POST CHRISTMAS FFFC

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Something about Christmas piss you off? Let's hear it ladys! 

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I'm happy I'm estranged from a lot of my family. It makes me sad DS doesn't have a lot of family in his life, but he has the best people around in it. I will protect him no matter what.

pnwlover12

I can't get into the whole "elf" thing. I just like the word fuck too much.

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pnwlover12 said:

I can't get into the whole "elf" thing. I just like the word fuck too much.

:x me too! Although I am trying to cut back on all the "fucks" given

staryb

I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

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staryb said:

I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

I would hang the photo all year round anyway. Why wouldn't you?? I gave my IL's really nice photos of DD for Christmas and I would be PISSED if they took them down because they "look seasonal". 

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On the cuss words, DH and I are making a half assed attempt to cut them out. This was even more apparent when he dressed DS yesterday and proclaimed, "You are so FUCKING cute!"

Face palm. At least he doesn't know what we are saying right now.

AppleGrapeMSTK

I was drinking coffee on my bed with the baby in his bouncer on the floor and mobile bumping.  His binky fell out of his mouth and was on his chest and he couldn't get it back in. Rather than put something down to pop it back in, I shoved it back in with my foot.

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DH's friend has a 5 month old that's almost 22 lbs   :-O He's so faaaaat! I laugh so hard every time they put a picture of him on Facebook

Wino411

MRSclarke08 said:

I am totally taking advantage of my Mom's wanting to keep the baby at night.  We've been here a week and my Mom has kept the baby every night.  Sleep is awesome.  But I do miss my baby ad hope he's going to be a sleep unicorn for me like he's been for my Mom this week.  Either that or I'm bringing him back.

I cannot wait until my mom's here so I can take advantage! I need sleep ASAP! I'm praying somehow when she leaves I'm given back a sleeping unicorn. Please GOD! 

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FamousEa said:

DH's friend has a 5 month old that's almost 22 lbs   :-O He's so faaaaat! I laugh so hard every time they put a picture of him on Facebook

OMG! My DD was like that!! Lol I love me some fat babies This was DD2 at 5 months, she out grew her infant carrier car seat at 4 months

hahaha omg! Extra points for the picture. I swear they're eating cookies with their milk.

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staryb

MonstoMommy said:

My SIL tells people she is a vegetarian, but then she eats things like chicken wings and steak. So when she is at my house, I make things that appear vegetarian, but I slip in ingredients like bacon fat. She always thinks the food is delicious. I would never do this to someone who was really vegetarian, she just says she is to feel special.

I have friends that claim to be vegan but then eat things like chicken wings and cheese sometimes. I don't get why people do this.

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staryb said:

MonstoMommy said:

My SIL tells people she is a vegetarian, but then she eats things like chicken wings and steak. So when she is at my house, I make things that appear vegetarian, but I slip in ingredients like bacon fat. She always thinks the food is delicious. I would never do this to someone who was really vegetarian, she just says she is to feel special.

I have friends that claim to be vegan but then eat things like chicken wings and cheese sometimes. I don't get why people do this.

I'm also whatever I have to be when I don't want to eat something that doesn't look appetizing. Lol 

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I'm irrationally excited about being on a desktop again so I can GIF all day

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My other FFFC, for the last 90 minutes I've been watching a rerun of the BET Hip Hop awards and dancing with LO during the performances. He's getting a kick out of it and my legs hurt already.

Aurora1181

We got a bunch of presents for my twins - and I am so grateful for everyone's generosity- but every single item is a blinking, flashing, lights and sounds toy. And every time we see him my BIL insists on telling us to get the baby Einstein DVDs. I'm like.. They're 4 months old. Cant the tv and electronics wait just a little while longer? DH and I are very much into technology- he teaches technology classes even- but not at home.. At home we are more of the puzzles and books types. Is it rude to take back some of these toys? Or just take the batteries out?

golfingdarwinfish

MrsBabe614 said: staryb said: I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

I would hang the photo all year round anyway. Why wouldn't you?? I gave my IL's really nice photos of DD for Christmas and I would be PISSED if they took them down because they "look seasonal". 



