Holidays make me feel bummed (baby fever) what about you?

bmo88

Just a vent. DH and I have agreed for financial and career decisions that we will wait at least two years before we TTC. For the most part, I have kept my baby fever at bay. But the holidays make it worse. Being around family and loved ones makes me want to have our own family even more. I love spending time with my family and relatives, but it makes me think of what it would be like to have our own child to share the holidays with in the future. Have you ever experienced this? How do you distract yourself?

nuggetRN

I feel your pain. I just left a family gathering where all our little nieces and nephews were there. We aren't TTC until the second half of next year and it just makes me want to start right away. DH and I would love to start a little family of our own. Our furbabies have kept us pretty content for the last couple years but we are ready for a furless baby now! Lol.

Sassenach1743

Yep. Right there with you. The holidays have certainly amplified my baby fever this year... also had a cousin announce her pregnancy Christmas day. Can't help feeling a bit envious. Oh well, our time will come but the waiting is hard.

Sauterne

OP Yes! surrounded by my cousins' and brother's kids (6 total) I was keeping my emotions in check. My oldest cousin by 2 years has three girls .... I have no kids. Hence. As I approach 31 years of age I'm trying to contain my ttc info and discussion to a minimum. I hand out gifts and promptly left when possible and had valid excuses, like I have to visit the in laws.

vmcarbone

YES the holidays were super hard this year. I was really hoping to be pregnant by now, so going through the motions the opposite way of what I had planned sucked.

allyld5

I am RIGHT there with you!  My husband and I just got married in October and we told ourselves we were going to wait a year before we TTC.  I had no baby fever at all our whole engagement and even the past couple of months we have been married.  Then the holidays started approaching and it hit me like a ton of bricks!  I think it partly has to do with the fact that we have been together overall for six years and I have always felt like I was meant to be a mother.  We know we need to wait until I have a full time job and we have more money and when we have a house.  

Well, since I got this little baby fever I have been EXTRA motivated to find a full time job and I am putting out applications left and right.  I'm discouraged because I haven't heard anything back yet but it is still sort of the holidays so trying to be patient.  Then my husband just tells me today he wants to just pay the amount to break our lease and find a house.  

If I get the job and we then get a house I'm wondering if we will start trying sooner...gosh it's so annoying having to wait on stupid money!  I'm with you though girl!

Kaelynn91

Well I'm currently waiting to TTC #3 so for me the holidays actually have the opposite affect. lol I get so busy and stressed during the holidays that it makes me second guess my timeline for beginning the TTC process. Does that make me a bad person? O.o

littlebirdie28

Boy oh boy do I feel your pain. DH and I have been married for 6 years. We're the only ones of the grandkids on his side who have gotten married (without a baby on the way) and waited to have a family (other cousins certainly rushed into baby-making). Because DH hit the big 3-0 back in June and I will be doing the same in about 2 months I felt like ALL eyes were on me at Christmas dinner this year. I'm not a big fan of wine, but I made sure to drink 2 big glasses of it in front of every relative just to avoid the question. It also didn't help that his 22-year-old cousin called in from far away to announce his new wife's pregnancy.

We definitely have BOTB and 2015 just might be the YOTB, but it gets hard around the holidays when you are a woman of a certain age married for as long as we have been. I have a mantra band with the word "patience" on it that I have to make myself stop and read fairly often!!

bmo88

littlebirdie28: Oh it can be the worst when people know you have been together for a long time! We have only been married 1 1/2 years, but we have been together for 11 1/2 years. So we get a lot of "what are you waiting for?!?!" comments. 

My mother's key line lately has been "you know I had 3 children by your age." I am only 26, so not that old, but clearly behind on the "baby making" according to her.

DontMakeMeAdult0903

My grandmother constantly reminds me that my eggs are going to dry up. Sigh. *reaches for another glass of wine*

littlebirdie28

@bmo88 @trice0903 #preach #truth

TexasGal24

I haven't even wanted or liked the idea of children (although DH and I have always said we wanted to have children *some day*) since I've been with my DH (7 years-married for a little over 2 years) but this past holiday season was a doozie. DH and I have talked about TTC starting Sept 2016; after he finishes school, gets a new job/transfers, we move back to the northeast, buy a house, save more etc. We have both felt BOTB recently and although we aren't TTC, we aren't NOT TTC ( no BC, some UPS; we sure have been playing with fire lately). This past holiday season was like baby fever for me so I hope that things will start to cool down soon. 

strickland8052

We are hoping to begin TTC in October 2015. The holidays were hard, because I kept thinking "This time next year, we could possibly have a big announcement for our family."  At the same time, I did enjoy some holiday drinks and soft cheeses, so I also kept thinking "Yeah, girl... you better get it while you can."

nath1120

Try having a pregnant sister in law due with her second at holiday dinners makes it so hard, there with you!

JBerry727

I was really hoping to have an announcement for our family this Christmas.  It really bummed me out that we didn't and still do not have anything to report.  It's okay, we will find another creative way to tell them.  At least I didn't go crazy when we stared trying ordering July baby onesies.