me to the "babies in my 20s (or early 30s)=really bad idea" crowd.  FX for better numbers with your re-test!

Teenie16

I'm in the same boat with you ladies, there was no way I was ready to take care of a little human when I was younger.
I hope it's the BCP and you new tests come back with much better numbers

waterbaby318

Thanks all, went and got blood work done this morning. FX.

dolphin012

I am sorry. It is very frustrating.  Hope you get some more positive results in your next labs. 

Our bodies need to evolve faster to catch up to a society where it can be challenging and not always advantageous to have kids on the earlier side anymore. 

KirstenAlecia

Yes.....Im going to agree.....our bodies suck! 

I also am pretty pissed at H of waiting SO DAMN LONG to marry me. We were together when i was 27 and he waited till I was 34 to marry me and would not think about having kids till he was married and didn't even want to think about marriage till he was ready.....why did it take him so long to be effing ready?? 

I was patient thats for sure......i wasn't angry about all this till I realized how it has potentially affected our (MY) fertility. At one point I did almost leave him....and the reason I gave him was I wanted another child. Ii was aware of the biological clock but by reasons were more on the I don't want to be an older mother....i was naive in thinking that having 1 child already meant I would definitely be fertile still....so dumb I was. This board and site has educated me for sure. 

peregrinefalconx

Hi!

I just wanted to let you know, and if your doc didn't let you know (which is uncool), the jury is NOT out on AMH scores. In conjunction with FSH and estrodial (sp?), it can mean PCOS, but if your FSH is normal, having low AMH is not a death sentence. If you go under TTCAL, at the very, very top of the page, there is a blog link that talks more about it. My first RE told me that I could/could not have a healthy pregnancy but that IVF wouldn't work and to use a DE. My 2nd opinion told me that my low AMH didn't mean much of anything. (I've gotten P before though, but no babies ) They used to think AMH meant something, then nothing, and they are back to something again.

So don't throw in the towel yet. I'm not sure what your history is or what you have/have not tried, but don't let that one number dictate how you feel. It can take some time to process it, but I choose to believe that I (and you) have the golden egg in there!

waterbaby318

peregrinefalconx Thanks for the info! I don't feel defeated just yet as we are just practically starting out and won't start medicated cycle until next time. 

I got my updated AMH number and it's more than doubled to.... wait for it.... .05!!!  I couldn't help laughing when the nurse told me. I mean, more than double is still a whole lot of nothing. But! There's still hope.