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Agree.  Frankly when people complain about gifts it really rubs me the wrong way.  I made a wish list for S because my mother requested one, but MIL told me she did things her own way.  Fine, it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses.  If I don't want him to have those toys I will put them away or donate them.  There are ways to gently give direction on presents, but at the end of the day it truly is the thought that counts.  Their money, their choice.  As the recipient it's your choice what you do with the present once it's in your possession, but before that, relinquish control and let someone spend their money in a way that brings them joy.  It's not like she bought her weapons or something that you have to explain or take away after she saw it and became attached.

ETA: Sorry this is a soapbox of mine.

persephonerose

I hate this shirt my MIL got for K for Christmas. My DH is amazing when it comes to taking care of the kids so I am tempted to get some puffy paint and fix the shirt before I let her wear it.

It says. "It's simple... Im a princess, mommy's a queen." then in small print it says "daddy is... around here some where"

Why would you buy something like that. And its her son its bashing.

golfingdarwinfish

On the reading topic. I read to S often. We also have a ton of black and white board books with strategically placed color. You can actually watch his eyes scan the pictures, and he smiles at a large snail with pink accents and the green grass in the caterpillar pic. I don't hold him to do it; I show him the pictures while he's in his swing or laying on his mat.

I probably like it more than him and read into his reactions, but i enjoy it!

FFCF: he received infant physics and calculus books for Christmas, and I learned a lot from reading them last night.

persephonerose

Non-Christmas related FFFC. I thought of these last week and I know I wont remember if I dont post it.

I hate the movie Pulp Fiction. I hate it so much I walked out of the theater when we went to see it. Its the only time I've ever left a movie.

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victoria+james

golfingdarwinfish said:

MrsBabe614 said:

staryb said:

I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

I would hang the photo all year round anyway. Why wouldn't you?? I gave my IL's really nice photos of DD for Christmas and I would be PISSED if they took them down because they "look seasonal". 

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Agree.  Frankly when people complain about gifts it really rubs me the wrong way.  I made a wish list for S because my mother requested one, but MIL told me she did things her own way.  Fine, it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses.  If I don't want him to have those toys I will put them away or donate them.  There are ways to gently give direction on presents, but at the end of the day it truly is the thought that counts.  Their money, their choice.  As the recipient it's your choice what you do with the present once it's in your possession, but before that, relinquish control and let someone spend their money in a way that brings them joy.  It's not like she bought her weapons or something that you have to explain or take away after she saw it and became attached.

ETA: Sorry this is a soapbox of mine.

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I would agree with this except that more times than not I find that the gift giver gets all upset if you don't use the gift (or don't use it as much as they had hoped).

Them: "Oh, you aren't having Mason watch TV? But I got you that Ah-Mazing DVD collection with 10,000 hours of bonus footage too." *pouty face*

Me: "I'm sorry, but I found your gift of The Wiggles DVDs to not quite be age appropriate for my 3 month old and also they are extremely annoying so I burned them in a car fire."

Them: "..."

I always have wish lists and registries and always shop off of them as well. If you don't have one I will be providing a gift receipt because I would also be sad if my gift went unloved and unused. I'd much rather they have something they want.

golfingdarwinfish

dredford said:

Agree.  Frankly when people complain about gifts it really rubs me the wrong way.  I made a wish list for S because my mother requested one, but MIL told me she did things her own way.  Fine, it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses.  If I don't want him to have those toys I will put them away or donate them.  There are ways to gently give direction on presents, but at the end of the day it truly is the thought that counts.  Their money, their choice.  As the recipient it's your choice what you do with the present once it's in your possession, but before that, relinquish control and let someone spend their money in a way that brings them joy.  It's not like she bought her weapons or something that you have to explain or take away after she saw it and became attached.

ETA: Sorry this is a soapbox of mine.

