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soontobemomof6soontobemomof6 member
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hi, I'm new to the pregnant after loss board. I have 3 year old identical boy twins and my 10 day old baby girl passed away this September due to birth defects (HLHS, cleft lip and palate, and deletion on chromosome 22). I quickly found myself pregnant again even though I had just come to terms with wanting to wait 6 months before trying again. So here I am. Right now my main concern is not wanting to tell anyone!!! I just want to live under a rock until this pregnancy is over and a hopefully healthy baby is in my arms. I'm currently 12 weeks and less than a handful of people know. But I'm starting to show so the gig is almost up and I'm dreading the word spreading. I know it may sound weird but I'm nervous to see people happy for me when they can't possibly understand how scary and hard this is. Just wanted to share and get advice if anyone has any. When did yall tell for next pregnancy after an infant loss.
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    MrsSnyder124MrsSnyder124 member
    I am so very for your loss . Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and that your fears lessen with time . I hope you find all of the support here that you need!

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    sandj918sandj918 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome :) I'm new too. 
    DH: 28 Me: 30~TTC #2 since June 2014
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    kate6214kate6214 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I would say share as you are comfortable. I still have not gone completely public with my current pregnancy and I'm halfway through. I have no experience with infant loss so I can even imagine if I woukd feel comfortable.

    BFP #1: 8/17/13     Due Date: 4/26/14      MMC discovered @ 9w 4d       D&C: 10/2/13
    BFP #2: 12/23/13       Due Date: 9/6/14      MMC discovered @ 8w 5d    D&C: 2/6/14
    BFP #3 8/26/14     Due Date: 5/7/15  

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    littlecookielittlecookie member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    You are not obligated to share or discuss your news until you're ready. Thinking of you.

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    mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    I'm so very sorry for the recent loss of your sweet daughter. 

    A very warm welcome and congratulations on this little one.  Take your time sharing your news- the right time will be when you feel ready.
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    CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    Welcome!  I'm so sorry for your loss.  My last loss was a stillbirth, and I find myself having similar feelings.  I wish I could just hide this pregnancy until I have a healthy baby in my arms.
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
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    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

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    dawnstar898dawnstar898 member
    Welcome and congratulations!  I am so sorry for your previous heartbreaking loss, (((hugs)))

    Me 34 DH 31, Together since 2003, Married August 20, 2011,  TTC since May 2013
    BFP #1 August 24, 2013! MMC discovered Oct. 3, 2013, D&C Oct. 4, 2013
    BFP #2 December 17, 2013! MMC discovered Jan. 28, 2014, D&C Jan. 30, 2014
    Testing done: male with complete Trisomy 16, not hereditary. Tested me for clotting disorders, all normal.
    Feb. 2014 all clear again to TTC!  Will start progesterone supplementation with the next BFP just in case.       Oct. 2014 more testing just because, thyroid and autoimmune panels = normal.  Diagnostic U/S = no abnormalities.  Will keep trying for 3-6 more months, doctor still optimistic!

    BFP #3 December 11, 2014!  Beta #1 14DPO = 122.4 Beta #2 17DPO = 296.8 Please stick little one and be our Rainbow!

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    pblgepblge member
    edited December 2014
    Welcome and congratulations!! I don't pretend to understand what infant loss is like, but I was very hesitant to share the news after my early miscarriages.
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    ***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'(  Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen.  => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! :) Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
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    asglover514asglover514 member
    *hugs* first of all, and congrats! I totally understand wanting to just live out your pregnancy under a rock. I simply wouldn't mention it unless it was necessary, most people won't ask as not to be rude and you can just go on until you're ready to share. 
    Stephanie Lynn 
    *BFP3:7/10/14 EDD: 3/19/15--Renley Alexander born 3/12/15!!*
    11/17/14-adopted a furbaby named Luna (born 9/05/14)
    BFP2: 11/25/11-Aaron Alexander born sleeping at 31 weeks on 05/31/12
    BFP1: 07/28/11-EDD:3/19/12, natural MC 09/12/11 at 12 wks-HB and growth stopped at 6wks
    S&A together since 05/14/11

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