I agree with you about being appreciative. I just don't like being gifted something with expectation strings attached or something that goes against our beliefs. Like you said, I should be able to do with it what I want once it's ours. It makes me uncomfortable when I'm asked about it later on or expected to use it for fear of the gifter being upset. Examples: my mom got E a snuggie suits with buckle holes so she could wear it in the car seat. She asked me if I had used it and I said no because of the safety and warranty reasons. I got the biggest eye roll/side eye from her and my sister. OR "Why hasn't baby worn that super cute outfit I got her?" OR DH and I are not religious at all. My family knows this. For my baby shower, my sister got me a big (20x20) sign in the colors of E's room that says "All of God's grace in one tiny face". It's super cute but, it was frustrating because she got something so personal expecting it to be hung in her room without A. asking if I was already finished decorating and had space for it (I was and I didn't) or B. Considering the whole religious thing. It's hanging in her room now because there was no way I could talk to her about this without being insulting.

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I guess I'm a bitch because I wouldn't hang it, and if I did to be kind I would hang it only when she was there and take it down upon her departure.  But, my siblings live far so it wouldn't be a hassle to do this because I know when they are coming and when they are going.

IMO expectations/strings from the gifter are the gifter's problem, and again, I'm a bitch because I would have no issue lying and telling them LO wore the outfit, or putting the outfit on him, taking a picture for them, and then never going near it again.  I'm also a bitch because I would be honest and say it's not my style, etc...

As for the safety comment, obviously you said the right thing, and the eye roll was completely BS.  I've noticed lots of generational eye rolls since we do things so "different" than they were done by our parents and their parents.  

Being gifted something against your belief's sucks, and I'd probably confront the giver about it at some point because that's about principle. 

victoria+james

S/O reading... I read to M all the time! Confession: I love kids books way more than adult books too. But, he loves to look at the pictures and he really likes books that rhyme. He also gets all smiley if I read them in character voices and read really expressively.

golfingdarwinfish

TicketTuesday said:

I feel so awful/cheap when someone gives me a nicer gift than I gave them. Example, we gave six packs of bottled root beer to a dozen of our neighborhood friends. The tag said "We wish you a merry Christmas and a happy Root Beer!" Just a simple cheesy little "neighbor" gift. The next day one of the families a couple houses down brought us a little bib set for baby O, a bunch of gourmet popcorn, and a big remote control car for DS1! I felt so dumb we didn't get their two little boys something too. Just... Root beer. :-<

@tickettuesday

Your family is so adorable I can't handle it.  You shouldn't feel guilty though, you thought of them, and that's really all that matters.

I didn't buy anything for any of my neighbors.  Or acknowledge them.  

:-?

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MonstoMommy said:

My SIL tells people she is a vegetarian, but then she eats things like chicken wings and steak. So when she is at my house, I make things that appear vegetarian, but I slip in ingredients like bacon fat. She always thinks the food is delicious. I would never do this to someone who was really vegetarian, she just says she is to feel special.

Love this. I'm a vegetarian but just eat around the pepperonis in the pasta salad. It's not anyone's job to cater to me when I'm the only one. But I definitely can't stand meat eating vegetarians or any vegetarians that get all pretentious or judgmental of others so I can definitely appreciate this.

victoria+james

bazingabee said:

On the gift topic: DS was gifted GIRL pajamas from GMIL - I thanked her and took them back (clearly).
DH's aunt gifted us a "house rules" sign with bible verses. Guess I should expect the people that decided to unpack my kitchen and bathroom when we moved in September to decide how we should decorate our house. (We don't really do the whole bible verses thing or I might hang this in the spare entry or something)

Just how girl were these girl pajamas? Like white with light flower embroidery that maybe could have been neutral if you didn't look closely or pink with lavender bows and a tutu?

ishknits

golfingdarwinfish said:

MrsBabe614 said:

staryb said:

I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

I would hang the photo all year round anyway. Why wouldn't you?? I gave my IL's really nice photos of DD for Christmas and I would be PISSED if they took them down because they "look seasonal". 

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Agree.  Frankly when people complain about gifts it really rubs me the wrong way.  I made a wish list for S because my mother requested one, but MIL told me she did things her own way.  Fine, it's her money and she can spend it however she chooses.  If I don't want him to have those toys I will put them away or donate them.  There are ways to gently give direction on presents, but at the end of the day it truly is the thought that counts.  Their money, their choice.  As the recipient it's your choice what you do with the present once it's in your possession, but before that, relinquish control and let someone spend their money in a way that brings them joy.  It's not like she bought her weapons or something that you have to explain or take away after she saw it and became attached.

ETA: Sorry this is a soapbox of mine.

Agree! Was gonna wait for another UO thread but yeah I don't really feel bad for anyone that complains when others offer them help or to watch the LO either. Sorry!

sec13

I'm dealing with jealousy issues between my mom and MIL. This being my DS first Christmas it's like they were in competition with one another about who could get him better more expensive stuff. When I was talking to each of them about what the other got him they would roll their eyes and act annoyed. Seriously? He is 2.5 months old he isn't gonna remember any of it and it's not about presents anyway. We've already told them we don't want them going crazy with stuff just be thankful he is here and healthy. It annoys the crap out of me

staryb

staryb said:

I'm annoyed by a lot of MIL's gifts for dd. She bought a lot of things before my shower and gave us some as shower gifts and hospital gifts and saved the rest for Christmas. A lot of it was 0-3 month clothes. DD is now 2.5 months old and will be lucky to wear some of this stuff for a few more weeks if at all. I'm extra annoyed because MIL had all of this stuff since before she was born and waited until now to give it to her. She also had a huge 24x30 canvas wrap print made for one of dd's Christmas pictures (MIL has her own portrait studio). It's absolutely gorgeous but it's extremely seasonal and it's HUGE. I feel so ungrateful for not being overjoyed by it but I wish she would have used one of our family portraits so that we could hang it all year. Between this and the 0-3 month clothes I think she wasted her money and she doesn't have a lot of money to waste so it irritates me even more. 

I would hang the photo all year round anyway. Why wouldn't you?? I gave my IL's really nice photos of DD for Christmas and I would be PISSED if they took them down because they "look seasonal". 

MIL actually intended it to be a seasonal decoration believe it or not. When we opened it she said something about it being a special memory to cherish each holiday season (Yes, she actually talks like that lol). It is her style to swap out pictures regularly whereas we like to hang things long term, especially if it's a good quality large canvas wrap like the one she gave us. I thought maybe I was overreacting about it being too seasonal to keep up all year but DH thought it would be weird to keep it up too. I also hate to see her spending a lot of money on us when I know she can't afford it. I know it makes her happy but I always feel kind of guilty about it. In any case, regardless of how ungrateful I may seem, I was very appreciative of her gifts and acted appropriately excited when I opened them. 

lrobi13

Late to the party.

I didn't buy lo a single Christmas present.

The only book I have read to him is "Go the Fuck to Sleep " which DH gave me for Christmas.
My Mil gave me a large canvas of me holding lo (current fb profile pic) and I'm just not comfortable having a large photo of myself hanging around. I'm more of a 5×7 type of girl.

slsl509

I prefer snaps for MOTN diaper changes.

We got clothes in all the wrong sizes/seasons for our kids and no gift receipts. I don't understand gifting clothes without a gift receipt. I would exchange them for the right sizes but I don't even know where they came from. DD is 2 and very average sized and got 2 things in 4T. Yes, she will be 4T but now I have to hang onto this stuff for 2 years until she fits into it. WTF? DS got fleece sleepers he will probably fit into just as summer is starting.

Yes, I am ungrateful. I would be thrilled to get books or a small token or NOTHING vs things we can't/won't use.

ariel06

It annoys me when people make a big deal about getting Christmas lists and then completely ignore them. MIL bought the baby clothes in 24 month size, my older two weren't in that size until age two and LO so far is running small than his brother. She also got DS1 books from scholastic book club. (She's a teacher.). It would have been a great gift if we didn't have all of them already. We'll probably just donate them to DS1's school since they're not returnable.